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Post by Heywood Jablowme on Dec 29, 2020 12:53:33 GMT
Ask her if she's getting flooded with dick pics.
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Post by flyingbanana on Dec 29, 2020 20:38:32 GMT
She’s not used to it...obviously it didn’t relegate you to creep status. 1 hour in? I’m a bit curious as to why you felt the need to hustle in so quick. Futzing w her phone is often a sign of nervousness and a dissociation of sorts. Guys often mistakenly see it as disinterest. To be quite honest, I’m still kinda learning on the journey and so I wasn’t really sure when to start escalating. I have mild autism additionally, so stuff like social cues are a bit more difficult to read too. But from what I’d seen and read it’s good to start touching the girl from the off. Normally if I invite a girl around from online I’d make a move on her and start foreplay within a couple of minutes so kinda took that to in person That is one of the things that kind of throws me off. Sometimes the kino and escalation stuff is perfect to the point where I have fucked girls and we know nothing about each other - almost like an entirely different part of the brain takes over and next thing I know they are ripping my clothes off. Like no effort required because it is automatic. But on the other hand I have had it where then the girl just fades away - kind of causes some cognitive dissonance like I was a sex toy lol curious your thoughts on best way to mentally deal with fact some girls just will use you for sex but the price of it is needing to barely put any effort besides actually meeting them. I am starting to have the reverse problem of what most guys have - they just want sex and not much more. Is it a social cue thing I am reading wrong? Like without seeming needy, how can I ask for something a little more steady (it seems to happen naturally with some girls and not others)? I know we are not supposed to be the ones who bring up anything about relationships but I also don't really want one night stands- like I have noticed sometimes the talking is great pre meeting, then hanging out is great, they fuck me, then kind of just text sparingly and finally vanish. |
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Post by curtis72 on Dec 31, 2020 1:03:55 GMT
To be quite honest, I’m still kinda learning on the journey and so I wasn’t really sure when to start escalating. I have mild autism additionally, so stuff like social cues are a bit more difficult to read too. But from what I’d seen and read it’s good to start touching the girl from the off. Normally if I invite a girl around from online I’d make a move on her and start foreplay within a couple of minutes so kinda took that to in person That is one of the things that kind of throws me off. Sometimes the kino and escalation stuff is perfect to the point where I have fucked girls and we know nothing about each other - almost like an entirely different part of the brain takes over and next thing I know they are ripping my clothes off. Like no effort required because it is automatic. But on the other hand I have had it where then the girl just fades away - kind of causes some cognitive dissonance like I was a sex toy lol curious your thoughts on best way to mentally deal with fact some girls just will use you for sex but the price of it is needing to barely put any effort besides actually meeting them. I am starting to have the reverse problem of what most guys have - they just want sex and not much more. Is it a social cue thing I am reading wrong? Like without seeming needy, how can I ask for something a little more steady (it seems to happen naturally with some girls and not others)? I know we are not supposed to be the ones who bring up anything about relationships but I also don't really want one night stands- like I have noticed sometimes the talking is great pre meeting, then hanging out is great, they fuck me, then kind of just text sparingly and finally vanish. I just assume that I didn’t fuck them well if they don’t return. I’m literally the last person to ask for advice on this. I have zero charm too, so maybe being charming helps |
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Post by flyingbanana on Jan 1, 2021 19:23:51 GMT
That is one of the things that kind of throws me off. Sometimes the kino and escalation stuff is perfect to the point where I have fucked girls and we know nothing about each other - almost like an entirely different part of the brain takes over and next thing I know they are ripping my clothes off. Like no effort required because it is automatic. But on the other hand I have had it where then the girl just fades away - kind of causes some cognitive dissonance like I was a sex toy lol curious your thoughts on best way to mentally deal with fact some girls just will use you for sex but the price of it is needing to barely put any effort besides actually meeting them. I am starting to have the reverse problem of what most guys have - they just want sex and not much more. Is it a social cue thing I am reading wrong? Like without seeming needy, how can I ask for something a little more steady (it seems to happen naturally with some girls and not others)? I know we are not supposed to be the ones who bring up anything about relationships but I also don't really want one night stands- like I have noticed sometimes the talking is great pre meeting, then hanging out is great, they fuck me, then kind of just text sparingly and finally vanish. I just assume that I didn’t fuck them well if they don’t return. I’m literally the last person to ask for advice on this. I have zero charm too, so maybe being charming helps Fair enough - I am just being a bit more sensitive lately lol whereas should just be happy to be getting some nice ass. I am trying to nip it in the bud so I don't lose all my skill and become insecure. 8.5.5 |
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