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Post by pilgrimmeister on Aug 25, 2019 1:41:19 GMT
You have just said it, you have lost control in the Relationship. She is the Dominant one here, and from what you have said, is now just waiting for something better to come along and is using you in the meantime. If you go against her, she knows that you have a lack of options so she will continue as she is. She may even frienzone you and keep you in the background when a new guy comes along if she can get away with it. A bloke with options would simply leave. If she really loves you, she will come back to you after a while once she has realised what she has lost and try and change her ways, but your best bet is to move on, build yourself back up and get out there.
Finish it would be my advice, before she finds another branch to jump onto and you ultimately get hurt. I made the mistake (which I will come to later in my journal) which I will never let happen again. The way I look at girls now is if I end up in a relationship and it goes sour, if we can't work it out to where I am happy, I will walk. I would rather be single than go back down that road.
Having said that, for future relationships, you have to keep things fresh, surprise her in and out of the bedroom. I don't mean buy presents, but whenever you get to a low point and attraction starts to ware off (daily grind and routine does that) think back to how she was attracted to you and how you got her, and try something similar.
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Post by ninjabib on Aug 25, 2019 22:02:49 GMT
Yep shes got your balls in a vice and only because you placed them there for her.
Also you have a child, they come first always, if she doesn't want to be part of his life why is she part of yours?
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Post by Heywood Jablowme on Aug 28, 2019 14:26:21 GMT
Yet you're still there.
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Post by rocky on Aug 30, 2019 8:37:57 GMT
Yep shes got your balls in a vice and only because you placed them there for her. Also you have a child, they come first always, if she doesn't want to be part of his life why is she part of yours? She just recently met my son a few days ago
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Post by ninjabib on Aug 30, 2019 8:44:49 GMT
It read that she wouldn't meet him by choice. Regardless, i'm sure you can see this is dead unless you enjoy this type of stuff? If you did you wouldn't be on here complaining about t surely?
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Post by rocky on Aug 30, 2019 8:48:32 GMT
It's draining me and my life. So what do you think is wrong with you, OP? Scarcity mindset? Hoping to make things like they used to be again? You think you can fix her narcissism? I would say a little bit of everything. My mom passed a few years ago so I feel as if she somewhat fills in that void in a sense. But I know I can pull women it's just I'm a bit of exhausted. We recently had a fight and I almost broke up with her and she was teared up crying and I'm not going to lie I also was and we cleared a lot of things and fucked right afterwards, which was amazing. But let's see. My sister and her are best friends, so my sister is my wing women and she recently told me that she said she didn't care if she didn't have sex! I was shocked by this!? So was my sister because according to my sister she used to always want sex and now she seems to not desire it. Which is odd.. My sister's advice was she's getting comfortable and I believe so too. So I called her out on it in our recent argument. I'm learning a lot about women in this relationship. I realized looks aren't everything when a women can't treat you like a king.
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Post by JackZero on Sept 5, 2019 1:52:11 GMT
So what do you think is wrong with you, OP? Scarcity mindset? Hoping to make things like they used to be again? You think you can fix her narcissism? I would say a little bit of everything. My mom passed a few years ago so I feel as if she somewhat fills in that void in a sense. But I know I can pull women it's just I'm a bit of exhausted. We recently had a fight and I almost broke up with her and she was teared up crying and I'm not going to lie I also was and we cleared a lot of things and fucked right afterwards, which was amazing. But let's see. My sister and her are best friends, so my sister is my wing women and she recently told me that she said she didn't care if she didn't have sex! I was shocked by this!? So was my sister because according to my sister she used to always want sex and now she seems to not desire it. Which is odd.. My sister's advice was she's getting comfortable and I believe so too. So I called her out on it in our recent argument. I'm learning a lot about women in this relationship. I realized looks aren't everything when a women can't treat you like a king. This is bullshit. "I'm so comfortable that I no longer desire sex." Does that really make sense to you? The truth is you don't turn her on anymore. What advice would you give to a friend that says to you, "My hot self-centered girlfriend doesn't want sex from me and makes my life miserable although she says she loves me"? Seriously, answer what you would tell him.
