I can't see how I'm attractive

[81star]

I get hit on by girls and they invite me to ask them out, but I am always shocked when this happens. Because I can't understand why they would like me. I can't understand why they wouldn't rather just go for Ben Affleck or someone that looks like him. Does anybody know why guys like me think this way? My best guess is that I am not living up to my own standards for myself and therefore I can't see why they would like me. Sometimes I reflect and think that I have such great talent and ability but I am not putting it to use, and therefore I feel like I am currently only 1/10th of what I could and should be. But I don't know for sure why I think like this.

Another reason for my thinking might be that I am just very honest with myself when I see how ugly I look. I'm not the type that bullshits himself into thinking he's handsome. I'm short, fat, rather old, have an ugly face, and I don't feel sad about that, I am personally totally fine with my appearance, but I can't understand why someone would go for me. It's wierd to me. Aren't there plenty of Justin Bieber types out there for them to go with instead?

[JackZero]

So the point is that you aren't attractive but women want to date you? I don't see a problem that we can address here if you are only describing your physical appearance. There would have to be more to it.

[pilgrimmeister]

All down to self esteem. So don't forget, women aren't only interested in looks. Too many think that's the be all and end all. You must have other qualities.

[N2thevoid]

Jack, I inputted this into the Bat Computer "How to be a more attractive male" and it spat-out this:

Take care of your physical appearance by exercising regularly, eating a healthy diet, and maintaining good hygiene.
Develop confidence by working on your self-esteem and practicing self-acceptance.
Show empathy and compassion towards others and engage in meaningful conversations.
Be genuine, authentic, and true to yourself.
Be a good listener and show interest in others.
Have a positive attitude and a sense of humor.
Be well-groomed and stylish, but avoid being overly flashy or showy.
Be respectful and considerate towards others.
Be ambitious and driven, but also humble and gracious.
Be a good friend and support system for those around you.

[Alex Penn]

First things first, drop the self-doubt. Women are hitting on you because they see something. Got it? It's not about Ben Affleck or Justin Bieber. It's about you.

Now, the whole "1/10th of what I could be" crap? Cut it out. Own your talents, man. Put that potential to work. Confidence is magnetic.

Yeah, maybe you're not Hollywood's poster boy, but who cares? Own your look. If you're fine with it, they'll be fine with it.

Quit overthinking. Take those chances. Ask those girls out.