Post by drenglish on Aug 30, 2021 17:07:00 GMT
It is something that I saw happened two weeks ago. I was out with my group of all female friends (all platonic though) having a nice picnic at a park. Then I saw a blonde girl, she was 6-7 out of 10. She was with her friend, her friend was like the girl version of Danny DeVito. Close to them there were four guys sitting drinking beers. They looked like peshmargas getting a break from patrolling their neighborhood. I mean there is no joint in anywhere I know that can be suitable for these guys. They were the opposite of the word "classy". After a while I noticed that one of those peshmarga looking guys brought some beers to the girls, sat down next to the blonde girl and started talking. He talked to the girls for about 5-10 minutes. He got the phone number of the blonde girl. He then kissed her on the lips. After a while he took her out somewhere. 10 minutes after brought her back. Kissed her again then let her go.
I have been thinking ever since, that guy was a scumbag stranger who had nothing to lose, god knows what kind of a menial job he was occupying, I am sure he didn't even have a high school degree. (If you guys saw that bum, you would have understood how I reached that conclusions) Anyways the point is guys, this scumbag out there without even a shred of knowledge in his brain goes after what he wants to pursue. Fearless, tells what he wants, does what he wants, without beating around the bush. I believe what makes that guy successful was because his brain had a very rudimentary knowledge of the outside world. He was like a caveman, and when it comes to picking up women what we need to become is cavemen.
We learn some norms that obtuse our ability to get what we want.
We learn through our lives first obedience that is just the execution of requests from authority figures such as family, society, school, church.
What do these authority figures keep saying us?
What do they request from us regarding our relationships to the fair sex?
Most of the time they tell us it is so wrong to bother strangers especially women.
If we have to have a relationship with a woman this should be in a proper way that is acceptable to authority figures.
Therefore, when we see a beautiful woman in the street we keep telling ourselves;
Why should I bother her, it is completely wrong, you can't get in a relationship with some stranger.
What if people think that I am a creep? etc..
But it is so arbitrary and against the human nature.
Another thing that the learning we received imposes upon us is Courtesy.
Courtesy is the consideration of other's demands, expactations, interests rather than our own. We always put other people first. Therefore we have tendency to think like the following: "I can talk to that beautiful woman but does she want to be bothered by a guy like me? or does she have a boyfriend, there is no way a girl as hot as her doesn't have a boyfriend."
"She seems pretty busy."
"It would be so unbecoming of me to interrupt her conversation with her friend."
It is again against the human nature, we have to get what we want without fear to lead a happy life that is so easy.
Patience (procrastination) is another enemy. Let me give an example that I believe all of you are very familiar. You see a beautiful girl in a say public transportation on your way to your history 101 lesson at college or a company meeting. You are in a public transportation, it is bussy as always, girl is hot. What you think along with being courteous and obedient? Probably something like that "I have a lot of shit going on right now, I'll have a lot of time in the future to be around beautiful girls like this, so no worries." In short, patience (procrastination) is our way to abstain ourselves from immediate satisfaction by falsely promising ourselves that in the future more satisfaction awaits us. So you can endure your miserable life. Guess what guys? There is no better satisfaction than the immediate one.
Below I gave a possible everyday situation that everybody may encounter and tried to explain what keeps us from doing the action.
You are at a coffee shop sipping your tea or coffee. Then suddenly you see a hot girl in a sexy dress (just imagine her as you want to imagine) she was with a female friend, they are talking, laughing, next to their table there is a middle aged guy checking his e-mails, a mom with two kids, some students or whoever you may want to put there, it is a public place. You really want to talk to her but your brain after getting soaked into the arbitrary norms I mentioned thinks;
1-) be obedient to authorities
-I am not a creep, this is not a proper way to talk to a stranger, I have to find a proper excuse may be then I could talk to her.
-what are people are going to think of me, I don't want to be considered a some rude guy only pursue sexual desires
2-) be courteous
- It would be very rude to interrupt their conversation, if she was alone then may be it would be possible to talk to her
-) unless you have a good reason to talk to her (may be she drops something then you noticed and give it back to her then she is so grateful invites you to sit next to her or stuff like that) it would be rude to interrupt
3-) be patient
-one day you are going to meet a girl like that and you are gonna make an honest woman out of her! in a proper acceptable place of course!
What the peshmarga looking guy at the park would think, I am telling you what he would think:
"I want to bang the shit out of that broad, I will talk to her"
And that is as simple as that we don't need to overcomplicate everything. If you see something you want just go and take it. I thought a lot about what could I say to a girl, how could I approach. Now I realized that I speak foreign languages, read lots of books, listened to lectures of very prominent scholars, yet I don't know how to say hi whereas guys with middle school education pick up girls very easily. My take away from the peshmarga looking guy is just don't give a shit, it is not that hard, talk to someone, it is 50% chance. If you want to bang someone you see, go and talk to her.
What are you going to say to her?
