Another advice solicitation - Online date setup

[TheWhiteTiger]

I've been chatting with this Vietnamese girl online for a few days now through Bumble, 4 days ago we exchanged phone numbers and made plans to meet up this Sunday. However, we didn't make plans for the time. She is a student studying... something about management, and we've been joking that she is dangerous and only acting innocent so she's a little devil. 

I'm also getting the impression her English isn't tip top, so her conversation skills are pretty basic.

Today this was our conversation:

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Me: How is this little devil enjoying the gorgeous day?

Her: Morning senior devil!
Just finished my morning class, now have to research how to trick youuu =))

Me: I'm un-trickable!!!

Her:

Me: I'll research how to trick you instead 


Her: You see, you are dangerous n just trying to trick an innocent person like me

Me: > "Just finished my morning class, now have to research how to trick youuu =))"
Clearly not innocent

Her:  
I don't think I can trick you so I give up =))

Me: I can pick you up on Sunday and we can go to city-XXXX for coffee or bubble tea

Her: 7:30pm is fine for you?
I have an assignment due at 7pm


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So that is where I am now. On the whole she is a student, so this sounds like a reasonable accommodation and we can just go for bubble tea.


However, am I being too chill and falling into her frame? Yes, I know I'm overthinking this, we are an overthinking bunch here.

[pilgrimmeister]

You're over thinking it. Date now arranged so can go minimal contact until on the day, then grab her number. Don't talk yourself out of a date. Resist it. 

[JackZero]

If you are acting outside of what is normal for you in order to not lose the girl, then you are falling into her frame.

[TheWhiteTiger]

Mar 25, 2022 20:43:23 GMT JackZero said:

If you are acting outside of what is normal for you in order to not lose the girl, then you are falling into her frame.

I understand where you're coming from, but if I were a person prone to over-extending "normally", this wouldn't be a good guideline. 

I know a bit of introspection never killed anyone, but part of the problem for guys (or people in general) is that we're REALLY good at rationalizing for ourselves, so I wanted to have a reality check here

[JackZero]

Mar 25, 2022 23:04:57 GMT TheWhiteTiger said:

Mar 25, 2022 20:43:23 GMT JackZero said:

If you are acting outside of what is normal for you in order to not lose the girl, then you are falling into her frame.

I understand where you're coming from, but if I were a person prone to over-extending "normally", this wouldn't be a good guideline. 

I know a bit of introspection never killed anyone, but part of the problem for guys (or people in general) is that we're REALLY good at rationalizing for ourselves, so I wanted to have a reality check here

Is what you are doing with this girl being done because you are afraid to lose her?

[TheWhiteTiger]

Mar 26, 2022 0:13:48 GMT JackZero said:

Mar 25, 2022 23:04:57 GMT TheWhiteTiger said:

I understand where you're coming from, but if I were a person prone to over-extending "normally", this wouldn't be a good guideline. 

I know a bit of introspection never killed anyone, but part of the problem for guys (or people in general) is that we're REALLY good at rationalizing for ourselves, so I wanted to have a reality check here

Is what you are doing with this girl being done because you are afraid to lose her?

I don't think so

[JackZero]

Mar 26, 2022 0:29:00 GMT TheWhiteTiger said:

Mar 26, 2022 0:13:48 GMT JackZero said:

Is what you are doing with this girl being done because you are afraid to lose her?

I don't think so

Then you are not falling into her frame.