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Post by TheWhiteTiger on Apr 25, 2022 1:24:34 GMT
I've been chatting to these two girls I met online, have gone on two dates so far (one was super AFC date, one was good). It occurs to me that a great deal of a successful PUA experience, at least online or via chat/talking is "doing nothing", or as David Deangelo in his time put it; "Giving the girl the gift of missing you".
I've been itching to message both of them all day today, but I was holding myself back, they both messaged me to re-initiate conversation. I think it extends to other aspects of the dating experience, but it strikes me that doing nothing is rather difficult in these situations.
What are other guys' thoughts of this? In the context of online/text/phone or in person
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Post by pilgrimmeister on Apr 26, 2022 23:39:25 GMT
Agreed I have been dating a girl who I only really text to set up dates. If there is gap between dates because life can get busy, I will call her once a week over the weekend for a catchup, and maybe drop her a text midweek to check in if not head anything for 3-4 days. In the past where I have over texted, I have lost them, so now I actively avoid it. It works for me. When we are together, we have plenty to talk about and we're all over each other.
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Post by flyingbanana on May 24, 2022 23:56:09 GMT
This is a tough one and I think you have to gauge the girl. I am talking to a couple girls who if I do not text bitch me out about it. No one size fits all. Also, depends what you want - do you want a girl you share your day with and talk about everything or not? Some guys love that some don't.
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Post by TheWhiteTiger on May 27, 2022 1:26:19 GMT
This is a tough one and I think you have to gauge the girl. I am talking to a couple girls who if I do not text bitch me out about it. I think that speaks to the point though. You do not text (aka "do nothing") and the girls respond by reaching for your attention |
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Post by flyingbanana on Jun 7, 2022 16:21:24 GMT
This is a tough one and I think you have to gauge the girl. I am talking to a couple girls who if I do not text bitch me out about it. I think that speaks to the point though. You do not text (aka "do nothing") and the girls respond by reaching for your attention Yes - but then it has the potential to create a negative feeling and building a bond over the negativity. But true, they are still reaching out for attention. That is why it is a tough one lol. I might be off on this one, I did a little experiment about this and will write about it in my updated journal entry. |
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Post by spicybisket on Jun 18, 2022 13:55:58 GMT
Too much over thinking. If you are just getting to know each other do not share everything over text else you can't use the material on your date to properly get to know each other and move the interaction along to where you want it. If you guys are past the initial stages and chat during the week via text its cool. I've had girls text me to death before first date to find out info to decide if I am worth the first date, that was a case where she just wanted a dude to buy her expensive dinners. Like someone above said, play it by year and consider what stage in the game you are with her. Also, what is she looking for.
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Post by Alex Penn on Dec 8, 2023 14:48:31 GMT
Chill out on the constant texting. Let them hit you up sometimes. Ever notice how it feels good when they make the move? Don't force it; let it happen.
Question for you: Ever think things go smoother when it's not forced? Be the dude they want to talk to, not the one they're avoiding.
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