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Post by chef89 on Aug 26, 2020 11:54:56 GMT
Would you go with... 1) Something about u seems to always make me smile. 2) What sort of trouble are you causing? 3) A generic “Hey how’s it going?” 4) Something different? The best thing to reinitiate contact is to send some intriguing thing like: 'Wow you never guess what happened to me today' Or 'You know what I was thinking?' You can even relate it to her, and she will surely take the bait. You can then tell some random stuff and you will have a conversation again.
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Post by JackZero on Aug 26, 2020 20:08:56 GMT
No follow up, OP?
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Post by chef89 on Aug 26, 2020 20:29:12 GMT
Good luck to you. Personally I have found going too deep into topics during text game before meeting them can backfire, as they will often build up this picture of you that you simply cannot live up to in the attraction sense when in physical company. Like a big build up to a supposedly hit film that doesn't live up to the hype. Just be careful not to dial in too much. I completely agree with you, it's always such a wild card...but when we talked about it this is what she had to say which I took as an IOI. Didn't talk anything serious after this... You should have suggested then and there to have those kind of conversations in real life.
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Post by newhere85 on Aug 26, 2020 20:59:20 GMT
No response yet.
On Sunday (the day after the phone call that ended abruptly) she actually tagged me online on some video of Greece. She brought up Greece multiple times. So I replied to the post she made tagging me and said "I'll be your Aladdin if you'll be my Jasmine...and i'll show you the world". You know...like the Aladdin song. She "liked" my post on Monday morning and that's the last I heard of her...
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Post by chef89 on Aug 26, 2020 21:32:18 GMT
No response yet. On Sunday (the day after the phone call that ended abruptly) she actually tagged me online on some video of Greece. She brought up Greece multiple times. So I replied to the post she made tagging me and said "I'll be your Aladdin if you'll be my Jasmine...and i'll show you the world". You know...like the Aladdin song. She "liked" my post on Monday morning and that's the last I heard of her... What would you expect from her as a response to that? Sounds pretty cheesy to me. If she doesnt reply to your other text, I would call it quits, focus on other girls and maybe send her a follow up 3 weeks later, if I would be still interested by then. I think I saw you even mentioned she's 10 hours away man. Is that really worth the effort?
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Post by newhere85 on Aug 26, 2020 21:52:09 GMT
No response yet. On Sunday (the day after the phone call that ended abruptly) she actually tagged me online on some video of Greece. She brought up Greece multiple times. So I replied to the post she made tagging me and said "I'll be your Aladdin if you'll be my Jasmine...and i'll show you the world". You know...like the Aladdin song. She "liked" my post on Monday morning and that's the last I heard of her... What would you expect from her as a response to that? Sounds pretty cheesy to me. If she doesnt reply to your other text, I would call it quits, focus on other girls and maybe send her a follow up 3 weeks later, if I would be still interested by then. I think I saw you even mentioned she's 10 hours away man. Is that really worth the effort? It's not that I expected a response to that but I also didn't expect her to go completely quiet for no apparent reason. Yes, she's far away. No, I won't die if I never speak to her but i'm attracted to her and would have liked to pursue it. I'm pretty realist where if something like this would have happened when the conversation wasn't really there I wouldn't have given it a second thought, it's just the abruptness and the lack of "signs" that has me going...WTF???
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Post by chef89 on Aug 26, 2020 22:22:51 GMT
What would you expect from her as a response to that? Sounds pretty cheesy to me. If she doesnt reply to your other text, I would call it quits, focus on other girls and maybe send her a follow up 3 weeks later, if I would be still interested by then. I think I saw you even mentioned she's 10 hours away man. Is that really worth the effort? It's not that I expected a response to that but I also didn't expect her to go completely quiet for no apparent reason. Yes, she's far away. No, I won't die if I never speak to her but i'm attracted to her and would have liked to pursue it. I'm pretty realist where if something like this would have happened when the conversation wasn't really there I wouldn't have given it a second thought, it's just the abruptness and the lack of "signs" that has me going...WTF??? No idea how that call went, but it seems to me that she just faked that other call to get off the phone. Or she really got the call and she wasn't interested enough to call you back. Also for the lack of reply, you gotta understand that you never met in real life. She doesn't even know who you are, which means she has little investment in you. You're waiting for her texts and calls but in her eyes you're just some random dude from the internet. Not saying she wasn't interested at all but if a guy comes along in her real life she probably forgets about you very quickly. So you're saying the signs to STOP talking weren't there (or maybe you didn't see them), but how about the reason for her to actually START talking to you. She might even be asking herself 'what does this guy want from me?' as that might not be so clear for her. You need to see her in real life asap, that's why I said you had to keep things light and to the point, communicating a desire to see her and actually making that happen.
