Post by GenmLevel0 on May 5, 2018 1:30:15 GMT
One of the advantages of online sarging, I find, is that you have a perfect recording of your conversation. This is an exchange I had on OkCupid with a Japanese HB that isn't currently going the way I want, so I'm opening it to critique and advice on how to proceed.
It started with her profile reading "I am smart, beautiful, and fun." So I decided to comment on that (OkCupid now has the option to comment on portions of the profile directly, similar to the "quote" system here).
Her profile: "I am smart, beautiful, and fun"
Me: ""I'm also very humble"
I talked to my California friend and he told me it's always 22 degrees there, we should travel there
" [saw this on the old forum]
Her: "Lol
Yes I’m also humble... that’s too perfect no?! Lol"
Me: "the weather? yeah, it's perfect now, we need to enjoy it before [our city] steals it from us again"
Her: "Ok
Let’s go lol
But you gotta take me for a drink first 😬"
Me: "How does coffee sound?"
Her: "Yup"
Me: "Sounds good
I'd like to get to know each other too, what do you do for fun?" [trying to build some comfort and try to make her qualify]
Her: "Like to do..just relaxing sometimes
But I like hiking too
Socializing
Dancing
Cooking etc"
Me: "that's cool, so you should teach me dance and we can win the grand prize on SYTYCD, right?"
Her: "? What’s that lol"
Me: "So you think you can dance"
Her: "... yes ... ?!?😶"
Me: "lol, it's a name of a show, "So You Think You Can Dance""
Her: "Lol
I never watched the show before lol"
Me: "don't worry about it, we'll take it out by storm one day
I'm sure we can cook well together too"
Her: "Lol
Sure
One day 🤪
We should go for a drink first baby"
Me: "tsk tsk... trying to get me drunk already? I've got Russian roots, I've got the alcohol tolerance of a polar bear" [trying to go for c&f here]
Her: "Lol
That’s scary
Take it easy for the first date please lol"
Me: "well we're going for coffee, it doesn't get more chill than that"
Her: "Sure"
Me: "do you like roadtrips?"
Her: "Yup
I love any trios
Trips *"
Me: "I did a roadtrip a few years back with my friend, [our city] to Arizona and back, was the best time ever, I need another one of those now that my research is done"
Her: "Cool
Wanna do that too"
Me: "then maybe eventually we can race "
Her:"I guess
I will win though"
Me: "oh? what should be our prize then?"
Her: "Hmmmm
Tequila
Shotssss"
Me: "you got it, but then we might as well race to Mexico
Were you born and raised here?"
Her: "Lol
True
Never been there
Nope
In Japan !
Been here almost 5 yrs"
Me: "oh wow, your English is better than mine and I've been here for over a decade"
Her: "Lol
Your English is much better than mine !!!!
You liar lol"
Me: "that's true, I was trying to be nice though
😆"
Her: "I’ll kill youuu 💩"
Me: "will you at least give me a nice eulogy?"
Her: "LolHey
What’s your zodiac sign ?"
Me: "duck
What's yours?"
Her: "Duck ?!"
Me: "Quack!
I'm a Virgo actually, but I thought I'd make up a sign"
Her: "Lol silly lol"
Me: "what sign are you?"
Her: "Gemni"
Me: does that make us a good match for coffee?"
Her: "Lol yes I think so"
Me: "sweet, what's your number?"
Her: "[gives her phone number]"
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So the next day, I send the following message:
"Dear [HB Japanese]
I have enclosed in this letter my phone number
[phone number]
Please take care of it
Love, [my name] "
She replied with:
"lol
heyhey
what's up?"
And I replied with:
"Programming, thinking of vacation
How about you?"
aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaand since then it's silence
I'm not sure how to proceed.
I though of sending a regular message of
"Hey, when are you free for coffee?"
or sending a message of
"Scratch coffee, I have a bottle of white wine begging to be opened, do you have roomates?" [trying to set up a date right at her place so she is more comfortable]
or calling her instead of SMS'ing and just talking on the phone to establish comfort and the coffee date
Suggestions? Ideas? ideally concrete ideas?
