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Post by guest on Apr 26, 2021 3:55:24 GMT
Hello, this is a very embarassing thing to say, but I have to admit I need advice. I have ED for one, and also don't have a job, I lost mine, I use welfare, and I stay with my folks. I'm just going nuts at this point. I want to bang broads all over the place but I don't have a place to take them to, and don't have a hard enough dick to stick inside of them.
Does anybody seriously know of some good ways to make a bundle of money rapidly? I'm not talking about drug dealing of course.
I mean, man, I feel like a caged animal right now.
For the ED, I spoke to some experts and I'm using special treatments to restore the sensitivity. Pardon me for the explicitness. It'll be months before I can go at it again. But what would you do in my situation? How should I deal with my passionate desires while it's impossible for me fulfill them right now?
I'm going to set up my own business but it's going to take time, and it will take time until my dick is as good as new, until then, how do I keep from going crazy? Anybody know?
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Post by pilgrimmeister on Apr 26, 2021 15:09:35 GMT
You are not going to like this answer but, the bottom line is you are low value, and therefore, will attract low value. So, to even think of pursing women at this point is silly, unless its just a bonk with the fat girl wearing her grannies old clothes who is equally of low value
As for your life, making a quick buck is not easy. Try and get a part time job, study and take courses, set goals to achieve, like salary and skills targets. Work towards getting your own place. Go to the gym. Once you have made a stable solid platform for yourself, and feel better in yourself, then you can start worrying about women, and will have more success, as you will be of higher value. On top of that, take up hobbies and develop a social circle, this further increases your social value, and in turn, will attact higher value women.
Living with your folks is a huge turn off, most women will run a mile.
On another note, I really hope you get help with ED.
But yeah, don't go near women until you are in the right place in your life and mentally. Look after yourself first, women can wait. At the moment, your desire for women is coming from a needy place and is creepy. It may well take a few years to achieve these goals you set yourself.
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Post by guest on Apr 30, 2021 2:23:50 GMT
You are not going to like this answer but, the bottom line is you are low value, and therefore, will attract low value. So, to even think of pursing women at this point is silly, unless its just a bonk with the fat girl wearing her grannies old clothes who is equally of low value As for your life, making a quick buck is not easy. Try and get a part time job, study and take courses, set goals to achieve, like salary and skills targets. Work towards getting your own place. Go to the gym. Once you have made a stable solid platform for yourself, and feel better in yourself, then you can start worrying about women, and will have more success, as you will be of higher value. On top of that, take up hobbies and develop a social circle, this further increases your social value, and in turn, will attact higher value women. Living with your folks is a huge turn off, most women will run a mile. On another note, I really hope you get help with ED. But yeah, don't go near women until you are in the right place in your life and mentally. Look after yourself first, women can wait. At the moment, your desire for women is coming from a needy place and is creepy. It may well take a few years to achieve these goals you set yourself. No it was a good answer. I like it. But I have a question. You say take up hobbies and develop a social circle, because this increases social value. My question is,
WHICH TYPE of social circle to start, to be precise?
You already know that if I started a social clique of other misfits and chumps like me - it would be of no value to a high value woman. So I have to pinpoint what type of clique to start, OR JOIN.
The reason I bring this up is because I'm not 100% sure I can start a social circle of fast-life type of people. Like spoiled/irresponsible rich kids who like to party. Because right now I have zero standing in youth society. (Man, I would never go to a high school reunion!) I mean, I for sure have the FUCKING CONFIDENCE to start a clique like this. But I have little understanding and experience. I've never TRULY been apart of shit like that in my life so their type of social circle would be difficult for me to understand. Most of what I know about the lifestyles they live comes from the internet, their videos, instagram, etc. Perhaps it's not even where I belong? Can I rail hot chicks WITHOUT being apart of the "coolest crowd"? Can I be a nerd and still rail playboy playmates?
I mean I can do ANY of this shit. I can start a clique of rich nerds, or of rich spoiled chads. I have the confidence to, but I would like to find out which place do I really belong in? And is it possible to make friends with both types? I'm sure there's some people who have done it. They might be "hybrids" of sort.
Another thing,
I do recall however, running with the popular clique during freshman year of high school. I had the finest chicks chasing after me, but I fucked everything up because I didn't understand it. I think I have, and always had, the balls to make big moves. I am flamboyant. I am pretty confident, and not afraid of things like fights. Pretty big risk taker. I think if it wasn't for my crazy ass father I would have been with the cool clique a long time ago. He never let me have any friends, he said they were all degenerates. So I was permanently grounded during high school. I had hot chicks chasing after me and the cool clique guys wanted to be my friends. But I could never fuck chicks or do anything at all. That's why I became so fucked up. It was like prison to me. I never talked to anybody outside of school, since my father wouldn't let me. To this day I stay at home, sitting around. These past few days I've been analyzing my past and the memories come back very easily. I was popular but only for a short amount of time. YET STILL you know, a lot of things are similar to how the adult continuation of these cliques are doing things today. The point of what I'm saying is that if I think back to those old days, and try to replicate some of my behavior and conduct, try to put together my recollections of what these cliques values are, then I can get a good foot in the door with the popular clique of adults today.
Sorry if my situation sounds unusual to you, I don't know where you're from but I grew up in the rich suburbs so that's what I always think about when I think of the words "social circle".
