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Post by saddog on Apr 29, 2018 6:45:10 GMT
I made a post about being awkward to been alone at dance party, heres the followup. Well, today was a major fuck up. Everyone was advanced, so I kind freeze. pros, lots of girls was open to dance with me, like stopped in front of me, waiting to me approach, one approached me to dance, but she was not my type. Cons, holy shit, I was the only begginer/intermediate of that place, more men than women, lots with boyfriend.
I approach a chubby lady, because, yeah, better start with the chubbys, danced 2 musics with her, than she was too much over me, ejected(I shouldnt not ejected). After that, I saw a cute girl alone, approached her, danced, in the mess we kind connect, and in the end she was looking to me like wanted dance more, but was kind weird vibe, than I ejected, when we are leaving the dance floor she hugged her boyfriend, like "was just a dance", and he was with a upset face(clicked why the weird vibe). Than got some water, a girl was trying to socialize but, I am not the type of guy of small talk, her hand was all over me, we just met, I think she was drunk hahahaha, I had no interest on her, so again, ejected. My dance instructor was there, but I didnt want to meet her, probably she would insist to stay more and practice, but was way, way out of my league. Guys were ahead of me in skills, and I play to win. Well, at least I know that I need to practice more, go to more intermediate partys in dances schools and avoid those large partys, lots hot girls, but lots of competition too. In the near future I see sucess in my strategy.
I will use this thread to followup my progress, so, soon updates
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Post by GFRESH2DEF on Apr 29, 2018 20:25:49 GMT
Why is there always so much emphasis on how well the dancing needs to be, in your posts? You do know that you can be a bad dancer and still do very well with women right? Especially if the other parts of your game is decent. I think you're setting the bar way too high for yourself. It's not even as high as you think it is.
It's not about how well you dance, but rather how much fun does it look like you're having while you're dancing. A guy who's at a dance party and doesn't know how to dance that well, can still get laid by some girl at that party if he looks like he's having alot of fun doing it.
-G
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Post by N2thevoid on Apr 29, 2018 20:36:01 GMT
His posts kinda remind me of a night at the Roxbury
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Post by GFRESH2DEF on Apr 29, 2018 20:42:53 GMT
His posts kinda remind me of a night at the Roxbury LOL -G |
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Post by saddog on Apr 29, 2018 22:45:06 GMT
Why is there always so much emphasis on how well the dancing needs to be, in your posts? You do know that you can be a bad dancer and still do very well with women right? Especially if the other parts of your game is decent. I think you're setting the bar way too high for yourself. It's not even as high as you think it is. It's not about how well you dance, but rather how much fun does it look like you're having while you're dancing. A guy who's at a dance party and doesn't know how to dance that well, can still get laid by some girl at that party if he looks like he's having alot of fun doing it. -G yeap, but one analogy will be athletic or fat. If you are not in shape, and go to a place where everyone is ripped, and there is more men than women, will be way harder to succeed, but you still can. Its more about do less and get more results. Next time I will choose a better place with a more diverse crowd |
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Post by saddog on Apr 29, 2018 22:46:19 GMT
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Post by GenmLevel0 on Apr 29, 2018 23:37:19 GMT
Yeah, it'd be great if you can find some ppl to go out with for the sake of practice; maybe people from your dance class?
Also, depending on your age, most universities/colleges in the US have a dance club, you can use these folks to practice your dancing.
One more thing... after 3,4,5 songs in a row, many girls want to sit down and rest, make note of those, try approaching them too; "Well, that's my cardio for the week done, is this the cool kids corner?"