It started with her profile reading "I am smart, beautiful, and fun." So I decided to comment on that (OkCupid now has the option to comment on portions of the profile directly, similar to the "quote" system here).
Her profile: "I am smart, beautiful, and fun"
Me: ""I'm also very humble"
I talked to my California friend and he told me it's always 22 degrees there, we should travel there
" [saw this on the old forum]
Her: "Lol
Yes I’m also humble... that’s too perfect no?! Lol"
Me: "the weather? yeah, it's perfect now, we need to enjoy it before [our city] steals it from us again"
Her: "Ok
Let’s go lol
But you gotta take me for a drink first 😬"
Me: "How does coffee sound?"
Her: "Yup"
Me: "Sounds good
I'd like to get to know each other too, what do you do for fun?" [trying to build some comfort and try to make her qualify]
Her: "Like to do..just relaxing sometimes
But I like hiking too
Socializing
Dancing
Cooking etc"
Me: "that's cool, so you should teach me dance and we can win the grand prize on SYTYCD, right?"
Her: "? What’s that lol"
Me: "So you think you can dance"
Her: "... yes ... ?!?😶"
Me: "lol, it's a name of a show, "So You Think You Can Dance""
Her: "Lol
I never watched the show before lol"
Me: "don't worry about it, we'll take it out by storm one day
I'm sure we can cook well together too"
Her: "Lol
Sure
One day 🤪
We should go for a drink first baby"
Me: "tsk tsk... trying to get me drunk already? I've got Russian roots, I've got the alcohol tolerance of a polar bear" [trying to go for c&f here]
Her: "Lol
That’s scary
Take it easy for the first date please lol"
Me: "well we're going for coffee, it doesn't get more chill than that"
Her: "Sure"
Me: "do you like roadtrips?"
Her: "Yup
I love any trios
Trips *"
Me: "I did a roadtrip a few years back with my friend, [our city] to Arizona and back, was the best time ever, I need another one of those now that my research is done"
Her: "Cool
Wanna do that too"
Me: "then maybe eventually we can race "
Her:"I guess
I will win though"
Me: "oh? what should be our prize then?"
Her: "Hmmmm
Tequila
Shotssss"
Me: "you got it, but then we might as well race to Mexico
Were you born and raised here?"
Her: "Lol
True
Never been there
Nope
In Japan !
Been here almost 5 yrs"
Me: "oh wow, your English is better than mine and I've been here for over a decade"
Her: "Lol
Your English is much better than mine !!!!
You liar lol"
Me: "that's true, I was trying to be nice though
😆"
Her: "I’ll kill youuu 💩"
Me: "will you at least give me a nice eulogy?"
Her: "LolHey
What’s your zodiac sign ?"
Me: "duck
What's yours?"
Her: "Duck ?!"
Me: "Quack!
I'm a Virgo actually, but I thought I'd make up a sign"
Her: "Lol silly lol"
Me: "what sign are you?"
Her: "Gemni"
Me: does that make us a good match for coffee?"
Her: "Lol yes I think so"
Me: "sweet, what's your number?"
Her: "[gives her phone number]"
------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
So the next day, I send the following message:
"Dear [HB Japanese]
I have enclosed in this letter my phone number
[phone number]
Please take care of it
Love, [my name] "
She replied with:
"lol
heyhey
what's up?"
And I replied with:
"Programming, thinking of vacation
How about you?"
aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaand since then it's silence
I'm not sure how to proceed.
I though of sending a regular message of
"Hey, when are you free for coffee?"
or sending a message of
"Scratch coffee, I have a bottle of white wine begging to be opened, do you have roomates?" [trying to set up a date right at her place so she is more comfortable]
or calling her instead of SMS'ing and just talking on the phone to establish comfort and the coffee date
Suggestions? Ideas? ideally concrete ideas?