Leveling up my text game

[vrblasasn]

My text game is weak!  As i stated in my intro post, I'm good at the approach, and number closing, but I always seem to blow it in the texting phase. At dinner earlier this week, I did a cold approach on a food runner.  Slipped her my number on a piece of paper, told her "if you're available, text me. I would like to take you out sometime". She giggled, thanked me. I didn't expect to hear form her, but she text me an hour later.  It's as if things went sour immediately.  Half hour to 45 minute response times, basically one line responses.   Told her Thursday morning i wanted to schedule a phone call that night because I didn't like getting to know someone over text.  she was opened to it. later that evening when I told her a time, she was out, and said if i called she wouldn't be able to hear me. If someone is willing to give me suggestions, I'll post the text thread.  Thanks in advance!

[JackZero]

I bet the problem isn't your text game. Describe the cold approach in a bit more detail. From the opener to slipping her your number.

[vrblasasn]

Literally I took her aside and did as I described. If it was an approach problem, would she have even text me?  An other incident was at a gig I played two weeks ago with a different female. Did the photo routine (had her take some photos of us, and text them to me) we danced together for two hours, he body language at time became liquid in my arms.  we started texting the next day, and it was a similar scenario.

[JackZero]

Those are two completely different situations.

The girl at your gig was a girl that wanted you in that moment. Whatever obstacle that kept you from taking her home, to a hotel, back to her place, happened and that allowed the moment to pass and the next day she went back to real life.

The girl that you originally posted about wasn't a great opening. There was no real impact in how the two of you met. She could have been texting you on her lunch break out of curiosity just to pass the time. So a text outside of "when are you free for our date?" (that was your offer to her) is moving away from the reason that you approached her in the first place. Wanting to have a phone call to get to know her isn't the bold guy that you originally shown her.

You need to remain consistent with the way you deal with women. If you want to get to know her before the date, set her expectations to that. If you are acting like you want to bang her that night then bang her that night so she won't be disappointed. If you tell her that you want to take her out then take her out instead of becoming a text buddy.

[vrblasasn]

That makes scene. My ideas for the next move would be to text her again and say “I said I when I gave you my number, I wanted to take you out. Tell me a time you’re available.” what do you think?

[JackZero]

We are at your second and the harder problem to fix. Your approach on this was awful but at least you tried. You gave her a number and bounced without creating a connection. Sure, you can send her that text but you shouldn't keep your hopes up because she would have likely flaked on you unless she was interested before handing her the note.

I'm not a fan of trying to recover from situations like this. My advice would be to learn from it and move onto the next girl. It doesn't seem like you have a problem attracting them. You just need to learn how to keep them interested. Maybe another one of the guys here is better at recovering than I am and can give you some solid advice on what to do next.

[mathers645]

stop texting! Texting should only be used to set up dates... dont send any hows your day or good night or good morning bullshit!