selki
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Post by selki on Jul 12, 2020 17:28:58 GMT
I picked up this girl the other day and she seemed really interested in me, although a lot of her personality just seemed to be mirroring my interests (insecure), and it came off as fake a lot of the time. She's 4 years older than me but doesn't entirely act like it. She seemed interesting enough so I number closed within a few minutes of talking and she told me where she lived. I ended up giving her a ride home but when we got to her house she sat in my car for another ten minutes talking at me while I lost interest. She wanted me to come to the park with her the next day and I said I would probably be too busy but maybe another time. The next day I gave her a call and told her I was, in fact, too busy but I had her take the citizenship test for a school survey (which I have learned is actually a really effective opener, the project is over but its a good way to open people up and make them laugh). In having her take the test over the phone I was proving that I really was busy, and that she would have to earn my time while I could just ask for hers anytime. After she finished the test we politely talked for a few minutes when she revealed she had a gift for me and had also ordered me something online. We had met the day before. I conveyed nonchelont gratitude and told her she didn't have to do that but thanked her anyway. Right before I hung up (always be the first to hang up) she asked if she could text me on that number. I said sure but i shouldnt have. Now (day 2 after meeting her) she's blowing up my phone sounding more pathetic and desperate with each text. I don't really want to f-close anyway because of how attached she got and how fast it happened. I think I may have reeled in a crazy. I think it could also just be that I like girls with some attitude who can bite back. I'll keep you guys updated but can I make her less clingy or is that a lost cause?
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Post by JackZero on Jul 13, 2020 6:53:37 GMT
Why would you deal with anybody this crazy? Every last thing that you've described about her is a red flag. The one thing that you do say that you like about her isn't all that great. If she is like this on day 2-3, that's her just getting started and it isn't going to get any better.
I get that this is a bit of a brag post, but it isn't anything that a guy with options should be looking to deal with. If you meet a girl that is not what you want, you let her go. You don't try to make her fit what you want her to be. The goal is to find girls that you like and not to have to fix crazy.
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Post by Heywood Jablowme on Jul 13, 2020 13:53:58 GMT
See this is why ghosting was invented.
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Post by chef89 on Jul 13, 2020 20:59:50 GMT
I picked up this girl the other day and she seemed really interested in me, although a lot of her personality just seemed to be mirroring my interests (insecure), and it came off as fake a lot of the time. She's 4 years older than me but doesn't entirely act like it. She seemed interesting enough so I number closed within a few minutes of talking and she told me where she lived. I ended up giving her a ride home but when we got to her house she sat in my car for another ten minutes talking at me while I lost interest. She wanted me to come to the park with her the next day and I said I would probably be too busy but maybe another time. The next day I gave her a call and told her I was, in fact, too busy but I had her take the citizenship test for a school survey (which I have learned is actually a really effective opener, the project is over but its a good way to open people up and make them laugh). In having her take the test over the phone I was proving that I really was busy, and that she would have to earn my time while I could just ask for hers anytime. After she finished the test we politely talked for a few minutes when she revealed she had a gift for me and had also ordered me something online. We had met the day before. I conveyed nonchelont gratitude and told her she didn't have to do that but thanked her anyway. Right before I hung up (always be the first to hang up) she asked if she could text me on that number. I said sure but i shouldnt have. Now (day 2 after meeting her) she's blowing up my phone sounding more pathetic and desperate with each text. I don't really want to f-close anyway because of how attached she got and how fast it happened. I think I may have reeled in a crazy. I think it could also just be that I like girls with some attitude who can bite back. I'll keep you guys updated but can I make her less clingy or is that a lost cause? You're only complaining about her. Why make a post on a girl if you dont even like of want her? You seem like you came here to brag dude. |
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selki
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Post by selki on Jul 14, 2020 2:37:15 GMT
Why would you deal with anybody this crazy? Every last thing that you've described about her is a red flag. The one thing that you do say that you like about her isn't all that great. If she is like this on day 2-3, that's her just getting started and it isn't going to get any better. I get that this is a bit of a brag post, but it isn't anything that a guy with options should be looking to deal with. If you meet a girl that is not what you want, you let her go. You don't try to make her fit what you want her to be. The goal is to find girls that you like and not to have to fix crazy. I guess I'm still learning not to even try fixing crazy, not just getting caught up in the thrill of actually picking people up. |
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Post by JackZero on Jul 14, 2020 4:54:02 GMT
Why would you deal with anybody this crazy? Every last thing that you've described about her is a red flag. The one thing that you do say that you like about her isn't all that great. If she is like this on day 2-3, that's her just getting started and it isn't going to get any better. I get that this is a bit of a brag post, but it isn't anything that a guy with options should be looking to deal with. If you meet a girl that is not what you want, you let her go. You don't try to make her fit what you want her to be. The goal is to find girls that you like and not to have to fix crazy. I guess I'm still learning not to even try fixing crazy, not just getting caught up in the thrill of actually picking people up. Good. Never stick your dick in crazy. I'll give you some advice based on what you wrote: This is bullshit. Earning your time while you could just ask for hers? You're not doing anything for yourself here. If you are giving her time and it's causing you to lose out on other things that better yourself, then it's fine to tell her that you're busy. To try to make her earn your time is telling her to work just to spend time with you is silly because in reality you are handicapping yourself. Seduction should be fun for both her and you. You shouldn't be making her feel like it's effort because at some point she's going to ask herself if you are worth that effort. Or some guy is going to come along and peel her away from you just because you made things difficult and show her that he won't. If you make her feel good just because she's around you, she will give you her free minutes, hours, and days whenever you ask for it. Plus, spending time training a girl is just extra stress that you don't need. More mental masturbation. To hang up first doesn't mean anything unless she isn't really into you and you realize that in the next 10 minutes of talking to her won't change that. The only benefit in hanging up first is if you are doing it on a high note and you have turned her from feeling iffy about you to actual interest in you. If you are doing it to show that you are in control then you are overthinking things. It seems that you are trying to pull off the "alpha male" thing. Anyone who is good with women will tell you that it's more important to be masculine than alpha. Masculinity will keep anyone from running over you while alpha is constantly having to prove that you are in charge in every situation. Basically, being alpha is more impressive to men than it is to women. No woman of value is sitting around hoping to find a guy that is controlling but most women of value will submit to a man's masculinity. |
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selki
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Post by selki on Jul 14, 2020 5:32:28 GMT
If we're being real I'm a girl |
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Post by JackZero on Jul 14, 2020 5:42:41 GMT
If we're being real I'm a girl Then you are making things even more difficult. Nothing that I've said changes except that a girl will drop her guard for another girl a lot quicker than she will for a guy. |
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