She likes me but I don't know

[chef89]

So I've been dating this girls about 5-6 times. Before we got close I saw her a few times and thought to myself this girl is absolutely stunning.

Now that we're dating I can already notice that I can get her whenever I want, in the signals that she gives me and in her actions. We have many things in common but I'm missing a certain tension between us. When I'm there it's all great but it also bores me. I don't have this urge to rip her clothes off.

In the past I also had experiences where I got bored of a girl quite easily and ended it. With this girl im a little bit confused as we have so many things in common it seems like a perfect match. Also, I expected to like her more and more but I don't.

I basically want to understand why I dont like her. I think its because she doesn't let me work for her attention. I value a girl that challenges me. But on the other hand I feel like a guy who cannot appreciate somebody that likes him.


Not really a problem on how to get the girl but I thought maybe someone has an interesting viewpoint here.

Thoughts?

[JackZero]

You sound like one of those guys that has been desensitized to sex because they watch too much porn. They watch so much porn that normal sexual activity is no longer exciting. I've seen a lot of your posts and it seems like you put in work to get the girl to keep coming around. You may have trained yourself to believe that girls are only worth it if you have to put in effort to get them and once you get them you get bored. I hope you see where I'm going with this.

[chef89]

Sept 26, 2020 16:23:21 GMT JackZero said:

You sound like one of those guys that has been desensitized to sex because they watch too much porn. They watch so much porn that normal sexual activity is no longer exciting. I've seen a lot of your posts and it seems like you put in work to get the girl to keep coming around. You may have trained yourself to believe that girls are only worth it if you have to put in effort to get them and once you get them you get bored. I hope you see where I'm going with this.

Partially this might be true, but I dont fully agree with this. Its more that I dont get turned on by girls who give themselves away so quickly. I just resent the idea of sex with them because theres no tension and I'm not that attracted by them. Even if I do nothing they still want it. I really don't have this with girls that dont do this. Actually I'm quite happy with where I'm now but I see people falling in love so easily, so I was thinking if this is just natural or not.

However, I'm aware that I might set the bar too high. How do I appreciate girls more?