It was one of my biggest concerns two months ago. Now I clearly see that is not an issue. Guys you are not going to talk to Martin Heidegger you don't have to think of fancy adjectives, the person you are starting to have a conversation with is probably less educated than you. Even if she doesn't I mean she can be the well educated daughter of a swiss ambassador she still is a woman. Just walking toward her and telling her that you like something about her is enough to have a conversation with. Getting rejections are sometimes hard yes, but even getting rejections are better than not talking to girls you desire. After getting a rejection from a girl the feeling you have in your calves alone is worth getting rejected. Having a nice conversation with a girl you desire is something inexplicable. Don't keep yourself from endless adventures. Go and discover.
(This field report is something I observed and my own conclusions of my observation.)
I have been thinking ever since, that guy was a scumbag stranger who had nothing to lose, god knows what kind of a menial job he was occupying, I am sure he didn't even have a high school degree. (If you guys saw that bum, you would have understood how I reached that conclusions) Anyways the point is guys, this scumbag out there without even a shred of knowledge in his brain goes after what he wants to pursue. Fearless, tells what he wants, does what he wants, without beating around the bush. I believe what makes that guy successful was because his brain had a very rudimentary knowledge of the outside world. He was like a caveman, and when it comes to picking up women what we need to become is cavemen.
We learn some norms that obtuse our ability to get what we want.
We learn through our lives first obedience that is just the execution of requests from authority figures such as family, society, school, church.
What do these authority figures keep saying us?
What do they request from us regarding our relationships to the fair sex?
Most of the time they tell us it is so wrong to bother strangers especially women.
If we have to have a relationship with a woman this should be in a proper way that is acceptable to authority figures.
Therefore, when we see a beautiful woman in the street we keep telling ourselves;
Why should I bother her, it is completely wrong, you can't get in a relationship with some stranger.
What if people think that I am a creep? etc..
But it is so arbitrary and against the human nature.
Another thing that the learning we received imposes upon us is Courtesy.
Courtesy is the consideration of other's demands, expactations, interests rather than our own. We always put other people first. Therefore we have tendency to think like the following: "I can talk to that beautiful woman but does she want to be bothered by a guy like me? or does she have a boyfriend, there is no way a girl as hot as her doesn't have a boyfriend."
"She seems pretty busy."
"It would be so unbecoming of me to interrupt her conversation with her friend."
It is again against the human nature, we have to get what we want without fear to lead a happy life that is so easy.
Patience (procrastination) is another enemy. Let me give an example that I believe all of you are very familiar. You see a beautiful girl in a say public transportation on your way to your history 101 lesson at college or a company meeting. You are in a public transportation, it is bussy as always, girl is hot. What you think along with being courteous and obedient? Probably something like that "I have a lot of shit going on right now, I'll have a lot of time in the future to be around beautiful girls like this, so no worries." In short, patience (procrastination) is our way to abstain ourselves from immediate satisfaction by falsely promising ourselves that in the future more satisfaction awaits us. So you can endure your miserable life. Guess what guys? There is no better satisfaction than the immediate one.
Below I gave a possible everyday situation that everybody may encounter and tried to explain what keeps us from doing the action.
You are at a coffee shop sipping your tea or coffee. Then suddenly you see a hot girl in a sexy dress (just imagine her as you want to imagine) she was with a female friend, they are talking, laughing, next to their table there is a middle aged guy checking his e-mails, a mom with two kids, some students or whoever you may want to put there, it is a public place. You really want to talk to her but your brain after getting soaked into the arbitrary norms I mentioned thinks;
1-) be obedient to authorities
-I am not a creep, this is not a proper way to talk to a stranger, I have to find a proper excuse may be then I could talk to her.
-what are people are going to think of me, I don't want to be considered a some rude guy only pursue sexual desires
2-) be courteous
- It would be very rude to interrupt their conversation, if she was alone then may be it would be possible to talk to her
-) unless you have a good reason to talk to her (may be she drops something then you noticed and give it back to her then she is so grateful invites you to sit next to her or stuff like that) it would be rude to interrupt
3-) be patient
-one day you are going to meet a girl like that and you are gonna make an honest woman out of her! in a proper acceptable place of course!
What the peshmarga looking guy at the park would think, I am telling you what he would think:
"I want to bang the shit out of that broad, I will talk to her"
And that is as simple as that we don't need to overcomplicate everything. If you see something you want just go and take it. I thought a lot about what could I say to a girl, how could I approach. Now I realized that I speak foreign languages, read lots of books, listened to lectures of very prominent scholars, yet I don't know how to say hi whereas guys with middle school education pick up girls very easily. My take away from the peshmarga looking guy is just don't give a shit, it is not that hard, talk to someone, it is 50% chance. If you want to bang someone you see, go and talk to her.
What are you going to say to her?
It was one of my biggest concerns two months ago. Now I clearly see that is not an issue. Guys you are not going to talk to Martin Heidegger you don't have to think of fancy adjectives, the person you are starting to have a conversation with is probably less educated than you. Even if she doesn't I mean she can be the well educated daughter of a swiss ambassador she still is a woman. Just walking toward her and telling her that you like something about her is enough to have a conversation with. Getting rejections are sometimes hard yes, but even getting rejections are better than not talking to girls you desire. After getting a rejection from a girl the feeling you have in your calves alone is worth getting rejected. Having a nice conversation with a girl you desire is something inexplicable. Don't keep yourself from endless adventures. Go and discover.
(This field report is something I observed and my own conclusions of my observation.)
