Getting turned on

[svabos]

When you guys get hard on by the girl?

I've been a heavy porn user thru my whole life and can't get turned on by girl unless she acts extremely sexual, like gets undressed and starts to present me her pussy and fully submit. I find it annoying when girls mingle and kiss to much and try to be sensual and shit, I just want to bend them over and stick my d... in them and only then I do feel aroused. Till then: nothing. Also I have high sexual anxiety so both of those problems really paralyze me when I need to have sex 

I've been practicing nofap and I see some of the results but it is hard and causes mood swings like depression and feeling like I'm the most loneliest human on the planet and that I can't do anything to feel even slightly better (to get that rush from an orgasm) which in turn draws me to watch porn or porn related stuff (like sexy YT videos of girls with tight asses practicing yoga)

Any advice on the topic of sexual anxiety and psychically caused impotence?

[Heywood Jablowme]

Fapping isn't the issue, quit porn. That's like an alcoholic that stops putting diet soda in his whisky.

[nyceboi]

Yup quit porno and you will be more encouraged to approach girls and most likely succeed 

[N2thevoid]

I don't see jerking off as an issue, tbh, and any drop in testosterone will only be momentary at best. Problem is likely more related to impulse control and staving off short term benefit for learning self restraint for greater probability of long term payoff.