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Post by ninjabib on Jun 5, 2018 22:25:22 GMT
So as mentioned in an earlier post a month or so back around a year ago i suffered a bad fall and though the physical scars have mainly gone, its left me with some mental scars (GA, PTSD and post concussion syndrome is the diagnosis) that i'm finally getting therapy for. I've noticed that since beginning therapy around 3 weeks ago however that i lack the desire to pull a woman. I dunno if it's just a loss of libido now i've admitted to myself what i'm going through or what but it's really strange. I keep trying to push myself onto chatting to any woman i can when i'm out but after making the small talk and opening them i find no desire to push on whether i find them atractive or not (happy to talk to anyone in social friendly manner).
ANyone esle been in therapy and if so did you keep on keeping on with women or did you feel the same? I guess my mind is a mess at the moment and i just hoping to hear this indifference to women will pass.
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Post by siezectrl on Jun 6, 2018 14:59:01 GMT
Since nobody on here is a psychologist, I can only give you what happened to me and person experience. I came back from the Gulf with PTSD and while state side I thought I was good to go. Then the worst thing to ever happen to a parent happened twice to me. I was not in a good place both mentally and physically. I went to a psychologist because I didn't want to take drugs and she performed what was called EMDR and it changed my life. Before treatment I had zero social or sexual interest, even with my current girls at the time. I realized I needed to focus on myself.
I feel there are times in our lives that we have to be selfish and take care of what's going on with us. My recommendation would be to find a good treatment that works for you and focus on your mental and physical healing. You can also use the time for self development, meditation, and self discovery. About half way through my treatments I started feeling better about myself, I could focus, and I started approaching every girl I could see. With everything I went through and my new found focus, I found approaching to be easier than it was before.
Anyway just my two cents, hope it helps and I hope you get through this dark time and come out brighter on the other side.
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Post by ninjabib on Jun 6, 2018 21:56:01 GMT
Many thanks for being open about your experience and sharing it. I think it's making me feel 'less of a man' for not being interested at the moment but your advice sounds good to me. I will focus on myself, it played a big part in my breakup so i definitely need to get myself correct befre trying for a new relationship. Sorry to hear of your loss as well. You have made me feel much better already, somedays it feels like i will never get out of this, stuck as a shell of my former self. I'm glad to hear you did though and i'm sure with enough therapy i will too.  |
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Post by siezectrl on Jun 6, 2018 22:22:58 GMT
You will make it and I firmly believe that when you look back at rebuilding yourself you will notice a revelation that happened and made you better. You may not have even noticed while it happened. Keep your head up and you will pull through. Best of luck man.
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Post by ninjabib on Jun 6, 2018 22:40:50 GMT
Thanks, you too.
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Post by N2thevoid on Jun 9, 2018 5:59:06 GMT
Since nobody on here is a psychologist, I can only give you what happened to me and person experience. I came back from the Gulf with PTSD and while state side I thought I was good to go. Then the worst thing to ever happen to a parent happened twice to me. I was not in a good place both mentally and physically. I went to a psychologist because I didn't want to take drugs and she performed what was called EMDR and it changed my life. Before treatment I had zero social or sexual interest, even with my current girls at the time. I realized I needed to focus on myself. I feel there are times in our lives that we have to be selfish and take care of what's going on with us. My recommendation would be to find a good treatment that works for you and focus on your mental and physical healing. You can also use the time for self development, meditation, and self discovery. About half way through my treatments I started feeling better about myself, I could focus, and I started approaching every girl I could see. With everything I went through and my new found focus, I found approaching to be easier than it was before. Anyway just my two cents, hope it helps and I hope you get through this dark time and come out brighter on the other side. I am a psychotherapist. EMDR is good, OEI is good too. |
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Post by siezectrl on Jun 9, 2018 12:35:52 GMT
Cool, thanks for adding another option to the list. Never tried that one, just know what worked for me.
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Post by ninjabib on Mar 12, 2019 0:30:23 GMT
Just quickly wanted to say you guys were right. Just Had 4 sessions of EMDR after hitting a wall with normal talk therapy and my EMDR therapist said that's enough for me unless I really feel the need to go back.
Already feel a lot more like the old me. Went out Saturday and had so much fun I was fighting the chicks off. Now to really get back on it. Great suggestion guys thanks!
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Post by GFRESH2DEF on Mar 12, 2019 15:26:57 GMT
Just quickly wanted to say you guys were right. Just Had 4 sessions of EMDR after hitting a wall with normal talk therapy and my EMDR therapist said that's enough for me unless I really feel the need to go back. Already feel a lot more like the old me. Went out Saturday and had so much fun I was fighting the chicks off. Now to really get back on it. Great suggestion guys thanks! That's awesome! I'm very happy for you ninjabib.  Post them field reports brah! Lol I would love to read them. -G |
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Post by ninjabib on Mar 12, 2019 17:07:13 GMT
Thanks Gfresh!
Not really much to report as I wasn't approaching them, they were coming to me. Before my brain injury I was the life of the party and it's kinda always been this way that girls come to me as I usually don't care and do what I want as long as it's fun.
A few told me to add then in Facebook which I did but had to reject them on it last night. Wasn't attracted but they were cool girls to be friends with. One chick came upto me and slapped my ass and her line was " I got some coke with your name on it, let's go toilets" so we did but in the chaos after we got separated but she wasn't particularly anything special I just couldn't resist haha.
Going to take things easy for the next week or two then start to push things onwards.
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