My beginning story

[G-host]

When i started to aproach women, i remember the first lady i tried to seduce. She was sitting down with a headphone. I just sat down next to her and tried to start a convo. She politely shut me down and told me she was listening to music. It heart a little but it felt good that i had the guts to at least try. Then there where another few short lived tries. Some very casual and some more, well, just more. It took me to a state where i wasnt afraid to hunt for women, and i wasnt afraid of being rejected. Then i remember the last one from that period. I said someting to her, cant recall what. But she said no. And i just sat there, not a care in the world. She waited for a while as if to figure my intention out. Then she suddenly changed her mind and said come on, lets go. It was so rewarding. We had a gread time talking as we realized we both where going the same way. The conversation fired up immediately, we both had so mutch to tell eachother and there was this moment when the both of us became silent, waiting for one of us to speak what we felt was so important. A quiet moment where we both recognized the need of telling eachother that what ever we had to say, was welcomed, respected. Now, a few years later when i look back, my faliure has as mutch to teach me as the perfect result. I now see that the first woman may have been rejecting me becuse when i sat down next to her without having something awesomly interesting to say, must have wondered if i would ever get away from her. So i came up with a formula, a tip on how to attract a woman.


Say a greeting as if you are just passing by, redy to keep walking. when you get an answer, throw a hook out. Wait until you get a response, then speak with your bodylanguage and turn toward the woman. Talk a bit and when the conversation fades, take only one step away. Here, you could gently dance a little back and forth. Then take a step forth as if you ”come back”. And when you feel the moment is there, somehow, come closer. Either with subtle body language, by what u say or litterally.

[G-host]

By the way, it is worth mentioning that the last woman i hang out with, it started when i sat at a table at Mcdonalds. She was sitting at the table next to me.

[GFRESH2DEF]

Oct 21, 2021 15:48:51 GMT G-host said:

When i started to aproach women, i remember the first lady i tried to seduce. She was sitting down with a headphone. I just sat down next to her and tried to start a convo. She politely shut me down and told me she was listening to music. It heart a little but it felt good that i had the guts to at least try. Then there where another few short lived tries. Some very casual and some more, well, just more. It took me to a state where i wasnt afraid to hunt for women, and i wasnt afraid of being rejected.

In general..guys will get to that point (When they no longer take rejections personally. And instead..they take rejection as no more than just a learning experience), once they view pickup as a marathon, and not a sprint. All of it is just learning experiences, that directs you to what you need to improve and work on. That's all. Yes, pickup is about "the results" (number closes..kiss closes..insta-dates..dates..lays..streaks of consecutive lays in a row)..but the results only account for about, 10% to 20% of it. However..the process, accounts for about 80% to 90% of it. So what that means is..most of your time will be spent on "the process" (practicing..learning..slowly improving on your text game..slowly improving your outer game..slowly improving your inner game..building yourself and your life up/self-development..failing..trial & error..rejections..flakes..near number closes..insa-dates that don't end up in pulls..LMR..Shit Tests..Sticking Points..frustrations..Breakthroughs/Epiphanies..etc). So if that's the case (most of your time in game/pickup will be spent on "the process")..then what every guy needs to learn how to do is, start enjoying "the process" more. Take rejections as only learning experiences, and use that rejection..to see where you can improve. And use your frustrations in the game, as fuel and motivation..to get those results that you crave. And do everything in your power, to get that result (or to get those results) that you want from the game/pickup.

Oct 21, 2021 15:48:51 GMT G-host said:

Then i remember the last one from that period. I said someting to her, cant recall what. But she said no. And i just sat there, not a care in the world. She waited for a while as if to figure my intention out. Then she suddenly changed her mind and said come on, lets go. It was so rewarding. We had a gread time talking as we realized we both where going the same way. The conversation fired up immediately, we both had so mutch to tell eachother and there was this moment when the both of us became silent, waiting for one of us to speak what we felt was so important. A quiet moment where we both recognized the need of telling eachother that what ever we had to say, was welcomed, respected. Now, a few years later when i look back, my faliure has as mutch to teach me as the perfect result. I now see that the first woman may have been rejecting me becuse when i sat down next to her without having something awesomly interesting to say, must have wondered if i would ever get away from her. So i came up with a formula, a tip on how to attract a woman.

