Post by vagabond on Apr 23, 2021 18:17:53 GMT
I guess for some of you guys it's pretty self-explanatory (get laid by HBs), but rather than just assuming what you guys want I thought I'd open the question up. I don't see a lot of pensive posts like this on here, so I thought I'd give it a go.
For me, personally, it's kind of multi-faceted (and I'm about to be slightly uncomfortably honest here guys so do bare with). Obviously, in part, I'm learning PUA as part of my research. But also if I'm being really honest in a way that I am not with anyone really, I was curious to really look at myself as someone who has interest in talking to more girls and boosting my confidence in that area. I've never had major issues romantically with girls before, but in terms of being up front and pushing out specifically for the purpose of talking to girls that's new territory for me and it still makes me nervous to think about doing that (I think years of just assuming they won't like me back has produced this complex).
I've adapted to my not liking to be 'open' or up front about my sexuality or interest with girls, like i've never said to a girl, 'you're beautiful' even though I was thinking it, outside of already being romantically involved ofc.
My attitude so far has always been 'if they come to me then its cool, if it happens it happens'. I think i'm very fortunate that I'm cute enough to where that usually works lmao (I'm pretty good at detecting if someone is attracted to me now tbf). But I can't help feeling like I'd probably be happier if I was just more up front with how I feel rather than having this kind of latent shame or guilt about it. I don't like feeling like I'm retreating from parts of life or holding back.
So, lads, I think what I want to get out of this experience going forwards is not getting lots of women, it's just making sure the one's I am interested in at least know about it and that I do it in a way that does not shoot me in the foot.
How about you guys?
(Sorry if this is the wrong board for this kind of question or testimonial)
For me, personally, it's kind of multi-faceted (and I'm about to be slightly uncomfortably honest here guys so do bare with). Obviously, in part, I'm learning PUA as part of my research. But also if I'm being really honest in a way that I am not with anyone really, I was curious to really look at myself as someone who has interest in talking to more girls and boosting my confidence in that area. I've never had major issues romantically with girls before, but in terms of being up front and pushing out specifically for the purpose of talking to girls that's new territory for me and it still makes me nervous to think about doing that (I think years of just assuming they won't like me back has produced this complex).
I've adapted to my not liking to be 'open' or up front about my sexuality or interest with girls, like i've never said to a girl, 'you're beautiful' even though I was thinking it, outside of already being romantically involved ofc.
My attitude so far has always been 'if they come to me then its cool, if it happens it happens'. I think i'm very fortunate that I'm cute enough to where that usually works lmao (I'm pretty good at detecting if someone is attracted to me now tbf). But I can't help feeling like I'd probably be happier if I was just more up front with how I feel rather than having this kind of latent shame or guilt about it. I don't like feeling like I'm retreating from parts of life or holding back.
So, lads, I think what I want to get out of this experience going forwards is not getting lots of women, it's just making sure the one's I am interested in at least know about it and that I do it in a way that does not shoot me in the foot.
How about you guys?
(Sorry if this is the wrong board for this kind of question or testimonial)