How to prepare for approaching?

[dev]

Hello,

Making this post to gather some ideas how to proceed with approaching.
Honestly I suck at this. I never approached like ever. What I did I play apps and from there I pull women, but most of those pulls backfire and I am basically left hanging. I try and try and the only thing I am getting better at is typing messages but not actual conversation.
I dont know what to do or behave, I feel like I am not interesting to other people. My circle of friends didnt change for like 20 years or even more. Nobody listens to me or would like a conversation and for a long time I dont want it too. This is just my honest evaluation of myslef.

I think I am approaching a point when I will go out to the city and make a fool of myself on a daily basis and You know what? I dont even care anymore.
Being myself is just not enough, I dont even know how to be genuine but as far as I see it - it does not work at all because in this case I would not talk to anyone at all - that is genuine me - the guy who sits at a table full of people and wondering what to say or do all night and not doing shit.

Any thoughts would be appreciated.

[Alex Penn]

Alright, getting ready for the approach, here's the drill. First, pump yourself up mentally. Positive self-talk is your wingman. Visualize success, see yourself confidently engaging in conversation.

Next up, look the part. Dress in a way that reflects your style and makes you feel good. When you look good, you feel good, and that confidence radiates.

Don't forget body language. Stand tall, shoulders back – show that you own the space. And that smile, bro, it's your secret weapon.

Lastly, keep it light. Have a few go-to conversation starters in mind, but be flexible. The key is to be genuine and present in the moment.

[dev]

Sorry for this post, I sometimes am a little hopeless. I really appreciate this forum and its contents as it gives many new ideas on how to approach things in life.

@alex
I forgot about smiling for so long that I dont remember how long has it been since I have had a sincere smile. Thank You for this reminder

[Alex Penn]

No problem, I'm glad I've helped. You gotta smile more, my friend Life's better with a grin on your face.

If you need any help or advice feel free to reach out to me!

[HipSoSlick]

I read a pickup book a long time ago, and it said something like this:
Go out gaming for 4 hours a day,
4 days a week.
Approach 3 girls each hour (if you're new a Hi or Hello = 1 approach)
That's 12 girls a day
That's 48 a week
About 200 a month.

Then I don't if it was in the same book or what but I also remember this thing:
When you go out gaming, your goal should not be about meeting you're new girlfriend or getting laid. But rather, your goal should be about building a strong social skill set.
Now, that's one of my main goals when I approach.
However, my mini goal is "just to make them smile."

You gotta figure out what your own goal is.

Preparing to go out gaming:
Some things to consider:
Brush your teeth, shower, listening to some music that'll hype you up to go out to approach, do a couple push-ups, whatever; smell good, shave, etc. Keep a condom or two in your pockets, don't over do the attire, unless that's your style or you're trying to go out night gaming (that's a while nother animal).

Good luck player and"enjoy the process". It gets greater later.

[HipSoSlick]

Dec 10, 2023 17:25:38 GMT dev said:

....but not actual conversation.
I dont know what to do or behave, I feel like I am not interesting to other people. ...Nobody listens to me or would like a conversation and for a long time I dont want it too. This is just my honest evaluation of myslef....Being myself is just not enough, I dont even know how to be genuine but as far as I see it - it does not work at all because in this case I would not talk to anyone at all - that is genuine me - the guy who sits at a table full of people and wondering what to say or do all night and not doing shit.

Any thoughts would be appreciated.

Greetings, Player.
Trust me. I know EXACTLY what your saying. You brought me back to my beginnings and now I'm about to share with you how I practiced.
(Check out my previous post about 4 days a week)


Go out gaming 4 days a week, 3-to-4 hours a day. *3 girls each hour

1st 2 WEEKS: JUST get out of the house!
Go to a spot where there are girls. I like the mall. ALL you're going to do is JUST walk around the mall for 1-to-3 hours. This is going to expose you.
2nd 2 WEEKS:
Start saying hi and Hello. That's all. 3 girls each hour.
3rd 2 WEEKS:
Keep saying hi and Hello. Introduce some waving at girls from afar. (Keeping the same 3 girls an hour every time you go out)
4th 2 WEEKS:
You should be feeling pretty good about the process by now. If not continue the previous steps. But by now you're ready to start stopping women. And all you gotta do is notice something you like that she's wearing or whatever and JUST compliment her and be gone. "Excuse, i just like how your earrings match your shirt - i like how you did that" whatever you think of.
5th 2 WEEKS: continue the Hi and compliments. Introduce something like this: "excuse me, i like this and that... My name is...BTW... Quick question: I'm pretty sure you got boyfriend, so what does it take to attract a beautiful woman like you... What do you look for in a guy?"
Now with just this right here should be enough for you to build on. Three following weeks you'll knows what to do. You can read her body language.

[dev]

Hello Hip,

Thanks for the pointers, I am pretty fresh to all this stuff and working on several things in my life to make it better. I will try to practice as much as I can

Kind Regards,
Dev

[maestro]

Hey Dev, Hipposlcik has some good advice and I believe this is called the "newbie drill". To get ready to approach you CAN have a "routine stack" or basicvally just some openers and stories you want to go out and tell or practice. This does help so you have something to say. After that all I reccomend is just ACTION. Just approach, train yourself to do it and that will help you get over the fear of doing it and you'll learn alot more that way. Cheers!

[luckykk]

Some of you gave me some great ideas and routines for beginners. What other tips for beginners do you have? Yesterday Yesterday I went hunting for the first time, I didn't have the courage to approach any girl.

[HipSoSlick]

Mar 3, 2024 17:54:58 GMT luckykk said:

Some of you gave me some great ideas and routines for beginners. What other tips for beginners do you have? Yesterday Yesterday I went hunting for the first time, I didn't have the courage to approach any girl.

Yo, props for putting yourself out there and having that intention to go hunt and mingling with the ladies! You're already killing it just by getting out of the house. Keep that vibe going and don't stress too much. Just give a casual 'hi' as you stroll by, no need to overthink it. Whether you get a response or not, just keep the momentum rolling. Remember, it's all about taking those baby steps to beat approach anxiety. You're doing awesome! Keep mashing player.