booster
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Post by booster on Apr 4, 2018 8:58:01 GMT
It's time I take the first leap, but there are so many different methods out there, so could someone recommend some basic techniques to learn and get started with? Once I've learned this technique I'm guessing I should go out and practice it, the thing is I want a nerdy type of girl and the best place to meet them is at conventions, the next one near me is next month, should I wait until then or just try and get a girl?
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Post by R.C on Apr 4, 2018 9:00:29 GMT
Read Models, by Mark Manson. Or get the audiobook.
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Post by N2thevoid on Apr 4, 2018 9:12:43 GMT
Women want the same thing we want. Love, connection and security. Most want you to win they are rooting for you.
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Post by booster on Apr 4, 2018 9:46:40 GMT
Women want the same thing we want. Love, connection and security. Most want you to win they are rooting for you. I don't think so. They want a high value guy and I need to demonstrate to them that I'm worth their time right? Unlike super attractive guys that can do it with just looks I need techniques and stuff.
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Post by ninjabib on Apr 4, 2018 11:28:56 GMT
I'm no expert but techniques won't keep a relationship if that is what you are after. They are good to break the ice and get a foot in the door.
Be a good strong man with confidence and a decent, busy life who won't stand for her nonsense. Make her feel secure and loved and you have it pretty much.
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Post by R.C on Apr 4, 2018 12:31:09 GMT
I don't think so. They want a high value guy and I need to demonstrate to them that I'm worth their time right? Unlike super attractive guys that can do it with just looks I need techniques and stuff. Yea, good looks will get you more leeway. But looking good isn't exclusive to those that have won the genetic lottery. n2's largely right. And so are you to a degree. You also want a high value female. The way in which men perceive value is different, but fundamentally the same principle. In any case, you need to be worth their time just as much as they need to be worth yours. That last part is something most guys tend to drastically overlook.
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Post by Heywood Jablowme on Apr 4, 2018 15:12:59 GMT
the thing is I want a nerdy type of girl and the best place to meet them is at conventions, the next one near me is next month, should I wait until then or just try and get a girl? You seem like a 'Big Bang' type. Are you practicing your flirting in your online game chatroom's getting social media accounts and DMing for numbers?
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booster
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Post by booster on Apr 4, 2018 19:23:35 GMT
the thing is I want a nerdy type of girl and the best place to meet them is at conventions, the next one near me is next month, should I wait until then or just try and get a girl? You seem like a 'Big Bang' type. Are you practicing your flirting in your online game chatroom's getting social media accounts and DMing for numbers? Should I be doing that? Or was that sarcasm?
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Post by Heywood Jablowme on Apr 4, 2018 19:57:12 GMT
Should I be doing that? Or was that sarcasm? Pussy sometimes [early on] is a little like exploring for oil. or panning for gold. It doesn't find you, you find it. You look in all areas of your life. If your life involves gaming chatroom's and Comic Con conventions, then by all the powers of Gray Skull look there too. Always be fun and flirty. A girl in skimpy spanks body paint, fake tits and blue hair is NOT to be shunned. In fact girls playing make believe can do anything they want.
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Post by N2thevoid on Apr 4, 2018 21:50:36 GMT
Women don’t get into cosplay for learn accounting.
They want to feel sexy. They will seek socially and culturally acceptable outlets to demonstrate that as being more overt about it carries costs most of them don’t want to risk incurring.
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Post by booster on Apr 5, 2018 1:00:37 GMT
Should I be doing that? Or was that sarcasm? Pussy sometimes [early on] is a little like exploring for oil. or panning for gold. It doesn't find you, you find it. You look in all areas of your life. If your life involves gaming chatroom's and Comic Con conventions, then by all the powers of Gray Skull look there too. Always be fun and flirty. A girl in skimpy spanks body paint, fake tits and blue hair is NOT to be shunned. In fact girls playing make believe can do anything they want. I hate to say it but my "online" game is pretty weak. In real life I can use my high energy and body language to get some attention, but I have no idea how to attract someone online. I saw this really great girl on Twitter the other night and she's been stuck in my mind ever since. You have any advice? Making friends through video games is easy enough, never really done any flirting though, I don't know how to turn this into attraction. Girls always tell me they find it creepy af when guys hit on them through games. Cosplay girls are usually hot but to me it's more about sharing a hobby rather than wanting to date a cosplayer, I'd even go for non-cosplay girls.
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Post by JackZero on Apr 5, 2018 2:29:47 GMT
After reading your introduction post, I'm figuring your problem isn't what type of girl you want. You are here to learn on how to be attractive while expressing attraction to women. Most guys first hurdle is to learn how to accept rejection. Like the girl you spoke of in your introduction to the forum, you small talked her instead of demonstrating attraction and you probably didn't express attraction because you wanted her to show that she liked you before risking rejection. It would probably help us more if you told us how the conversation went with that girl that you "ballsed up" to go and say hi to, although I'm pretty sure that I have a pretty good guess.
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Post by booster on Apr 5, 2018 20:31:02 GMT
That's pretty much spot on. With that girl I didn't really show attraction or say anything flirty so that may have been my mistake. I went up to her said hi and stuff, told her she looked cute, made some small talk and then shifted discussion to her hobbies and shows she watched. At the start she was smiling and stuff, by the end she was more interested in her phone and her body language was more closed.
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Post by JackZero on Apr 6, 2018 0:25:29 GMT
That's pretty much spot on. With that girl I didn't really show attraction or say anything flirty so that may have been my mistake. I went up to her said hi and stuff, told her she looked cute, made some small talk and then shifted discussion to her hobbies and shows she watched. At the start she was smiling and stuff, by the end she was more interested in her phone and her body language was more closed. Your issue here seems as if you went backwards. Opened her up, shown attraction and then sort of sputtered out while waiting for her to say that she approves. The fact that she was smiling, you should have taken that as your green light to extend on that attraction and one of those ways is that you could have done is tell her that you want to include yourself on the next time she did one of her hobbies or watched a show. It doesn't mean that you actually have to do those things but at that point you are actually saying that you want to see her again. If she indicates that joining her is something as positive, you can take her number and even better get her to go with you in your local vicinity right there and then after getting her number. The key is to keep the momentum going.
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Post by booster on Apr 6, 2018 20:32:11 GMT
That should really help. Thanks for the advice.
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