Kartel
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Post by Kartel on Oct 26, 2020 16:09:01 GMT
here we talk about a woman with who we already have something going on between us, someone with who we are heading towards a serious relationship. based on your personal experience, what is the most effective way to make a woman we date to invest money into our relationship? like for example, when hanging around the city, what is a method that YOU found that works most of the time at making her spend some of her money on both of you two?
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Post by Heywood Jablowme on Oct 26, 2020 19:07:34 GMT
You want her to pay the bill at Applebee's? What exactly is the goal here?
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chef89
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Post by chef89 on Oct 26, 2020 22:11:41 GMT
You wanna go shopping with her credit card?
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Kartel
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Post by Kartel on Oct 27, 2020 10:46:30 GMT
the goal is to have her invest. time, effort, energy, emotions, money - everything. her time, effort, energy and emotions are invested when we are together, this is quite obvious. what is left out are the money. so the goal is pretty much not to "go shopping with her credit card", but that she spends in a given time frame as much money on us two as i spend.
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Post by Heywood Jablowme on Oct 27, 2020 11:44:17 GMT
That's simply not reality based.
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Post by N2thevoid on Oct 27, 2020 15:23:03 GMT
Stop being cheap.
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Post by JackZero on Oct 27, 2020 22:52:02 GMT
If you want her to pay, don't try to spring that on her after you've established you paying for everything. Be up front about it.
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Kartel
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Post by Kartel on Oct 28, 2020 15:31:55 GMT
If you want her to pay, don't try to spring that on her after you've established you paying for everything. Be up front about it. this is precisely the reason why i posted this question. to know how to frame this in future interactions. so if you guys want to explain what is the optimum way you found that works best to frame this from the beginning then would be useful. |
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Post by JackZero on Oct 28, 2020 17:02:24 GMT
If you want her to pay, don't try to spring that on her after you've established you paying for everything. Be up front about it. this is precisely the reason why i posted this question. to know how to frame this in future interactions. so if you guys want to explain what is the optimum way you found that works best to frame this from the beginning then would be useful. Honesty is usually the best way to get things to work. Your original post basically says you want to do this when you think things are starting to get serious. The only reason that you're not wanting that in the beginning is because deep down you understand the truth of women. Unless they say up front that THEY believe that she should pay too, it's not likely that it's in their belief system. If you are too vaginal to say it up front, it's because you want her more than what you actually stand for. How do you ask her to pay without losing her is the real question. It has nothing to do with framing outside of what your reason is but you do it up front. "I think that when two people are in a relationship that both sides pay for expenses." Say something like that and stand by your statement. If she decides that she doesn't want that, she will walk. You have the benefit of knowing that she wasn't the one for you. I know that you look at that as her rejecting you but it's actually you rejecting her based on your own belief system. If she thinks you have value, she won't have a problem with it. |
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Post by Heywood Jablowme on Oct 28, 2020 20:14:48 GMT
I laughed a rum and coke out of my nose Jack, thanks.
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Post by pilgrimmeister on Oct 29, 2020 14:54:39 GMT
Why would you want a woman who expects you to pay for everything. The odd meal out being "your treat", of course, and in return she buys you a new winter coat. Otherwise you both share expenses.
Some women have been brought up that the man pays everything for them, especially women with far East cultural backgrounds. There are men out there for them who will do that, and if that is not you, tell her directly how you feel, and if she walks, she walks.
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