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Post by JackZero on Aug 26, 2020 22:31:26 GMT
Some women are like this. They enjoy the attention more than anything else. Flakes happens.
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Post by pilgrimmeister on Aug 26, 2020 22:52:13 GMT
Move on. It's what happens when you get too deep in text talk, and unless you've been with a woman locally for quite a while who then moves away, long distance relationships really dont work out anyway, and why would you put the effort in if there are other options closer by?
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Post by newhere85 on Aug 27, 2020 1:03:55 GMT
Move on. It's what happens when you get too deep in text talk, and unless you've been with a woman locally for quite a while who then moves away, long distance relationships really dont work out anyway, and why would you put the effort in if there are other options closer by? Dang...you guys give up too easily. I sent her another text, something witty and she did a double text reply. We've been texting back and forth a bit, i'm about to see if I can't get her to commit to going out with me next weekend but she's in Texas and a hurricane is headed her way so...not sure if it's the right time since her head is probably elsewhere. Yeah she's inland up near Shreveport actually so it's not like she's on the coast but...it's quite the juggling game here.
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Post by newhere85 on Aug 27, 2020 4:31:08 GMT
Last update for tonight: I went for the hail mary after chatting with her a little more. Here's how it went - I wish I could make it happen a bit sooner since we're talking over 2 weeks away but with the distance...it's just not practical. The key now is to not overload, keep interest, and pray that she doesn't run into any dudes in her town that kill my chances. LOL!
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Post by JackZero on Aug 27, 2020 4:43:17 GMT
The old "sister had a problem" routine. Works every time when they don't want to explain that some guy was covering her ears with her knees.
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Post by newhere85 on Aug 27, 2020 4:49:05 GMT
The old "sister had a problem" routine. Works every time when they don't want to explain that some guy was covering her ears with her knees. LMAO! Possibly...but her sister was recently in a pretty bad accident and he dad passed away a few months ago. Sometimes they're lying...sometimes they're not.
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Post by N2thevoid on Aug 27, 2020 5:38:22 GMT
Playing it way too safe and it shows like you're not trying to disrupt the exotic bird.
Take risks, be far more bold (NOT rude). Think assertive - how would a confident guy approach this?
He'd likely be more direct about his interest towards her (what this is, aka setting the 'frame'). He'd be decisive about plans. Tell her what you want to do with her, show interest by being confident - even if you have to fake it initially.
The tentative plans looks weak. You already gave her an out. Something will probably magically 'come up' before you are to meet or she'll intentionally forget the plans.
Today is Wednesday, why is she offering 2 weeks from now when she works Monday? Is she not available between now and Monday?
Why not just legit ask her out? Tell her you enjoy talking to her and would like to meet her, preferably in a public place to ensure she's not a serial killer.
This shit aint rocket science, drop the trying to impress her shtick and go for the jugular in finding out if she truly likes you RATHER than avoiding this in a desperate attempt to try get her to like you.
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Post by newhere85 on Aug 27, 2020 6:10:05 GMT
Playing it way too safe and it shows like you're not trying to disrupt the exotic bird. Take risks, be far more bold (NOT rude). Think assertive - how would a confident guy approach this? He'd likely be more direct about his interest towards her (what this is, aka setting the 'frame'). He'd be decisive about plans. Tell her what you want to do with her, show interest by being confident - even if you have to fake it initially. The tentative plans looks weak. You already gave her an out. Something will probably magically 'come up' before you are to meet or she'll intentionally forget the plans. Today is Wednesday, why is she offering 2 weeks from now when she works Monday? Is she not available between now and Monday? Why not just legit ask her out? Tell her you enjoy talking to her and would like to meet her, preferably in a public place to ensure she's not a serial killer. This shit aint rocket science, drop the trying to impress her shtick and go for the jugular in finding out if she truly likes you RATHER than avoiding this in a desperate attempt to try get her to like you. I get what you’re saying and if she was local I’d be 100% onboard with it. But, she’s not. It’s a 10 hour drive to her place which is currently being hit by a hurricane. So the dynamics are certainly different. I offered next weekend but she’s on call...she’s a nurse. Again, if she was local it wouldn’t be a big deal but imagine flying out there and her getting called in to work. So the following weekend is the earliest time that works. I don’t have time during the week because of work so...process of elimination. While a date 2 weeks out is certainly “tentative” at best...it sure beats being in the position I was in yesterday which is not even getting a text reply.
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