poolek
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Post by poolek on Apr 11, 2018 22:01:59 GMT
I did like R.C said. She said she understand but she still not gonna work there. So its a win for me
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Post by N2thevoid on Apr 12, 2018 0:39:58 GMT
"I'd simply communicate to her that she can obviously do as she wishes, but at the same time express that I don't entire understand why someone who she calls a friend has a habit of actively trying to persuade her to ruin her lovelife. That's pretty much it."
The problem with this is that if assumes people feel safe with one another. If two people don't speak their needs in a relationship, or more specifically don't feel safe in doing so - they will here the message as a demand, rather than a request and what will happen is that person may agree to understand but then begrudge their partner. U'll find out in time of course if this is the case. Hopefully not.
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poolek
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Post by poolek on Apr 12, 2018 21:31:43 GMT
Well I think Im clearly saying what I want and what I dont want in relationship. I also think that my girlfriend is the same. She said to me that many times, that she feel really good with me, because she can speak to me about everything.She said that before with other boyfriends she realised she had to watch what she says because it would make them angry. Is that what you mean ?
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Post by N2thevoid on Apr 12, 2018 22:44:40 GMT
So it sounds as though she didn’t feel safe in a former relationships. Hopefully the two of you can come together and creating a safe space for the two of you to share needs openly. This could be a good opportunity moving forward and setting the example.
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Post by N2thevoid on Apr 12, 2018 22:44:58 GMT
If I sound ESL blame Siri
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