Another time I got out..

[maestro]

I got out another time and was standing at the bar and got a drink because I would drink from time to time, a gin and tonic I believe. I saw a girl close by the bar and it seemed she was there by herself. The bar was pretty full so I felt comfortable going up and talking to her because everyone was kind of talking to each other anyway. I went up and asked " Are you here alone?" to my surprise she was happy to talk to me, she smiled and said "Yes, I'm by myself." She started to tell me that she did martial arts as a kid and could kick anyones ass and also that she has a child. I asked her if she loved her kid and we talked about martial arts. The conversation went well and then I excused myself having met her it was a good conversation. Later on I was with a group of the guys who go there all the time and she came to the table with another guy from the group I believed she knows. The guy introduced me to her and I kind of went "Oh yeah, I know her..." and we high fived or something like that which I hoped would show some pre-selection to the other girls in the group. Other guys arrived and she started talking to them. At the end of the night the group left to go somewhere but at the time it sounded like they were going somewhere very far to have an "after party" and I didn't want to commit to that distance so I left. It went well but I wonder what I should have done, looking back I think I should have kept talking to her and then introduced her to the group putting her on my arm. Also I could have then left and talked to other girls in the group because there were a few. This could build a "jealousy plotline." What do you guys think I could have done better? Cheers.

[JackZero]

I am not sure if I understand what was going on with this girl. It seemed like she was interested enough to have a personal conversation with you about her life and interests. What I am not seeing is that you were even being flirtatious with her.

I have read pretty much all of your posts and you are consistently technical in what you talk about. I see preselection, social proofing, jealousy plotline, etc... I'm not seeing anything about attraction between you and a woman which is the overall goal. My fear is that you are so deeply dedicated to game technique that you are not actually being seductive at a man and woman level. It seems a bit overcomplicated most of the time.

I want you to understand that I'm not trying to be negative. I am trying to encourage you to focus on what's actually important:
1. You demonstrating that you find a woman attractive.
2. Get her to return the attraction.
3. Escalate from there.

You do not need to have any external influences to do that. All you need to do is make her feel good because she is around you while you flirt with her. If she feels good around you while you flirting with her, she is going to want to find a reason to find you interesting and attractive. She is going to want to be in the moment with you and that is what is actually seductive.

[G-host]

Still, you deserve some credit for going out and trying thou.

[maestro]

Hello, thank you. This was actually a past experience and while I seem technical it's probably because I'm going over past experiences. I think yes, the main thing was is I was talking to her I wasn't really bringing it to a sexual level and I should have done that. Anything else?

[HipSoSlick]

Ayo, Maestro, embrace the chill, dude. Ghost has a point—props for stepping up.
SubZeto hit it on the head - It seemed like she was feeling the vibes, but you was too busy thinking about some kind of social proof game, or plot twist or whatever else that doesn't really matter; she is most likely not even thinking about none of that. Stop overthinking. Stay in the moment, Player. Keep it genuine and straightforward. You already are the social proof. You are the game.

Sometimes we're too busy calculating scenarios instead of living in the moment. I'm saying this to myself too, because I often find myself overthinking about other things, like what she might be thinking. But hey, keep pushing forward.