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Post by GFRESH2DEF on Apr 29, 2018 23:49:06 GMT
yeap, but one analogy will be athletic or fat. If you are not in shape, and go to a place where everyone is ripped, and there is more men than women, will be way harder to succeed, but you still can. Its more about do less and get more results. Next time I will choose a better place with a more diverse crowd Go to a venue where there's more volume of girls, and a good Female to Male ratio..like 6 to 3. And at the very least..i find that you will get alot of reps in a venue where there's a high volume of girls, and a good Female to Male ratio there. And i'm going to say this again..guys need to approach more! I found this out about myself as well. That's why my very 1st sticking point when i first began pickup "which was approaching", is now my current sticking point again. If you are approaching 5 girls in a night for an example, that isn't close to being enough. Now can you end up pulling one of those 5 girls by the end of the night?..Of course you can! But by only just approaching 5 girls..you're limiting the amount of reps that you can have for that night, and you're not learning as much as you could be learning had you just approached more girls. If there is a high volume of girls at that venue..you should be maximizing on that opportunity (getting as much reps in as you possibly can)! By approaching more girls in a single day or night (preferably 12+) you are also shortening your learning curve. The more girls that you approach, the faster you will learn and gain alot of reference experience in a short period of time. And for you guys that are results driven..if you approach 12 girls that day or night..you have a far better chance at getting laid than if you had only approached 5 girls that day or night. It's just simple mathematics. It's not rocket science. -G |
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Post by JackZero on Apr 30, 2018 16:06:05 GMT
I would love to see a report from you in which you approach a girl that you're interested in and give no excuses for why you didn't approach.
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Post by saddog on May 3, 2018 14:57:46 GMT
I would love to see a report from you in which you approach a girl that you're interested in and give no excuses for why you didn't approach. I will make every effort on this, senpai |
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Post by saddog on May 3, 2018 14:59:14 GMT
yeap, but one analogy will be athletic or fat. If you are not in shape, and go to a place where everyone is ripped, and there is more men than women, will be way harder to succeed, but you still can. Its more about do less and get more results. Next time I will choose a better place with a more diverse crowd Go to a venue where there's more volume of girls, and a good Female to Male ratio..like 6 to 3. And at the very least..i find that you will get alot of reps in a venue where there's a high volume of girls, and a good Female to Male ratio there. And i'm going to say this again..guys need to approach more! I found this out about myself as well. That's why my very 1st sticking point when i first began pickup "which was approaching", is now my current sticking point again. If you are approaching 5 girls in a night for an example, that isn't close to being enough. Now can you end up pulling one of those 5 girls by the end of the night?..Of course you can! But by only just approaching 5 girls..you're limiting the amount of reps that you can have for that night, and you're not learning as much as you could be learning had you just approached more girls. If there is a high volume of girls at that venue..you should be maximizing on that opportunity (getting as much reps in as you possibly can)! By approaching more girls in a single day or night (preferably 12+) you are also shortening your learning curve. The more girls that you approach, the faster you will learn and gain alot of reference experience in a short period of time. And for you guys that are results driven..if you approach 12 girls that day or night..you have a far better chance at getting laid than if you had only approached 5 girls that day or night. It's just simple mathematics. It's not rocket science. -G yeah, I should approached more girls for sure. |
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Post by GFRESH2DEF on May 3, 2018 15:28:26 GMT
Yeah, i believe the approach part of pickup to be largely untapped, unlike any other part of the seduction process. If you can get better at the approach..that can probably mean that you can get girls attracted to you alot quicker than you used to. If your approach is on point..when you hook the girl, the hook may even be alot more solid, than if you had came at her with a weak or so so approach prior to the hook.
You're a beginner, so you don't really need to focus so much on complicating the approach. All you need to do is approach more girls at any venue that you go to, approach with assertiveness (no indecisive hesitation on the approach), and keep a positive mindset before you approach each one of those girls (in other words..no negative self-talk before you approach like "She's out of my league, she would never like me". Instead think positive self-talk like "She is an attractive woman and i am an attractive man. That is more than good enough for it to work"). As for me..this is a sticking point that i'm currently exploring on a deep level right now. I'm like a scientist when it comes to pickup sometimes. Lol
-G
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