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Post by rocky on Apr 30, 2019 20:19:14 GMT
"She's always right" translates to "I could never be good enough for her". The distrust runs deep given what you'd discovered and there hasn't been any repair work. This stokes your jealousy because you're never quite sure if she's fully in the relationship. So when she's on this 'always right' stance (as you see it), you go on the defensive so as not to lose yourself. You've got a pretty unhealthy cycle going on. You can seek out an EFT therapist (or see me) but it'd entail both you and her motivated to get help. If left as is the relationship will dissolve. The sex stopped because she too feels unsafe, and can't feel vulnerable in the relationship. This will dry up most pussies unless the girl is a withdrawer and separate the physicality of sex from the emotional connection. We're going on 7months now and have a dog together now. I've confronted her about the lack of sex and she ended up revealing to me that she had a Urinary tract infection that it would come and go. She also wanted me to get a STD screening because I told her I never had one before, I did and I'm clean of anything. Tbh I thought that was weird to ask of me. And she too had taken a STD screening. Her reasoning was she always gets one once she gets in a new relationship. I kinda thought it was suspicious. She also revealed all the arguing that we've had has killed her desire to have sex and tbh it's killed mine. Even though, It sucks because I'm older and I feel as if I have a higher sex drive than she does. But, things have gotten slightly better, we have arguments here and there but not as bad as before and I've tryd working on my trust with her but this thing that bothers me the most is she has me for all my social media platforms(snap chat and Facebook) but she has all those other one like instagram and Twitter. I've never seen her profile or asked because I feel I might stumble across things like pictures of her that I won't be so happy about. I guess my question is, should I ask her to show me? Should I ask her to show me her messages? Is that going to far on my behalf? Should i make a Instagram? I recently had a outburst and I just told her everything. I told her who are you texting because she was on her phone laughing at something and I got jealous :/ and why haven't you ever showed these pictures of your photoshoot (she had a photoshoot a few months back) and she responded with that they never sent her the pictures, which sounds farfetch'd. Tbh im ashamed of Myself for loosing my composure, I was sick with the flu and hangry but that's no excuse. She ended up crying up a storm and it was a mess.. Well, that's my relationship update
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Post by N2thevoid on Apr 30, 2019 21:17:39 GMT
LOL bro she’s 21.
Recently I had a 21 y.o. and a 24 y.o. crazy Thai broad.
They’re from an entirely different generation. They’re kids, you are dating a kid not a woman. She may look like a woman on the outside but her brain and emotional maturity isn’t quite there and chances are it won’t be until late twenties, early 30s. Identity development takes that long sometimes longer and sometimes a person never quite gets there.
You’ve no right to be a part of her social media. And the more you push at her to include you the more she’ll resist and see you as controlling.
Her IG and snaps that’s her world let her have it, she’s just figuring out who she is and you have no right to set constraints around that. That’s ego clinging and it’s far removed from loving someone.
You’re trying to force a square peg into a round hole.
If you can’t accept she’s like ever other 21 year old, who gets caught up with fancy balls of yarn and shiny objects than you need to find someone more mature and closer to your age.
100% if you push at her she’ll end up with some other guy on her story line and you’ll be left in the dust.
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Post by N2thevoid on Apr 30, 2019 21:22:22 GMT
I’m no betting man but I can see this relationship won’t last.
I went through mine, girl ended up w some new guy in her IG. Jack and Heywood know about this because I trust their judgment as peers. I just needed a gentle reminder. These girls, their minds are wired different. I’m glad to not have that in my life it’s just drama trying to have a relationship with a girl so dialed into the dopamine rush of social media. You can’t compete. I feel blessed the person is no longer in my life.
If you just want to hookup and have fun great, but you’re trying to have an adult relationship with somebody who isn’t there yet not will be for a long while.
