selki
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Post by selki on Jul 10, 2020 16:59:33 GMT
You can always find the most attractive people in a room, but what room should I be looking in? Where are the best places to go to find people who you can actually play with? So far everyone I have met has been unattractively insecure, awkward, and boring, which makes sarging a bore too. While these kinds of people can be goood practice they're hard to have good conversation with and usually not worth the effort. I think it could be a symptom of my age. A lot of highschool girls (and guys for that matter) are pretty horrible conversationalists, and their personalities beyond that don't have much to offer either. This makes the stakes so low that the pickups aren't fun.
A pickup will usually go something like this
Selki: sees someone checking me out, looks for enough suble IOIs or wait for her to get "caught" looking then approach.
Girl: is insecure and boring
Selki: try to bring her out of her shell, get her to laugh, find common interests and play those up (all after setting a time limit)
Girl: asks questions about me that numb my damn brain "oh, what english teacher do you have" ...Seriously?
Selki: start closer (or just escape) "you're cute and all, but you're not paying the bills so i've got to get back at it" (don't use this if youre not heading to work, you sound tacky, like you're trying too hard) or some other "not worth my time uless you earn it" line
Girl: Offers snapchat
Selki: Takes it but mentions that "i have an account but i deleted the app"
Girl: asks why
Selki: "Everyone on there is boring and somehow still all talk"
Girl: gives me her number to prove shes different
while this does work, high school girls are rarely down for casual sex so the time span it would take to reel her in and build comfort isn't worth the shitty sex and her atatchment issues. And if i can't find anyone with enough personality to carry more than a single interesting conversation (no, the drama in your circle isn't interesting) then theres no point!
Where are some places interesting and attractive people frequent?
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Post by Heywood Jablowme on Jul 13, 2020 18:54:13 GMT
How old are you?
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Post by N2thevoid on Jul 13, 2020 19:54:21 GMT
" unattractively insecure, awkward, and boring,"
Sounds more like testimony of how you feel towards yourself
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chef89
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Post by chef89 on Jul 13, 2020 20:28:23 GMT
These people are there, but they avoid you like the plague.
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selki
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Post by selki on Jul 14, 2020 2:02:33 GMT
18 in my senior year of high school but going to a community college for my second year |
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selki
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Post by selki on Jul 14, 2020 2:07:20 GMT
These people are there, but they avoid you like the plague. It isn't that I can't find any genguinly interesting or high quality people, my question was if there were any places they are found in abundance |
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chef89
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Post by chef89 on Jul 14, 2020 8:42:31 GMT
These people are there, but they avoid you like the plague. It isn't that I can't find any genguinly interesting or high quality people, my question was if there were any places they are found in abundance Depends on what you think is interesting. Its different for everybody. |
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Post by pilgrimmeister on Jul 14, 2020 10:50:49 GMT
Sounds like you're aiming for career minded women. If your going after girls around your age, you will struggle. Typically but not always, they will be mid twenties to early 30s. Good placed to try are up market wine bars, county retreats etc. You won't find many of these women in the rougher areas and low end clubs. You have to be able to strike a connection with these womem or you will get shot down. Your age will also go against you.
To score with these women, you will need to breath high value. Just bang the easy ones and work your way up to the better women as you get older.
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Post by Heywood Jablowme on Jul 14, 2020 13:38:10 GMT
18 in my senior year of high school but going to a community college for my second year You need to take the agenda out of your interaction with girls. You're going in way to strong. Don't fucking worry about your lay count, whether or not you displayed high value, whether or not they display long term compatibility. Get drunk a couple times a month, piss off your parents, bang some bitches, don't call them back, follow you passions with undying conviction, work out to tune your body by whatever means suit you. invest in your future. Do these things, and girls will naturally will fall to your feet. To summarize: Quit being a try-hard it starts to smell bad real fast. |
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daze
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Post by daze on Sept 16, 2020 5:03:10 GMT
18 in my senior year of high school but going to a community college for my second year You need to take the agenda out of your interaction with girls. You're going in way to strong. Don't fucking worry about your lay count, whether or not you displayed high value, whether or not they display long term compatibility. Get drunk a couple times a month, piss off your parents, bang some bitches, don't call them back, follow you passions with undying conviction, work out to tune your body by whatever means suit you. invest in your future. Do these things, and girls will naturally will fall to your feet. To summarize: Quit being a try-hard it starts to smell bad real fast. I mean yeah that's nice advice and definitely necessary steps, but this is a pua forum. Isn't this all about using tech to control the social dynamic so that you can consistently get the women you want? Not just trust that they'll "naturally fall to your feet". |
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Post by chef89 on Sept 16, 2020 13:07:53 GMT
You need to take the agenda out of your interaction with girls. You're going in way to strong. Don't fucking worry about your lay count, whether or not you displayed high value, whether or not they display long term compatibility. Get drunk a couple times a month, piss off your parents, bang some bitches, don't call them back, follow you passions with undying conviction, work out to tune your body by whatever means suit you. invest in your future. Do these things, and girls will naturally will fall to your feet. To summarize: Quit being a try-hard it starts to smell bad real fast. I mean yeah that's nice advice and definitely necessary steps, but this is a pua forum. Isn't this all about using tech to control the social dynamic so that you can consistently get the women you want? Not just trust that they'll "naturally fall to your feet". The way to consistently get women that you want means having your fundamentals down, not solely using techniques. Of course, it has a technical aspect in which you can improve but in my opinion being a fundamentally relaxed,fun and self confident person ultimately gets you the girls. If you only rely on techniques it means you are actually a tryhard who isn't very self confident. Btw, you can't 'control' a girl. You can only choose how to initiate your own actions or how to respond to her behaviour. |
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daze
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Post by daze on Sept 16, 2020 23:36:34 GMT
I agree that you can't control a woman of course, but you can use tech to maximize your control of the social dynamic. And that fact personally does wonders for my confidence.
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Post by JackZero on Sept 17, 2020 5:28:09 GMT
I agree that you can't control a woman of course, but you can use tech to maximize your control of the social dynamic. And that fact personally does wonders for my confidence. What does it mean to control the social dynamic? Why would you need to control that when you can focus on creating actual attraction? |
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Post by chef89 on Sept 17, 2020 13:49:39 GMT
I agree that you can't control a woman of course, but you can use tech to maximize your control of the social dynamic. And that fact personally does wonders for my confidence. For me, speaking about controlling a woman or a social dynamic has a very needy implication. I don't really care if I control it or not, if I try my best to attract her and she walks away, that's fine. I know I had good experience with women before and that I have something to offer so I either use it as a learning experience or I assume she was just not a match. Not every girl will like you. Furthermore, a rejection from a girl means that she rejected my approach, not me as a person. So my self confidence remains unchanged. The problem with using techniques is that once the situation changes a bit to where your techniques dont apply, you will be caught with your pants down and exposed. With good fundamentals, that will not happen, or you will not care. |
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