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Post by marcus95 on Jul 1, 2021 16:21:53 GMT
This is something that happened 3 years ago, but I would still like some tips on how to think about this.
Here's the thing:
3 years ago I was at a night club, and practised my pick-up skills.
I had noticed a beautiful girl there, and approached her and started flirting with her.
I both felt and looked my best, and I noticed that I was making good progress and that she seemed interested back.
However, at around that moment, another guy showed up who was intimidating for two reasons:
partly because he was about 6'8 tall and had a muscular powerful build, whereas I am 6'0 and rather light and slender, so he was physically intimidating in terms of apparent power, and partly because he was absolutely gorgeous.
I consider myself a straight guy, but I still found myself feeling stomach flutter when I saw him, and this surprised me a lot.
So as you can probably guess, he had an even more powerful effect on the girl that I was flirting with:
she immediately got distracted, and then after eyeing him for a moment she simply walked up to him and started hitting on him, just like that, and ignored me.
And on top of that, he had had the same effect on two other beautiful girls.
I know that they didn't know him, since I overheard them asking him for his name and where he lived, and things like that, so they were clearly trying to get to know him.
And even though I know that I had made a good impression on the girl that I approached, and that I am myself considered handsome, it did feel quite frustrating how this guy literally just showed up and had a still much more powerful effect on her and two other girls, and in a much shorter time, without doing anything other than standing there.
And frankly, judging by their communication with him - which seemed like it could turn into a makeout session between him and them at any moment - I would not be surprised if he ended up having sex with all of them that same night.
On the contrary, I would probably be very surprised if that did not happen.
I don't know, I just felt like sharing my thoughts on this, and maybe wanted to know what you are thinking about it.
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Post by JackZero on Jul 1, 2021 19:09:05 GMT
How often has this happened to you? It's more of a rhetorical question because the odds of that happening often is not realistic. A muscular 6'8" guy that is so good looking is a pretty rare occurrence. So if I were you, I wouldn't put another thought into it. However, if you ever come across that guy again...make friends with him! Often those guys don't even know how to approach women without being given clear signals. The ones that do know how to approach are less picky than most guys and won't mind letting you get the hotter girl as long as he gets someone who is at least cute.
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Post by marcus95 on Jul 1, 2021 19:54:21 GMT
How often has this happened to you? It's more of a rhetorical question because the odds of that happening often is not realistic. A muscular 6'8" guy that is so good looking is a pretty rare occurrence. So if I were you, I wouldn't put another thought into it. However, if you ever come across that guy again...make friends with him! Often those guys don't even know how to approach women without being given clear signals. The ones that do know how to approach are less picky than most guys and won't mind letting you get the hotter girl as long as he gets someone who is at least cute. This is the only time that this has ever happened to me, and he is the only guy who has ever made me feel that crushed in terms of looks, even though I often hear that I am very handsome myself. I guess I am curious just how common it is with these kinds of guys; the kinds of guys who are so outrageously good-looking that beautiful girls come up and fight about them just like that. I wonder how that would work out for them. |
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Post by JackZero on Jul 1, 2021 22:14:16 GMT
I'll say it again. I wouldn't put another thought into it. Why think about the things that you have no control over? Focus on the things that you can improve.
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Post by N2thevoid on Jul 2, 2021 4:54:47 GMT
I'm 5'9 and I bet I can pull more tail then than that Down syndrome Thor.
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Post by GFRESH2DEF on Jul 3, 2021 2:38:36 GMT
if you ever come across that guy again...make friends with him! Often those guys don't even know how to approach women without being given clear signals. The ones that do know how to approach are less picky than most guys and won't mind letting you get the hotter girl as long as he gets someone who is at least cute. ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ This! I know that you've heard of this saying before.. "If you can't beat him..join him". That's exactly what you should've done. As JackZero said.. "if you ever come across that guy again...make friends with him!"
