Post by tinman on Mar 23, 2018 9:16:53 GMT
I feel slightly confused about the optimum way of 'showing intent'
Not just 'when' (for example mystery says to only show it after the girl has done so first whereas other PUA's obviously disagree)
but also 'how'
I know there is KINO and there's statements of intent, but I feel i'm yet to find a good smooth way of working them together.
For example, kino escalation PAST FRIENDLY/INCIDENTAL touch seems odd and oncongruent without having the verbals to back it up!
Like, talking too a girl in a bar and you've touched her arms a few times. You need to get more sexual with the kino but you are talking about her latest holiday (as opposed to about 'you and her' or whatever) and you haven't made a 'statement of intent' yet. Just grabbing her by the waste or touching her hair or whatever would seem way out of place no? Would one need to purposely lead the conversation in a certain way to make it 'smoother'? If so what/how
And with statements of intent (basically ''You're kinda sexy'' or whatever) - are these necessary? And is there an optimum way of stating it? And an optimum time?
Sometimes I think I've made my intent clear with things such as strong, lingering eye contact and general demeanour and i'm showing interest in the girl and i'm also trying to be fun etc and I KNOW that the girl is into me, but she ejects at some point, and I feel as though maybe the 'statement of intent' was missing and that maybe my intent wasn't clear enough despite my efforts
How does this process tend to look for you in a bar pickup with an indirect open?
Not just 'when' (for example mystery says to only show it after the girl has done so first whereas other PUA's obviously disagree)
but also 'how'
I know there is KINO and there's statements of intent, but I feel i'm yet to find a good smooth way of working them together.
For example, kino escalation PAST FRIENDLY/INCIDENTAL touch seems odd and oncongruent without having the verbals to back it up!
Like, talking too a girl in a bar and you've touched her arms a few times. You need to get more sexual with the kino but you are talking about her latest holiday (as opposed to about 'you and her' or whatever) and you haven't made a 'statement of intent' yet. Just grabbing her by the waste or touching her hair or whatever would seem way out of place no? Would one need to purposely lead the conversation in a certain way to make it 'smoother'? If so what/how
And with statements of intent (basically ''You're kinda sexy'' or whatever) - are these necessary? And is there an optimum way of stating it? And an optimum time?
Sometimes I think I've made my intent clear with things such as strong, lingering eye contact and general demeanour and i'm showing interest in the girl and i'm also trying to be fun etc and I KNOW that the girl is into me, but she ejects at some point, and I feel as though maybe the 'statement of intent' was missing and that maybe my intent wasn't clear enough despite my efforts
How does this process tend to look for you in a bar pickup with an indirect open?