Approach #1: My First Daygame Approach

[pslayaplaya]

I made it a point today to get my first real approach out of the way. I say real because I have attempted before to go to the mall and all I did was ask about 5 girls immediately for their number to practice just getting rejected.
That was a couple weeks back and I started watching a ton of actual pick up attempts successful ones and ones that weren't to get reference. Today, it was time to put all that I have learned so far into my first attempt. I went to a shopping center and I did actually have to get some things lol so I figured it was now or never to put what I think I've learned to use.

I just came from the gym so I was all sweaty and definitely just came out of exercise so I wasn't even looking nice but my focus was just to get the first one out of the way. I started going to the aisles where I needed to go to get my list of items to buy but I was keeping an eye on which girl would be my first approach during the path I took.

There weren't many walking around, it was closer to closing time, but I finally saw a girl I found attractive. I started to think, ok she's the one I will approach as I moved in proximity pretending to still look at the stuff in the aisles lol. I kept thinking whether to pull the trigger but there was a couple around. I backed out. I didn't want to face rejection with so many people around. I started moving to my next item to buy but feeling really shit about backing out.

I still somewhat wanted to approach the same girl so I turned towards the direction that where she may end up without so many other shoppers around. I just wasn't ready to approach with others around. I didn't find her either.
I kept moving around the shopping center still feeling bad and 2nd guessing myself about having the courage to do this. I finally see more attractive girls but a lot of people were around them so no. I kept moving to my intended aisle. I bought the last product I needed off my list.

At this point, I'm calling myself a fucking pussy and absolutely disappointed in myself after all the talking I did that I would go approach the first girl I find attractive. I started to head to the cashiers line. I then see a girl and her friend walk by. Her stomach was showing. Dressed in very sexy outfit. I walked by and gave her eye contact as I passed by her. I said to myself it was now or never. I wasn't going to leave without doing an "attempt".

My goal was to just get this first one out of the way. After walking 2 aisles past since passing them I turned around. I had to do it. I seen them in one of the aisles. I pretended to go to the aisle next to them still somewhat willing to back out but I caught myself and turned around again immediately and went into their aisle. She saw me coming and turned back to what she was looking at but I wasn't smiling at her or anything but I did make deep eye contact during our passing before so she may have known that a guy was going to approach her and that guy was going to be me!

A lady shopper went in the opposite side of the aisle so I had to wait just a bit. I had to wait for her to pass by smh. At this point I'm ready to go up and this lady is taking her time to move. Finally she goes out of the way, I move pass and roll up next to her. I knew there were people around, the lady and her friend but I didn't care at this point. I was locked in on her sexy ass! I had no idea what I was going to say or had anything planned. I just let it happen and see what happens and see what comes out of my mouth.

So here's how it goes.

------------ PICKUP ATTEMPT DIALOGUE ----------------
Me: "Hey." (I think I said it in a smooth tone lmao)
Her: "Hi"
Me: "What's your name?"
Her: (starts smiling probably knowing I'm trying to pick her up) "Why?"
Me: "Cause I'm interested" (I wanted to say "Cause I'm Interested In You" but that's what came out)
(still giving her a subtle smile letting her know I want her)
(I had no idea what her friend was doing at all lol was not even paying attention)
Her: (still smiling) starts shaking her head in rejection and says "nah nah" (i think she was looking at her friend too)
Me: "why not?"
Me: "I'm not your type?" (still smiling back at her)

Her: "nah nah" (still smiling at me and looking back at her friend but this is all she can say to me)

(I proceed to exit at this point)

Me: "well it was nice to meet you" (and I move on and go to the cashier's line and pay for the rest of my things. )

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>> MY AFTERTHOUGHTS <<

So I left the shopping center and I felt really great about myself and just getting the courage to finally do this. Yeah I got rejected but it really isn't all that bad and the phone number practice I did previously might have helped deal with the awkwardness I felt after which wasn't really there today. Maybe a few seconds but I left feeling confident. I know rejection is going to happen a lot but I did it and I feel like I can work off this knowing I CAN DO THIS! BRING IT! I am definitely planning to do more attempts.