At the most..the two of you guys together, can clean up at the bars and clubs, that the two of you go to, as each other's wingman. At the very least..you can get his spoils, of the girls that he doesn't want (the 6s and 7s)..because he has better and hotter options. And those girls will be disappointed and heartbroken  . That's where you come in. Stick with her, and take advantage of her high emotional state. A Girl's High Emotional State, can always be converted to a High Sexual State (Escalate > Lead > Close). And more than likely..she'll still be horny and craving some dick. And according to you..you're good looking also. So getting her to transition over to you, from him..shouldn't be that much of daunting task. I read a post on the old forum once, where a guy was reaping some of the spoils..of girls that were rejected, by his much more good looking model friend/wingman. And he did this same thing, that i'm talking about here. -G |
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Post by pilgrimmeister on Jul 3, 2021 8:19:33 GMT
Some guys just win the genetic lottery, nothing you can do about it. But he can't take every girl in the club home with him.
Like others have said, try to make friends with him and work together.
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Post by marcus95 on Jul 5, 2021 12:44:37 GMT
Some guys just win the genetic lottery, nothing you can do about it. But he can't take every girl in the club home with him. Like others have said, try to make friends with him and work together. Yes, I will try to remember doing that the next time this happens. I do have to admit though that this experience with that guy was both frustrating and intriguing to me at the same time. I have heard a lot of times that I am considered "very handsome" according to other people (including women), and I had made sure to be my best self that evening, and I felt great in every way, and the girl that I approached was actually really attractive herself; she was essentially the archetypical "voluptuous blonde with a cute face", so I felt quite nervous when I approached her, and even though she seemed to be a bit hard-to-get in the beginning I did get good contact with her after a few minutes, even though I had to be my most charming self to break the ice, and I would assume that she is usually that way towards guys who approach her, considering her beauty. So it was a very strange experience to suddenly see her gawk at the other guy and become extremely flirty, especially when two other girls came up to him shortly afterwards - and then all those girls started asking him for his name and where he lived, and started giggling and telling him how hot he was, gave him compliments for his muscles and asked if they could feel his upper arms and things like that, and he hadn't taken any initiatives at all to get to that point. And the girl that I had been flirting with had gone from being initially hard-to-get and seemingly aware of her looks, to acting completely submissive and sweet in front of the other guy, like she didn't mind letting him be the center of attention from that point. I decided to just forget about them and go do something else there for a while, and then maybe 20-30 minutes later I saw him sit with the two other girls closely next to him on each side, and the girl that I had approached was standing in front of him leaning on one leg, and playing with her hair by regularly letting it fall behind her back and fixing it up, and it seemed as if she was doing that on purpose just to give the guy a good opportunity to check out her breasts and her belly (and he did seem to check her out like that for a while on several occasions, and she just seemed to enjoy that). The last thing I saw before I left that place was that he had started making out with one of the girls who sat beside him. I wasn't sure that a guy could get those reactions just thanks to his looks. But maybe he was an extremely rare example of a guy with unusually good looks, so that even the bombshells swoon over him like that and feel that they "have to get him". |
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Post by pilgrimmeister on Jul 6, 2021 21:11:48 GMT
He was a competition, and girls love to be competitive, sol will all compete for him, sometimes by any means possible, then rub it in the other girls faces of course.
If you look back at some of my previous posts, I make a point about approaching groups and entertaining the entire group to get them to compete for my attention. I do not isolate the one I am going to take home until the last minute, even sometimes going to an afterparty with the group and isolating when a bedroom is in easy reach.
Sometimes you get the original target, sometimes you don't, but you weigh that up as you go along.
That guy may have also been in a position to invite them all back and isolate one at the last moment (probably could have banged each of them in turn if he wanted).
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Post by flyingbanana on Jul 8, 2021 19:35:58 GMT
See the positives - he distracted that group of girls, so that means there were other girls there he wasn't talking to. If you approached them and the blonde you were talking to sees you aren't bothered and in fact talking to another girl, maybe she starts to think wow maybe I am missing out. Now you've created some tension and intrigue and who knows what might happen. In the meantime, you might get lucky with the new one you are talking to. Physical traits are what they are, if you are uncomfortable around such a tall guy, then just avoid the situation and stress that goes with it. But it really is all mental, some girl there might think tall guys are gross and think you are much sexier. So you might as well keep a positive attitude because who really cares why she is talking to you whether it be because she thinks you are hotter or because she doesn't think she can approach the tall guy - either way it is your opportunity to show her how good you can make her feel. Is every girl you bang a super model? Didn't think so. But I bet it beats using your hand.
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Post by zerobox on Sept 5, 2021 16:25:47 GMT
The vast majority of guys I know that are successful with women had zero in the looks department. Looks don't equate success.
