Verbal escalation/man to woman talk

[Slider94]

So, as the title says, I was wondering if you guys could help me out with this. I don't quite understand what turning conversation man to woman actually means in PUA terms and I was also wondering if you guys have any material related to verbal escalation. I feel wacky in that field, my sexual connotations or jokes always come off as awkward and I've seen dudes pull this off quite well so it's not really a no-go.

[GFRESH2DEF]

First you have to address what you're doing with girls now, and why are you doing it (What are you getting out of saying and doing those things when you're with girls)..in order to understand what you need to do differently when you're with girls. What i'm saying here is nuanced, and is a bit of an introspective concept. What you say doesn't matter as much, it's more about how you feel when you say it, and the sub-communication that you're telegraphing to the girl.



For example: if you walk over to a girl and say "Hey, i had to come over and say hi, i think you're so fucking sexy!"



Case#1 - Now based on how you feel you may get a variety of results. If you say that line to the girl if you're feeling nervous or unsure of yourself in your body, and your vocal tonality is trying for rapport, and you're leaning in or have hunched over shoulders (bad body posture)..she may just say "Thank you" and then go back to doing whatever what she was doing before you approached her with that line, which is a blowout. Also, he doesn't attempt to get physical with her at all, leaving her confused if he's serious or not about what he's saying to her. This equates to no more than a platonic interaction. 



Case#2 - But if you say that same line to her with conviction, breaking rapport tonality, and you look her dead in the eyes with strong eye contact when you say it to her (and hold the strong eye contact with her even after you say that line to her)..you will probably get her turned on and now you have her attention. So you see..the same thing was said in both cases, but 2 different results happened based on how you felt in your body, and what you sub-communicated to her with your body language. This is based on the law of state transference "Whatever You Feel, They Feel".


In Case#1, the guy is trying to be man-to-woman, but there is a disconnect of his sexual intent being clearly communicated to the girl. As a result of this..the girl gets creeped out, and bounces. Case#2 is definitely man-to-woman due to him clearly communicating his sexual intent to the girl, due to an alignment in his body language, how he feels, and what he's saying to the girl.



I used this example because i used this same line ("Hey, i had to come over and say hi, i think you're so fucking sexy!") on this brunette yesterday while i was out during the daytime on St Patrick's Day. She was leaning against a light post outside of the bar texting on her phone. She was about an 8.5 to me. That line led to a couple of makeouts with her, because i said the line to her with certainty, conviction, strong eye-contact, and breaking rapport tonality. Of course i did other things with it too like; i made some statements of empathy, and got physical with her (ie hugging her a couple times, held onto her arm near her elbow, etc.)


-G

[N2thevoid]

Mar 19, 2018 0:48:53 GMT GFRESH2DEF said:

First you have to address what you're doing with girls now, and why are you doing it (What are you getting out of saying and doing those things when you're with girls)..in order to understand what you need to do differently when you're with girls. What i'm saying here is nuanced, and is a bit of an introspective concept. What you say doesn't matter as much, it's more about how you feel when you say it, and the sub-communication that you're telegraphing to the girl.



For example: if you walk over to a girl and say "Hey, i had to come over and say hi, i think you're so fucking sexy!"



Now based on how you feel you may get a variety of results. If you say that line to the girl if you're feeling nervous or unsure of yourself in your body, and your vocal tonality is trying for rapport, and you're leaning in or have hunched over shoulders (bad body posture)..she may just say "Thank you" and then go back to doing whatever what she was doing before you approached her with that line, which is a blowout.



But if you say that same line to her with conviction, breaking rapport tonality, and you look her dead in the eyes with strong eye contact when you say it to her (and hold the strong eye contact with her even after you say that line to her)..you will probably get her turned on and now you have her attention. So you see..the same thing was said in both cases, but 2 different results happened based on how you felt in your body, and what you sub-communicated to her with your body language. This is based on the law of state transference "Whatever You Feel, They Feel".



I used this example because i used this same line ("Hey, i had to come over and say hi, i think you're so fucking sexy!") on this brunette yesterday while i was out during the daytime on St Patrick's Day. She was leaning against a light post outside of the bar texting on her phone. She was about an 8.5 to me. That line led to a couple of makeouts with her, because i said the line to her with certainty, conviction, strong eye-contact, and breaking rapport tonality. Of course i did other things with it too like; i made some statements of empathy, and got physical with her (ie hugging her a couple times, held onto her arm near her elbow, etc.)


-G

Could't have said it any better myself, so I won't.

Its all about the energy.

[GFRESH2DEF]

It's all about the vibe behind the line rather. Vibe/energy..same thing. lol




-G