So I mean, when I think of social circle I always think of the irresponsible rich kids who were the most popular clique at high school. I looked some of them up, they still do things in a similar fashion today. Get drunk, high, smash girls. Probably spend time working, for sure, they're not bums. They graduated from college. But they do continue to live the same fun lives they led for a long time because their basic attitude towards life hasn't changed.
Never had the interest in being apart of a rich nerd clique even if they were rich. I always detested nerds for their lack of risk-taking, their passiveness. Nerds to me are betas and I only want to be around alphas. (And I of course don't mean jersey shore thugs or overzealous alphas, but rather alphas with at least some responsibility and take things in moderation). I know there's got to be guys like that out there.
And I thank you.
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Post by N2thevoid on Apr 30, 2021 2:56:25 GMT
Fast-life types? Sounds like a Coke-heads anonymous meetup group.
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Post by guest on Apr 30, 2021 2:58:59 GMT
Fast-life types? Sounds like a Coke-heads anonymous meetup group. haha, ok. I don't use that, only weed. But what do you think? What clique in society do you recommend guys to join?
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Post by guest on May 2, 2021 4:42:55 GMT
I'm sorry for rambling guys. I'm taking it easy. But for real, what do you other guys think? Do you all just agree with what Pilgrim said?
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Post by spicybisket on Nov 24, 2021 12:44:31 GMT
Sorry, I completely messed up this post by trying to quote snippets. Instead here is response to guest's questions to Pilgrim:
My impression after reading your thread is that your mind is spinning. You are eager to "un-AFC" yourself RIGHT NOW. That is not how it works. I do not think you are aware of your situation. You claim to have all the necessary skills needed to do what you need to do yet you are on hear asking advice. You need to ground yourself and look at your situation in a cool and rational manner. Come up with a plan, you can perhaps use Style's 30 day guide as a framework. You are not going to flip a switch. Like previous posters said you are projecting a lot of low value.
You question "which type of social circle to start" leads me to believe you don't understand how relationships/social circles work. It's not really something you choose, at least not at your level. You cannot choose to start a social circle of say basketball fans. Why would they want to hang out with you? Your social circle(s) consist of people in your life which you have shared interests. So your coworkers are a social circle, your family, friends you grew up with on the block, etc. As you gain hobbies then you will gain that social circle. It's not formulaic. Being in circle x vs. y doesn't really affect your value.
We cannot tell you precisely what to do. What is it that you like to do? List those things out and seek out social settings where you an share these interests with like-minded people. When you are there, make sure you are there to share your hobby and not to shop for friends. The friends will come. Be open to talking to everyone and don't judge until you have a good sense of the people you are interacting with. This is cliché but please read How to Win Friends and Influence People and make sure you start understanding and applying these tactics in your efforts.
You are right to a degree. A crew of AFC's do not give you value per se. However, these are your friends, and shitting on them doesn't increase your value either. On the other hand, if you embrace PU and get your game up and start being more "alpha" you can become that cliques leader. That will give you value. So you don't need to ditch this crew per se and find a new one. You can lead it, and as you evolve and make new friends you can have multiple crews. It's an organic process and if you understand some psychology you can navigate it. It is not a simple algorithm.
I also want to add, as you advance in PU, your current crew may start to resent you and you as well may find they provide little value.
Usually, AFC's make crumby friends. In my opinion and from some experience the default group of friends for an AFC are other AFC's. AFC's are all needy and they each look to suck value from one another without giving back. That breeds resentment. So as you evolve, realize that some of the resentment from your AFC friends may be warranted to a small degree. Having said that, you should realize that people of higher value will rise above that pettiness. If they cannot (assuming here you are doing PU right and you will rise above it) then you will have to move on else you are exhibiting low value by allowing bad behavior on their part. Or more simply put you cannot have people disrespect you.
A final note on "being alpha". Don't do it to the point of being obnoxious. I know of several people who by how they acted and changed got into PU and decided that they have to constantly be the AMOG. Don't do that! Too much of a good thing isn't good either. For example, If one of your boy's knows fishing and he takes you guys, then usually in that scenario he is more the "alpha" as he is the fishing expert. You get my drift? A lot of guys end up ruining relationships by employing non-stop PU in every situation. No need.
You are displaying a plethora of limiting beliefs. Media has got you under the impression that "cool" kids are the irresponsible rich kids that like to party and if you want to rail hot chicks that is the only way. Complete bullshit. Being "cool" is more about being high-value to put it simply. To learn more about being "high value" please read Mystery Method and The Game. Based on what you ask, I can see you need ALOT of coaching. Start reading up on PU, go read field reports, and most importantly, get out of the house and meet people.
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Post by Wacker on Nov 24, 2021 16:31:01 GMT
I recommend taking interest in some form of martial arts. I started taking Muay Thai and it has been an amazing confidence boost and stress release. Plus the majority of the guys there are pretty switched on/ alpha. Plus practicing how to defend yourself/others is really useful and will make you more attractive to women.
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Post by spicybisket on Nov 24, 2021 16:56:09 GMT
I recommend taking interest in some form of martial arts. I started taking Muay Thai and it has been an amazing confidence boost and stress release. Plus the majority of the guys there are pretty switched on/ alpha. Plus practicing how to defend yourself/others is really useful and will make you more attractive to women. Might not be a bad hobby. Good place to observe “alpha’s” and keep fit. However, unless he truly spars I advise against using it for self defense purposes. It’s a sure fire way to get your ass beat if you don’t truly know how to fight.
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