Post by JackZero on May 24, 2020 21:27:17 GMT
I really tried to talk the person who asked me this question to pose it towards the forum, but he was afraid that the girl he's posting about would figure out it was him. To the person that asked me the question, I'm going to keep it as vague as possible so the girl won't figure it out. At the same time (for the guy who is asking), I want you to understand that I highly doubt a girl that you barely know will find out you posted a question about her to a PUA forum.
So here's the gist of it from what I understand:
There is a place that this gentleman frequents which employs an attractive girl. He sent the girl a social media friend request and she accepted. She approached him and asked him many questions about his personal life. When he needs help at her place of employment, she makes sure that she helps him. She also talks to him about what he's is there to achieve at her place of employment. Here is what confuses him. She is hot and cold and unfortunately she leans more on the side of cold. Sometimes she walks right by him without saying a word or even looking in his direction. He's trying to understand why on some days she's hot and other days she's cold. He notices that she treats other guys that are around the same way but she doesn't act so distant and cold to them as she does to him.
Here's my answer and the other guys here may want to jump in:
The girl is there to do a job. She probably only gives you attention when she notices that you need help or when she has a moment that she can show good customer service. This is the problem when you are trying to attract a girl at her job. Her signals are always going to be mixed.
I'll also add that you did show interest in her by getting her to accept your social media requests. She likely felt obligated to accept them because she knows who you are (or she always accepts from anyone who requests). If you gave her a hint that you are interested and then waited for her to confirm her interests with you, you are showing unattractive qualities because you are coming across a bit skittish.
Even now, you don't want to let the girl know that you are interested. You don't want to show her that you are attracted to her. You are afraid that she will happen to come across this tiny forum amongst the thousands upon thousands of websites out there and realize that you are asking about her. You have to be the one to set the foundation of your interactions and not succumb to fear. If you are interested in her, then you can't talk to her like a buddy or a customer. You have to flirt with her. You have to get her to flirt back so you can proceed to the next step.
So here's the gist of it from what I understand:
There is a place that this gentleman frequents which employs an attractive girl. He sent the girl a social media friend request and she accepted. She approached him and asked him many questions about his personal life. When he needs help at her place of employment, she makes sure that she helps him. She also talks to him about what he's is there to achieve at her place of employment. Here is what confuses him. She is hot and cold and unfortunately she leans more on the side of cold. Sometimes she walks right by him without saying a word or even looking in his direction. He's trying to understand why on some days she's hot and other days she's cold. He notices that she treats other guys that are around the same way but she doesn't act so distant and cold to them as she does to him.
Here's my answer and the other guys here may want to jump in:
The girl is there to do a job. She probably only gives you attention when she notices that you need help or when she has a moment that she can show good customer service. This is the problem when you are trying to attract a girl at her job. Her signals are always going to be mixed.
I'll also add that you did show interest in her by getting her to accept your social media requests. She likely felt obligated to accept them because she knows who you are (or she always accepts from anyone who requests). If you gave her a hint that you are interested and then waited for her to confirm her interests with you, you are showing unattractive qualities because you are coming across a bit skittish.
Even now, you don't want to let the girl know that you are interested. You don't want to show her that you are attracted to her. You are afraid that she will happen to come across this tiny forum amongst the thousands upon thousands of websites out there and realize that you are asking about her. You have to be the one to set the foundation of your interactions and not succumb to fear. If you are interested in her, then you can't talk to her like a buddy or a customer. You have to flirt with her. You have to get her to flirt back so you can proceed to the next step.