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Post by rocky on Sept 5, 2019 6:59:59 GMT
I would say a little bit of everything. My mom passed a few years ago so I feel as if she somewhat fills in that void in a sense. But I know I can pull women it's just I'm a bit of exhausted. We recently had a fight and I almost broke up with her and she was teared up crying and I'm not going to lie I also was and we cleared a lot of things and fucked right afterwards, which was amazing. But let's see. My sister and her are best friends, so my sister is my wing women and she recently told me that she said she didn't care if she didn't have sex! I was shocked by this!? So was my sister because according to my sister she used to always want sex and now she seems to not desire it. Which is odd.. My sister's advice was she's getting comfortable and I believe so too. So I called her out on it in our recent argument. I'm learning a lot about women in this relationship. I realized looks aren't everything when a women can't treat you like a king. This is bullshit. "I'm so comfortable that I no longer desire sex." Does that really make sense to you? The truth is you don't turn her on anymore. What advice would you give to a friend that says to you, "My hot self-centered girlfriend doesn't want sex from me and makes my life miserable although she says she loves me"? Seriously, answer what you would tell him. Then how do I reverse that or what? Yeah, we recently fucked this weekend but man I want sex like 2 to 3 times a week and I ain't getting that. She's literally in my bed passed out and I went out of my way to make tonight a movie night and grab a wine bottle and she just kod and this whole day I've been wanting to fuck like crazy. I hit the gym and I felt like a dog in heat just starring at every chick and even my friend said " man you're a dog".
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Post by rocky on Sept 5, 2019 7:04:12 GMT
I would say a little bit of everything. My mom passed a few years ago so I feel as if she somewhat fills in that void in a sense. But I know I can pull women it's just I'm a bit of exhausted. We recently had a fight and I almost broke up with her and she was teared up crying and I'm not going to lie I also was and we cleared a lot of things and fucked right afterwards, which was amazing. But let's see. My sister and her are best friends, so my sister is my wing women and she recently told me that she said she didn't care if she didn't have sex! I was shocked by this!? So was my sister because according to my sister she used to always want sex and now she seems to not desire it. Which is odd.. My sister's advice was she's getting comfortable and I believe so too. So I called her out on it in our recent argument. I'm learning a lot about women in this relationship. I realized looks aren't everything when a women can't treat you like a king. This is bullshit. "I'm so comfortable that I no longer desire sex." Does that really make sense to you? The truth is you don't turn her on anymore. What advice would you give to a friend that says to you, "My hot self-centered girlfriend doesn't want sex from me and makes my life miserable although she says she loves me"? Seriously, answer what you would tell him. I just re read this and let it sink in. I'd tell him to leave and find someone that's worth his time and meets his needs.
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Post by ninjabib on Sept 5, 2019 10:54:42 GMT
Bingo!
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Post by JackZero on Sept 5, 2019 15:57:00 GMT
This is bullshit. "I'm so comfortable that I no longer desire sex." Does that really make sense to you? The truth is you don't turn her on anymore. What advice would you give to a friend that says to you, "My hot self-centered girlfriend doesn't want sex from me and makes my life miserable although she says she loves me"? Seriously, answer what you would tell him. I just re read this and let it sink in. I'd tell him to leave and find someone that's worth his time and meets his needs. This is what I would likely tell a friend too. If your girlfriend is no longer turned on by you, that's not saying that there is something wrong with you. It's not saying that you are terrible in bed. It's not saying that you are an unattractive guy. Like I eluded to earlier in this post, she has moved passed passion in the relationship and now you are discovering that you are not quite compatible as companions. She isn't cutting it as a girlfriend and you are unrealistically holding onto what is normally temporary in women. Now that you know what you'd advise a friend, what are you going to do? Understand, I'm not trying to make you come up with a "I'm dumping that bitch" statement. I'm not trying to get you to be a tough guy. I'm simply asking because you need a good plan that works for you that you can follow through with.
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Post by rocky on Oct 13, 2019 17:38:30 GMT
Yeah,so she left me. High and dry. We kept fighting like every day and she left.
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Post by JackZero on Oct 13, 2019 19:18:06 GMT
Yeah,so she left me. High and dry. We kept fighting like every day and she left. What did you learn?
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Post by rocky on Oct 13, 2019 19:33:38 GMT
Yeah,so she left me. High and dry. We kept fighting like every day and she left. What did you learn? That some women are so full of themselves and only care about pleasing themselves and selfish. This chick went out to a weekend rave at the weekend of our one year anniversary. Also, to work on being needy. I would get jealous when she would go out to party and rave and it made me have trust issues. I realized I don't want a girl who still parties. I learned that looks doesn't mean shit to how being treated right means. I learned I can be real stubborn and I don't forgive easily. I learned its hard to heal while being with the person who hurt you. I learned not to place your happiness into a person, it should be from within. You can't make people change. I can't let people walk all over me and I have to communicate a lot better. A lot of the issues was due to mis understanding. your gut doesn't lie your heart does. Sucks man, I feel a hole in my life. I recently got laid off from my job , found another and got laid off again so I'm feeling shitty as a whole...I do start a new job Monday but let's see. I know you are supposed to pick yourself up when you fall but it's hard when you're this low. Relationships blow
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Post by ninjabib on Oct 13, 2019 21:02:19 GMT
Sounds like you have learnt some valuable lessons Rocky. In a month or 2 you will look back and be glad shes gone. You can msake the changes and improvements needed to yourself now going forward.
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