I'm thinking more attempts at a different shopping center. Work my way up on approaching when there are lots of people around to hear. Also work on having some planned openers as well. Right now, I just want to go approach without any plans or scripts and just work off improvisation and situation and work my way up.
What's weird is after getting out my car feeling all confident and shit lol, a girl comes walking out of our apartment complex and she's looking at me and I'm looking at her and she smiles and I smile back. I thought to myself, next time lol I was exhausted from gym and carrying a bunch of shit. I might have tried again at this point.

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>> MY MISTAKES <<
- I should have approached a bit more friendlier? Maybe said "excuse me" as I got closer or something instead of rolling pass her and then saying hi just to give the girl a bit more heads up lol
- I think rolled my cart next to them somewhat close. Need to give the girl some more distance next time.

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>> MY UPCOMING PLANS <<
- Obviously do more cold approaches.
- I'm thinking of going to another shopping center that I normally don't go to and just get more attempts in. Work off my previous mistakes I made or think I made.
- Do them while I'm not wearing full sweat on my clothes and looked like I just did a 5 mile run lol

- Still plan to do nightgame/club game or special nightime events very soon where hopefully I can get some actual success but want to get in more daygame approaches first. I'm new to my area so I don't have friends at the moment to go out with like I use to. Back when I should have been learning this shit lmao. Not sure about bars just yet. I do like to drink but I need to do some "research" lol and general things to do, what to look out for, etc.

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[jacob bailer]

bro, you could have saved 10 trips to 10 shopping centers if you would've just approached that one chic who was coming out of the apt complex. the mistake many people make is to approach women who have showed no signs of interest while ignoring, or passing on females who showed signs of interest. the problem with chics coming out of apt complexes is, youre not ready for it, but at the same time, those are going to be the most fruitful approaches. you approach females at shopping centers, and supermarkets, and you're ready, but they simply aren't interested. they key to being a successful pua is knowing how to respond to females, and doing it quickly. let's face it, you got 2 seconds to do something. tapping women on the shoulder from behind and approaching with a script simply isn't going to cut it. most of the time women arent going to smile at you. they will give you eye contact, and if you smile back quickly, depending on the reaction you get, then you proceed quickly, otherwise it's a wasted opportunity. but lets face it, most pua, and myself included, we're too autistic to respond quick enough. i can even equate this to fighting. you are considered a good fighter if someone runs up on you and are able to defend yourself. if you can only fight when you are picking the fight, then you aren't a good fighter, cause then it just means if someone hits you from behind,you will get your ass beat. when im in big cities, i will have approximately one attractive female per week give me inviting eye contact, and all i really have to do is capitalize on that and not do any cold approaches. if you factor in unattractive females, i probably get like 20 a week giving me inviting eye contact. to be honest with you, even in bad weather like now, i can get 10 a day in a busy city

[HipSoSlick]

I approach all of them. Certainly, once I step into my mind state (that's right whenever I leave my front door) I'm on Go Mode. Three first one I see gets the ball rolling. So anybody I see first, I start my verbal batting practice. I don't care how they feeling, it's none of my business, butt even if they don't speak. I'm out here feeling good. Some off these below average women be thinking they above average and to good to speak... But again players, don't take that personal. Like Jacob stated, those that gives us attention are the ones to pursue.. But i don't only depend on it. Sometimes, most times, I open my own doors. I walk brave in the land. But anyway check this out a 7 or an 8 is perfect... You don't always need a 10... For me a 7 or an 8 are down to earth. You don't got trip. And it's all eyes on us, the way goos with her eyes wide shut... Put your pride aside when it comes to these babies. They all ladies needing you to waste their time.
Peace. Keep Chasing!