What Do We Want To Get Out Of Our PUA Experience?

[vagabond]

I guess for some of you guys it's pretty self-explanatory (get laid by HBs), but rather than just assuming what you guys want I thought I'd open the question up. I don't see a lot of pensive posts like this on here, so I thought I'd give it a go.  


For me, personally, it's kind of multi-faceted (and I'm about to be slightly uncomfortably honest here guys so do bare with). Obviously, in part, I'm learning PUA as part of my research. But also if I'm being really honest in a way that I am not with anyone really, I was curious to really look at myself as someone who has interest in talking to more girls and boosting my confidence in that area. I've never had major issues romantically with girls before, but in terms of being up front and pushing out specifically for the purpose of talking to girls that's new territory for me and it still makes me nervous to think about doing that (I think years of just assuming they won't like me back has produced this complex).

I've adapted to my not liking to be 'open' or up front about my sexuality or interest with girls, like i've never said to a girl, 'you're beautiful' even though I was thinking it, outside of already being romantically involved ofc. 
My attitude so far has always been 'if they come to me then its cool, if it happens it happens'. I think i'm very fortunate that I'm cute enough to where that usually works lmao (I'm pretty good at detecting if someone is attracted to me now tbf). But I can't help feeling like I'd probably be happier if I was just more up front with how I feel rather than having this kind of latent shame or guilt about it. I don't like feeling like I'm retreating from parts of life or holding back. 

So, lads, I think what I want to get out of this experience going forwards is not getting lots of women, it's just making sure the one's I am interested in at least know about it and that I do it in a way that does not shoot me in the foot.     

How about you guys? 

(Sorry if this is the wrong board for this kind of question or testimonial)

[vagabond]

And yes, this is a long winded admission of having a form of approach anxiety

[GFRESH2DEF]

There's always something that you can improve upon..even when you think that there isn't. And in time..you can bear witness to a version of yourself, that you never knew that existed, or that you could be. That's the best part! And the key to discovering this version of yourself..is to always be improving, in the areas that you are weak in, and just continue to sharpen the strengths that you already have. Even if its just by 1% of improvement that you make in a given area, each and every day. It may seem like nothing now..but wait until after several months later, or a year later, or several years later..the improvements that you made in that area, will be significant. And you will see a version of yourself, that you didn't know that was within you. You will be able to see the results, from all of your hard work. Most often times, when you start working on improving in an area that you're weak in..the results will come in slowly. But every once in a while..when you start working on improving in a certain area that you're weak in..you will start seeing results from it immediately. Doing the complete opposite, of what you would normally do in that situation (trying something or an idea, that's completely different or new to you)..looking at something totally different (looking at it from a different perspective), than how you used to look at it..or simply just having a shift in your mindset..or finding a different or better motivator..can also help you, to discover this new and improved version of yourself. 



-G