I'm glad that you learned from it, and you was eventually able to create a system for yourself, to optimize these moments with women. To me..i see that particular situation, as potential for a possible "same day lay" situation. While another guy in that same situation, may just see it as..he just hooked a set, that he initially didn't think was going anywhere..but he didn't proceed any further than that..because he didn't view the situation, as a same day lay opportunity (Aka..Limiting Belief). And alot of times..that is the difference between, you getting a good result with that girl, or you getting a great result with that girl. It's all about what your mindset is, and the opportunities that you see, in that situation.

Oct 21, 2021 15:48:51 GMT G-host said:

Say a greeting as if you are just passing by, redy to keep walking. when you get an answer, throw a hook out. Wait until you get a response, then speak with your bodylanguage and turn toward the woman. Talk a bit and when the conversation fades, take only one step away. Here, you could gently dance a little back and forth. Then take a step forth as if you ”come back”. And when you feel the moment is there, somehow, come closer. Either with subtle body language, by what u say or litterally.

You can only gain this type of insight, and real time calibration..from getting in alot of infield reps. The best advice that i can give you (or any guy who's reading this) is..DO NOT TAKE ANY BREAKS FROM THE GAME/PICKUP!!!!! You can game only 2 or 3 days a week, if you want to..that's completely fine. Just don't take any weeks off (don't even take 1 week off)..i'm warning you guys. Because it's alot easier, for you to maintain this skill..while you're already in a consistent flow/rhythm (while you already have some good momentum going for yourself)..than it is for you to break that momentum, and start all over again..because you took a break from the game. DON'T DO IT! When you take a break from the game/pickup..you will not have that sharp social calibration with a girl that you've just approached, in real time..that OP is talking about here. Because you will not be able to pick up on, most of these subtle social nuances, coming back from a break. Your social skills won't be sharp. Instead of being smooth, you will be awkward. And the rejections that you will get, coming back into the game from a break..will be alot harsher..than the rejections that you will get, while you're still in the game, with a good momentum flow going. And if that is not enough to scare you guys, from not taking any breaks..these breaks can also be the reason why you're in a drought right now..Okay lol. Most of us has experienced what i'm talking about, first hand..because of the pandemic (because of the lockdowns). That was a very long break, that was forced on all of us. And coming out of that very long break, that was forced on us..you've probably noticed that..you are not the same person, that you was before the pandemic. And your game, probably hasn't been the same either. So you guys know, exactly what i'm talking about here. And you see my point. It's alot harder to get back into it, than it is to keep that momentum flow going. And if you are somebody who has kept that momentum going..you've probably also noticed that, you're getting more results with girls now, and it's accumulating more quickly too..now that you are in a good momentum flow.



-G

[G-host]

yes, thanks for your reply!

[G-host]

GFRESH2DEF, you wrote "To me..i see that particular situation, as potential for a possible "same day lay" situation." How come?

[G-host]

I would like to explain this further cuz i left a few things that could be of value. It didnt take long for her to tell me that she had a boyfriend, a rastafarian. She also told me that they didnt meet up for to often becuse he worked in a nother counntry and she was regularly visiting, i think it was africa, to work as a nurse or something in the caretaking. It reminded me of another woman i met before her. She too said she had a beyfriend, and even felt the need to show me a pictuer on her deskop on her phone, of them togheter. It spoke to me, that, she would have been intereseted otherwise. To save me from thinking a wasnt good enough. I think she appreciated the approch. So i hanged out with her for a short while until her train came. I was treating her very friendly and made it clear by my behaviour and attitude that i didnt have sex on my mind, i was just having a normal converastion with her. So anyway, when the other woman told me about her rasta boyfriend, my rutine changed by itself, i had already set these pathways in my brain. She seamed honset becuse she looked like she was having as good time with me as me with her. But if she was lying, i figured she had a good reason to do so. Later, she asked me if i smoked.. and my sould was set on fire. I told her, yes, both cigaretes and the ganja. Not in those exact words but, yeah. She gave me a smoke afte she showed me a joint among her cigarettes, she gave me a cigg and told me we could chare that one with weed (unusual for me to smoke the flower insted of hashish), so i was thrilled about it. We went, we had a good time and we did smoke that one before we said good by. Cant remember if it but i felt as if we hugged. And shortly before it, i notced she had one of the best asses ive seen. And her face, she reminded me of me, only more beautiful haha this reminded me also, of a place i hanged out in, a parking space with walls and floors. There was a place known for people to find its shelter to smoke. I was there, hidding from the weather when a hot young woman appeared and asked if i wnated to join her for a smoke. Twice, it happened. Felt like a God sent