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Post by N2thevoid on Sept 7, 2018 6:33:44 GMT
Practice being more in the present moment. Use conversation as a focal point, the interaction itself without skipping ahead and getting into your brain as to what 'formula', 'thing to say' or strategy to implement next.
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Post by Heywood Jablowme on Sept 11, 2018 15:14:32 GMT
In mentioning your Avatar....Are you stoned?
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Post by N2thevoid on Sept 11, 2018 16:45:23 GMT
lol maybe he feels caught between a rock and a hard place?
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Post by svabos on Sept 12, 2018 13:49:35 GMT
lol, I feel to stiff, like a stone
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Post by R.C on Sept 18, 2018 12:02:31 GMT
Isn't it strange that you're aiming for a long relationship, but at the same time you say you have no interest in most women?
Believe it or not I can relate. I'm often attracted to various women but I'm rarely truly interested, so the dynamic is different. Some girls I want to get to know, others I just want.
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Post by N2thevoid on Sept 18, 2018 17:56:03 GMT
Isn't it strange that you're aiming for a long relationship, but at the same time you say you have no interest in most women? Believe it or not I can relate. I'm often attracted to various women but I'm rarely truly interested, so the dynamic is different. Some girls I want to get to know, others I just want. Interesting dichotomy.
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Post by svabos on Sept 19, 2018 11:48:07 GMT
Isn't it strange that you're aiming for a long relationship, but at the same time you say you have no interest in most women? Believe it or not I can relate. I'm often attracted to various women but I'm rarely truly interested, so the dynamic is different. Some girls I want to get to know, others I just want. same with me: there are a lot of women I would just fu*k but doesn't really care about who they are and what's their life story because I don't have time for that. And problem is that in general I find girls boring as hell: most of them doesn't have any point in life and doesn't do anything remotely interesting or if they do, they are eccentric to the degree of (almost) being crazy which scares the hell out of me - I don't see myself with someone who is cocky and loud and acts like she owns the world and doesn't care what other think about it in a way that she steps on other peoples toes but people doesn't react because they doesn't want to waste energy on uncivilized egocentric individual. Sadly for me, I've found that only those kind of girls do something interesting in their life like drawing comics, taking sports, participating in game events like and such... also I need an opinion: above described eccentric girls scare me in a way I find them unattractive sexually because I have a feeling they have big expectations that I won't be able to fulfill those expectations. I have need to have to prove myself to those kind of dominant girls (and to dominant people in general) - is there way to overcome that fear? Because I've noticed that in my subconscious I feel threatened by everybody because I have been picked on a lot when I went to school by both sexes alpha representatives.
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Post by R.C on Sept 19, 2018 14:21:23 GMT
Isn't it strange that you're aiming for a long relationship, but at the same time you say you have no interest in most women? Believe it or not I can relate. I'm often attracted to various women but I'm rarely truly interested, so the dynamic is different. Some girls I want to get to know, others I just want. same with me: there are a lot of women I would just fu*k but doesn't really care about who they are and what's their life story because I don't have time for that. And problem is that in general I find girls boring as hell: most of them doesn't have any point in life and doesn't do anything remotely interesting or if they do, they are eccentric to the degree of (almost) being crazy which scares the hell out of me - I don't see myself with someone who is cocky and loud and acts like she owns the world and doesn't care what other think about it in a way that she steps on other peoples toes but people doesn't react because they doesn't want to waste energy on uncivilized egocentric individual. Sadly for me, I've found that only those kind of girls do something interesting in their life like drawing comics, taking sports, participating in game events like and such... also I need an opinion: above described eccentric girls scare me in a way I find them unattractive sexually because I have a feeling they have big expectations that I won't be able to fulfill those expectations. I have need to have to prove myself to those kind of dominant girls (and to dominant people in general) - is there way to overcome that fear? Because I've noticed that in my subconscious I feel threatened by everybody because I have been picked on a lot when I went to school by both sexes alpha representatives. But that's the thing though. I do care about who they are. How else can I decide whether or not I'm interested? Yeah, some girls fit what you describe. And most men too. And then there's those worth your time. The way to overcome any fear is gradual exposure. There's really no other way around it. But if you dislike eccentric people why are you trying to be around them? I don't know man, you just sound like you're meeting the wrong women. How do you usually meet women?
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Post by svabos on Sept 20, 2018 14:03:34 GMT
i don't know man, you just sound like you're meeting the wrong women. How do you usually meet women? I've been married until may this year and 12 years ago when i was free i used to meet women in night clubs. Now after the divorce I've meet one over the local internet forum and it was rebound relationship. Now I've signed up in hiking club and into salsa dance classes. Yesterday on salsa I've met one normal girl but she wanted to get to know me on classes more before we go out...
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