Cute girl at strabucks. How should I get her on a date?

[TheWhiteTiger]

Cute girl at starbucks that is there every other day during morning shift as I get my coffee to work. Japanese and so her English is not very strong.
She remembers my name, so not sure if it's an IOI but that is not a disqualification.

I was there today and I chatted with her very briefly.
Asked her if she started too early and she said she started at 7, and finished at 2.

I was there around 2 and thought I can chat with her after her shift but she left with a shift-mate and all I could do was ask "oh hey how's it going?" when I walked past them on my way to take care of some errands.

Any idea how I can approach this situation?

[JackZero]

I am not a fan of making an approach when girls are at work because it's not optimal at all. It's a shoot your shot and hope for the best most of the time because she likely won't have the time to focus on a conversation with you. The thing that is in your advantage is that you can put flirt time in with this girl and how receptive she is. If she is receptive to you flirting with her, the next time you come in(or couple of times) you push it further and get her contact information.

[N2thevoid]

You should totally ask her out.

[TheWhiteTiger]

Jun 15, 2022 0:59:24 GMT N2thevoid said:

You should totally ask her out.

Did so, she said no, moving on...

[Wacker]

Atleast u got an answer. The "what if" sucks. I had a similar experience.

I was looking for a gym trainer. The 2nd gym i went to the girl who was working and telling me about the programs sent me lots of IOIs. I thought that i was going to sign up for that gym so i didnt try to number close.

Well. I found a better gym with a way better trainer. But i was still thinking about her. I went back to her gym a few days later and went for the number close. Because fck the "what if"!

I was so nervous man. Lol. I didnt even know if she was working that night. I walk in and i say
Me. Hey. Is Kate here?
Employee. Yeah. Shes right there.
Kate. Hey.
Me. So i got good news and bad news. Which do u want first?
Kate. Bad news.
Me. I found a better gym.
Kate. Awwwe. But this gym is way better because blahblahblah. Oh. And the good news?
Me. U got a really fun personality. Its bubbly. And...fuck. Ur eyes are so blue.
Kate. (Smiles with hair toss) Just give me a second. I have to finish with my customer.

She walked off and i sat down in the waiting area. I could see her. She was like 15 feet away. And i swear guys. My heart rate was going crazy while i waited. Lol. Waited like 3minutes. But it felt like 30.

Kate. Hey. So what were we talking about?(while tossing her hair and sitting down next to me)
Me. Id like to take u out. Get to know u better.
Kate. Oh... Unfortunately i have a boyfriend. I actually met him here.
Me.(thinking to myself. I drove down here. Im going all in. Boyfriend destroyer time) oh. Are you two getting engaged?
Her. Oh no.
Me. But ur living together.
Her. No.
Me. I bet hes a great guy tho. I bet he brings u dancing. To nice lookouts.
Her. No... :/
Me.(still holding eyecontact)
Her. But u and I can be friends.
Me. Yeah. Id be comfortable with that. Hell, i still barely know u. U might not even be friend material for all i know *grin
Her. (Hairtoss/ioi. The neg/qualifier worked) whats ur instagram.
Me.(I follow her on insta. And right when we stand up to say goodbye i grab her hand and hold it longer than needed. I hold strong eyecontact and say) it was nice seeing u again
Her(instantly blushes, looks down. Hair toss. Looks up at my eyes and smiles.)

I got home that night. And the following morning she blocked me. Lol. Her boyfriends could had found out. She could of thought that me being her friend was unlikely. Which to be honest. I would had been cool with. But u see. Some girls wont believe that u would be fine with being friends. So they dont trust u and end of postponing a hangout or ghost u. But my god i was so happy with myself. I got rid of that "what if" feeling. And that i was able to deal with the social pressure in that gym.

So yeah man. Good job. Better to get a no than to daydream about a girl while simultaneously turning down other women because of this daydream.

[TheWhiteTiger]

Yeah, it's likely a guilt thing or something else related to the boyfriend in your case. I think the approach was good Wacker.

One note, my personal policy on these websites is not to use names. "Kate" is a pretty generic name, but still, I think folks would generally appreciate not being known here.

[Wacker]

I forgot her name already. Lol. Thats why i used kate. Next time il use hot babe blue eyed girl. Lol

[Alex Penn]

Nice, dude. She's noticing. Next move? Catch her another day, maybe arrive a bit earlier. Slide in, chat her up, and suggest grabbing a coffee together after her shift. Keep it casual, see where it goes. What's your play to turn this coffee break into something more?