Post by truthy on Apr 1, 2020 3:54:12 GMT
So I guess I already know the answer but might not hurt getting a different view on this. To preempt, I'm in Colombia and people in general are known to not always come round with what they said. So it's pretty normal to make plans with everyone and sometimes it happens, sometimes it doesn't.
So I met this girl at a night out through a friend. I sat with her and we talked a while and she gave me some IOIs. We also talked about how she imagines a date and at the end of the night she sits next to me, tells me she's tired but we should talk. So I get her number.
The next day I write to her, letting her know that I'd invite her out, but I already made plans with some friends. She can come round if she wants, otherwise I might be down doing sth on Sunday. She quickly replies that she also has plans later on but she could come by where I'm at before. I say, that's cool hit me up when you are close. She texts me in a flirty way that she's there (bb, I'm here) and we hang out for a while and dance a bit salsa on the street. Then she's about to leave but tells me it was great seeing me.
I text here 3 days later and tell her that since she likes art&cinema my plan was to invite her out to the movies these days but the quarantine fucks up my plans. We chat for a bit and I tell her she could come to my neighbourhood since there might be some bars open where we could hang out. She tells me that it's far but she wants to go. I tell her great, I could pick her up midway to make the way interesting and fun (I texted that in the morning). She doesn't respond until the next day at 8pm in the evening and tells me she was without internet. Now, on that day the gov decided to order a curfew for the next month. She text me she was without internet and that this curfew is a real pain in the ass fucking up our hangout together. We keep chatting for the next days, share some music and connect a bit. She doesn't communicate extremely much but normal. I think she's either shy or not super interested but I'm not sure. Anyway at the end of our chat I neg her a bit that we could never work out together and she says that's ok and laughs. So all good thus far.
I text her again three days later, neg her again, we joke a bit and I tell her I thought of a fun way to pass the time while we can't have a date. I offer wine, film and some conversation, like a virtual date. I know that this isn't the best idea but there was no way we could have a date for the next 3 weeks due to this curfew and I din't want the attraction to go stale. I ask her what she thinks: that's cool or kinda weird. She responds that's cool! Ok, so I tell her that's great and why not do it on Saturday (it was Friday) and I also tell her she picks the film. She goes cold and doesn't respond anymore. I obviously don't get back to her and now it's Tuesday and nobody has written ever since.
So maybe I didn't build enough comfort, or she lost interest on the way, Idk.
So my question is how to continue this game: Should I let this just go and move on? Should I keep on gaming and if so, how and when? Problem is I only have textgame for the next 3 weeks. I see three options:
1) I let it go
2) I write to her at the end of the curfew (2,5 weeks)
3) I write to her earlier
If I write, I could either ignore this ever happened and try to build more comfort and also neg her more. Or I wait until the end of the curfew and ask her directly out again in a playful way. I would prefer to give this another shot, but I'm not sure if I already lost that one. So a second opinion would be appreciated.
Opinions? Advice on if, how and when? Appreciated!
So I met this girl at a night out through a friend. I sat with her and we talked a while and she gave me some IOIs. We also talked about how she imagines a date and at the end of the night she sits next to me, tells me she's tired but we should talk. So I get her number.
The next day I write to her, letting her know that I'd invite her out, but I already made plans with some friends. She can come round if she wants, otherwise I might be down doing sth on Sunday. She quickly replies that she also has plans later on but she could come by where I'm at before. I say, that's cool hit me up when you are close. She texts me in a flirty way that she's there (bb, I'm here) and we hang out for a while and dance a bit salsa on the street. Then she's about to leave but tells me it was great seeing me.
I text here 3 days later and tell her that since she likes art&cinema my plan was to invite her out to the movies these days but the quarantine fucks up my plans. We chat for a bit and I tell her she could come to my neighbourhood since there might be some bars open where we could hang out. She tells me that it's far but she wants to go. I tell her great, I could pick her up midway to make the way interesting and fun (I texted that in the morning). She doesn't respond until the next day at 8pm in the evening and tells me she was without internet. Now, on that day the gov decided to order a curfew for the next month. She text me she was without internet and that this curfew is a real pain in the ass fucking up our hangout together. We keep chatting for the next days, share some music and connect a bit. She doesn't communicate extremely much but normal. I think she's either shy or not super interested but I'm not sure. Anyway at the end of our chat I neg her a bit that we could never work out together and she says that's ok and laughs. So all good thus far.
I text her again three days later, neg her again, we joke a bit and I tell her I thought of a fun way to pass the time while we can't have a date. I offer wine, film and some conversation, like a virtual date. I know that this isn't the best idea but there was no way we could have a date for the next 3 weeks due to this curfew and I din't want the attraction to go stale. I ask her what she thinks: that's cool or kinda weird. She responds that's cool! Ok, so I tell her that's great and why not do it on Saturday (it was Friday) and I also tell her she picks the film. She goes cold and doesn't respond anymore. I obviously don't get back to her and now it's Tuesday and nobody has written ever since.
So maybe I didn't build enough comfort, or she lost interest on the way, Idk.
So my question is how to continue this game: Should I let this just go and move on? Should I keep on gaming and if so, how and when? Problem is I only have textgame for the next 3 weeks. I see three options:
1) I let it go
2) I write to her at the end of the curfew (2,5 weeks)
3) I write to her earlier
If I write, I could either ignore this ever happened and try to build more comfort and also neg her more. Or I wait until the end of the curfew and ask her directly out again in a playful way. I would prefer to give this another shot, but I'm not sure if I already lost that one. So a second opinion would be appreciated.
Opinions? Advice on if, how and when? Appreciated!