There will always be people who win the lottery. I was once mistaken for being a professional hockey player and was approached by hot young groupies, when they found out I was just me, the air was let out of the balloon fast. The people who get access to all the resources in society are not always deserving, so much for a meritocracy
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Post by marcus95 on Mar 1, 2022 8:04:15 GMT
The vast majority of guys I know that are successful with women had zero in the looks department. Looks don't equate success. There will always be people who win the lottery. I was once mistaken for being a professional hockey player and was approached by hot young groupies, when they found out I was just me, the air was let out of the balloon fast. The people who get access to all the resources in society are not always deserving, so much for a meritocracy Yes, I guess so. The thing that bothered me in this situation was that I had practised a lot in order to be able to approach the beautiful girl at that night club, and then saw this man just appear and accidentally get all attention both from her and from two other girls without doing anything at all. He even looked kind of indifferent to them for a while, but they still hit on him like mad and did their best to keep things on the most flirty and steamy level possible, until he started to flirt back. It was pretty fascinating to see the seemingly hard-to-get type of girl that I had approached suddenly melt like that, and become even more smitten by him than I had ever been by her. I don't think that I have ever seen anything quite like that; she started ogling him, wetting and biting her lips and batting her eyelashes at him as soon as he showed up, and then walked straight up to him and started acting cute in front of him, and those two other girls acted pretty much the same way. I am actually not sure if I would want to be this man; it might be very thrilling the first months or so, but it would probably become harder to appreciate girls if it was this easy, and I guess this might have been the reason why he initially seemed relatively indifferent to it all, but then maybe decided to have some fun with them after all. And like I said, he did end up making out with one of them, while the other girls sat close by and watched. And he was being really intimate with that girl as well, and they embraced each other as much as they could, so if they had been alone then they would have definitely started having sex, no doubt about it (she had even starting making moaning sounds at that point, in between the kissing). And they probably did have sex that night - it certainly looked as if they were heading in that direction. |
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Post by peter86 on Jul 23, 2022 20:11:47 GMT
I knew a guy a lot like this from my own college when I was about 19 years old, although in my case it was back in 2005.
He was probably 6'5, and very fit and good-looking;
let's just say that even I had a very hard time not looking at him, even though I consider myself straight.
It was that almost stereotypical oozing kind of "gorgeous fit supermodel" look that he couldn't hide.
Either way, I would often notice girls pointing at him and giggling and whispering about him, and the girls who walked up to him and talked to him would always blush and act nervous and exhilarated, and he would literally just stand there and let them approach him, and every girl who spent time with him seemed spellbound by him.
It turned out that this guy often switched girls - it was probably very hard for him to resist all opportunities - and I saw him have several different girls around him.
I definitely remember seeing at least maybe 5-6 girls who sat on his lap and tongue-kissed him and tightly embraced him, so I can say without any doubt that those girls had some form of sexual relationship with him.
I would also sometimes see girls wink at him from a distance, and act "cute" and "seductive" in general as much as they dared to do in public without coming off as inappropriate;
usually things like biting and licking their lips in seductive ways while looking at him with half-shut eyes and twirling their hair, almost like they were pretending to have some calm foreplay with him or something.
One thing that surprised me was that he once told me that he could sometimes feel a bit frustrated by this;
apparently, he felt like he wasn't viewed quite as a person, but more like someone who the girls wanted to have sex with.
He said that he enjoyed this the most when it was still new to him, and that it could sometimes be thrilling every now and then, but that he also felt like the more personal connection was missing a bit.
He also said that it was a bit draining to always know that lots of girls were crushing on him, since he didn't want to try to be together with all of them, and that he could sometimes lose respect for girls when they were essentially simping for him and putting him on a pedestal.
Funny how something like this can backfire like that, although probably not that surprising when I think about it.
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. That's where you come in. Stick with her, and take advantage of her high emotional state. A Girl's High Emotional State, can always be converted to a High Sexual State (Escalate > Lead > Close). And more than likely..she'll still be horny and craving some dick. And according to you..you're good looking also. So getting her to transition over to you, from him..shouldn't be that much of daunting task. I read a post on the old forum once, where a guy was reaping some of the spoils..of girls that were rejected, by his much more good looking model friend/wingman. And he did this same thing, that i'm talking about here.