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Post by rocky on Apr 30, 2019 23:40:47 GMT
I get you but how do I have no right being her bf and all? But I get where you're coming from. I sometimes forget she's younger than I am and iexpect the most from her but I just reciprocate what she's asking in return. yeah, she's real immature and we bump heads because of that. I guess I need to see it and hear it from a different persons perspective.
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Post by JackZero on May 1, 2019 0:20:51 GMT
OP, is she living with you?
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Post by GFRESH2DEF on May 1, 2019 0:56:56 GMT
One thing that i never understood OP, was why did you feel the need to lock her down into a committed relationship? I felt that things was going very well for you and her, when you had her as your fuck buddy. Like the saying goes.."If it ain't broke..don't fix it". Now you're experiencing turmoil in your relationship, and you both seem like you can't stand each other at times. Did you make this decision to lock her down into a committed relationship, from a place of scarcity?
-G
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Post by N2thevoid on May 1, 2019 0:58:48 GMT
Find someone more mature.
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Post by Heywood Jablowme on May 1, 2019 13:07:32 GMT
The Secret to Happiness and Joy with a 21 Year Old Party Girl: Low Expectations.
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Post by rocky on May 1, 2019 18:46:11 GMT
One thing that i never understood OP, was why did you feel the need to lock her down into a committed relationship? I felt that things was going very well for you and her, when you had her as your fuck buddy. Like the saying goes.."If it ain't broke..don't fix it". Now you're experiencing turmoil in your relationship, and you both seem like you can't stand each other at times. Did you make this decision to lock her down into a committed relationship, from a place of scarcity? -G Shes actually the one who asked me out and wanted to take things onto the next level.
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Post by N2thevoid on May 1, 2019 18:48:16 GMT
One thing that i never understood OP, was why did you feel the need to lock her down into a committed relationship? I felt that things was going very well for you and her, when you had her as your fuck buddy. Like the saying goes.."If it ain't broke..don't fix it". Now you're experiencing turmoil in your relationship, and you both seem like you can't stand each other at times. Did you make this decision to lock her down into a committed relationship, from a place of scarcity? -G Shes actually the one who asked me out and wanted to take things onto the next level. Ya but you obliged, you aren't a victim, and now you're in deep.
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Post by N2thevoid on May 1, 2019 18:50:58 GMT
A friend at my gym. He's in his late 20s, he's proposing to his 'hot' girlfriend who's a fresh 23.
This girl is so vapid, but also so life inexperienced she's a child and he laughably credits himself with straightening her out as she was a party chick upon them meeting.
You can't change someone. These young girls need to be unfettered to figure the world out for themselves, the more you try to cage the nightingale the more it'll scrap and claw for freedom.
I had to remind myself of this recently, having gone through this but fortunately getting out while things were still fresh.
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Post by JackZero on May 1, 2019 19:11:07 GMT
Again, OP, are you two living together?
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Post by rocky on May 30, 2019 23:15:32 GMT
Again, OP, are you two living together? No, but she often sleeps over
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Post by rocky on May 30, 2019 23:19:28 GMT
A friend at my gym. He's in his late 20s, he's proposing to his 'hot' girlfriend who's a fresh 23. This girl is so vapid, but also so life inexperienced she's a child and he laughably credits himself with straightening her out as she was a party chick upon them meeting. You can't change someone. These young girls need to be unfettered to figure the world out for themselves, the more you try to cage the nightingale the more it'll scrap and claw for freedom. I had to remind myself of this recently, having gone through this but fortunately getting out while things were still fresh. Yes I hear you there bud. That's something I learned with this chick. You can't change them and you just have to let them figure shit out. But I do feel a little guidance does help but wow they swear they know everything. I feel as if every woman is selfish and doesnt care much but for themselves. I've also learned being jealous and non trusting pushes them away,but the thing I don't get is they like doing certain things but if it done to them they flip out. Like wtf!?
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Post by rocky on May 31, 2019 1:23:05 GMT
The Secret to Happiness and Joy with a 21 Year Old Party Girl: Low Expectations. I'm just realizing that.
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