Post by bluecollar on Oct 7, 2022 14:15:23 GMT
last night I went to a college bar and socialized with a few groups of people.
theres a few questions that I have.
when you're talking to the bartender what should the vibe be. the bartender was trying to ask questions to me and my friend but I just answered them and thats all. I would've like to start more of a flirting conversation and use her as a social lubricant/ social validation.
As the night went on I started to get into a type of anamilistic mindset where I was the hunter and everyone else is the prey. I know that this isn't the correct mindset I need to be in, in order to preform best but it did help with introducing myself to people and getting my foot in the door into conversations with guys and girls. I also think that I was getting to the point where everything that came out of my mouth needed to have some type of clever/mischeivious vibe to it.
all in all I think that I don't lack any social confidence which is really good, but I'm the one person that should lack it because some conversations start to not make sense and are all over the place. Nothing is really directred to a final purpose. for instance, I would walk up to a group of girls with no target in mind, no game plan in my head. I would just start a conversation and get them all involved but then I would choke because I had no purpose being there, LITERALLY lol. So every conversation just ended with me mumbling something undermybreath and walking away from groups of people that were actually intriguied by the conversation.
theres a few questions that I have.
when you're talking to the bartender what should the vibe be. the bartender was trying to ask questions to me and my friend but I just answered them and thats all. I would've like to start more of a flirting conversation and use her as a social lubricant/ social validation.
As the night went on I started to get into a type of anamilistic mindset where I was the hunter and everyone else is the prey. I know that this isn't the correct mindset I need to be in, in order to preform best but it did help with introducing myself to people and getting my foot in the door into conversations with guys and girls. I also think that I was getting to the point where everything that came out of my mouth needed to have some type of clever/mischeivious vibe to it.
all in all I think that I don't lack any social confidence which is really good, but I'm the one person that should lack it because some conversations start to not make sense and are all over the place. Nothing is really directred to a final purpose. for instance, I would walk up to a group of girls with no target in mind, no game plan in my head. I would just start a conversation and get them all involved but then I would choke because I had no purpose being there, LITERALLY lol. So every conversation just ended with me mumbling something undermybreath and walking away from groups of people that were actually intriguied by the conversation.