Pulling the relationship trigger. (The Talk)
Apr 5, 2018 16:29:15 GMT
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Post by Heywood Jablowme on Apr 5, 2018 16:29:15 GMT
You’ve been dating this super-hot female for a couple of weeks now, and you have this nagging urge to stake a permanent claim on her ass.
Exclusive drilling rights on that fertile property, must be yours! One of the first and most common questions is simply “when should you have the defining the relationship” talk?
Why?
Because you love her?
Wrong!
You don’t know a fucking thing about her. Being in love is about knowing someone inside and out, and then loving them, regardless.
You don’t know her that well yet.
Well then why do you still have that nagging feeling you must get her to commit to being exclusive?
Two main reasons for this early stage type of commitment requesting, and both are needy as fuck. And as we all know, needy = I’m about to fuck this shit up.
1. You haven’t even had a chance to bang this beauty yet, because you’ve been too scared to make a move, because you think if you push for sex, she’ll think that’s all you are about. So if you put your sold sticker on it, nobody else will get a chance to yank them panties down and get their dirty finger prints all over it before you do. Never start the talk until after you start sleeping together.
2. You were clever enough to wear her down with pleading and crying, that she let you into her wet little pleasure pocket, and you spent all night ruining a couch cushion or two. It was fantastic. Even better than playing Call of Duty with your semi retarded friends. Then you realized how she enjoyed sex as much or more than you did. So you must lock that shit down before that little cock craver girl goes on a dick binge, with more than just your dick!
No & No.
Springing ‘the talk’ on her to early could be the most counterproductive way to negotiate something as important as the potential future of your relationship with her. The pressure for her to agree can be intense, causing confusion. And a confused mind usually says NO.
Firstly sex is one of those critical moments that can make or break what could turn into a relationship. Without sex there is no relationship, only a friendship. Friends typically don’t fuck each other.
Secondly, banging boots a couple times in the way back of your mom’s KIA Sorrento doesn’t cut it either. It just makes you fuck buddies. Feeling the ropes. Checking each other out. Finding out about each other’s lives outside of the bedroom/back seat. Hopes, dreams, hobbies, families, careers. That kind of shit, that’s how you let things develop.
Now, I can’t tell you when it is a good time to do it and neither can your Bro’s, hoe’s or your sister or that relationship smart guy at the 7-11 where you buy your smokes, because it depends on how you play it.
The best way is to let things flow naturally. Usually about three months in, she’ll change her status.
The fact is, if you’ve been finding that you’re seeing each other more and more often lately, that’s often a sign that you’re both becoming more and more interested in one another and invested in your relationship together.
Never have ‘the talk’ to express an ultimatum, she will see this as weak and needy, making her wonder if you’re the right guy.
Don’t nag the shit out of her into accepting your offer either after all, just as you don’t want to be pressured into a relationship you don’t want, neither does she.
If you are ever feeling like you need to have this talk to put her on lockdown, you are jumping the gun!
If she starts asking…well then there you go…………
Exclusive drilling rights on that fertile property, must be yours! One of the first and most common questions is simply “when should you have the defining the relationship” talk?
Why?
Because you love her?
Wrong!
You don’t know a fucking thing about her. Being in love is about knowing someone inside and out, and then loving them, regardless.
You don’t know her that well yet.
Well then why do you still have that nagging feeling you must get her to commit to being exclusive?
Two main reasons for this early stage type of commitment requesting, and both are needy as fuck. And as we all know, needy = I’m about to fuck this shit up.
1. You haven’t even had a chance to bang this beauty yet, because you’ve been too scared to make a move, because you think if you push for sex, she’ll think that’s all you are about. So if you put your sold sticker on it, nobody else will get a chance to yank them panties down and get their dirty finger prints all over it before you do. Never start the talk until after you start sleeping together.
2. You were clever enough to wear her down with pleading and crying, that she let you into her wet little pleasure pocket, and you spent all night ruining a couch cushion or two. It was fantastic. Even better than playing Call of Duty with your semi retarded friends. Then you realized how she enjoyed sex as much or more than you did. So you must lock that shit down before that little cock craver girl goes on a dick binge, with more than just your dick!
No & No.
Springing ‘the talk’ on her to early could be the most counterproductive way to negotiate something as important as the potential future of your relationship with her. The pressure for her to agree can be intense, causing confusion. And a confused mind usually says NO.
Firstly sex is one of those critical moments that can make or break what could turn into a relationship. Without sex there is no relationship, only a friendship. Friends typically don’t fuck each other.
Secondly, banging boots a couple times in the way back of your mom’s KIA Sorrento doesn’t cut it either. It just makes you fuck buddies. Feeling the ropes. Checking each other out. Finding out about each other’s lives outside of the bedroom/back seat. Hopes, dreams, hobbies, families, careers. That kind of shit, that’s how you let things develop.
Now, I can’t tell you when it is a good time to do it and neither can your Bro’s, hoe’s or your sister or that relationship smart guy at the 7-11 where you buy your smokes, because it depends on how you play it.
The best way is to let things flow naturally. Usually about three months in, she’ll change her status.
The fact is, if you’ve been finding that you’re seeing each other more and more often lately, that’s often a sign that you’re both becoming more and more interested in one another and invested in your relationship together.
Never have ‘the talk’ to express an ultimatum, she will see this as weak and needy, making her wonder if you’re the right guy.
Don’t nag the shit out of her into accepting your offer either after all, just as you don’t want to be pressured into a relationship you don’t want, neither does she.
If you are ever feeling like you need to have this talk to put her on lockdown, you are jumping the gun!
If she starts asking…well then there you go…………
