Post by Wacker on Feb 24, 2022 1:50:57 GMT
So i have always had a hard time waiting for text responses. It stresses me out when i dont get a response within 24 hours. but ive forced my mindset to change and it helped me land a date with a cutie pie. So let me just give you recap on how i met her.
I went to a church art show of all things. There were lots of early 20 year olds at there booths showing off their art in a gym. Alot of people in the church go to these events to flirt/socialize with the other people and so there were not many people actually paying attention to the art. Which is a good thing for me! Because i actually enjoy art and it made me look like i was there to appreciate the art and not look like a super energetic player trying to
"pick up girls" (although thats what i was there to do
)
I was looking at a certain piece and noticed to my left a fucking dime. She had tight pants. High heel boots. Blond hair. And was just about my height. Im 6 foot 5. I thought to myself. This girl is not churchy. And she is way to intimidating for any of these guys here to approach. She was standing with her friend who was half her size. I thought to myself 2 set. I said to the blond over my left shoulder.
Me." what do you think of this piece." Blahblahblah
Me." wow. Youre almost eye level with me. Thats a nice change... (looking down and spotting her boots) wait. U cheater! Youre wearing boots."
Blahblahblah
i dont remember the rest because it was 2 weeks ago. But basically i look at some art pieces with her. She wanted to go to her friend who wasnt too far away. So instead of following her and hovering over her shoulder like a Angel of beta ness. I started up a conversation with one of the female artists and looked at other art pieces with her. Someone there created artsy earings so i brushed the hair over her ear and held up a bunch of them. Telling her which earings would work and which wouldnt. Bassically i wasnt afraid to be physical with this artist girl. I dont know if the cute blond saw but i didnt really care. This artist girl seemed also pretty cute. I got her instagram But the most important thing was that I didnt chase the cute blond. I knew i would bump into her again. Which i did. Later she bumped into me and had small talk about art. And another time she postioned herself around me. And at the end of the night they were ending the event with a piano solo. So i went over to her holding strong eye contact and got her number.
Sorry guys. Cant remember what i said to get her number exactly. It was a while ago. But she showed lots of ioi. Playing with hair. Forearm scratches and during the piano song she held her phone which was turned off at her chest pointing both feet toward me showing interest. I completely guessed that she was a dancer.
Me" your posture. Your a dancer... Right?"
Her "was it that obvious"
Me "yeah. Same posture as an ex of mine who did ballet."
Her "I give you my number and we'll go dancing sometime."
She handed me her phone and i gave her my number and I said
Me" oh, and dont worry. You dont have to wait 24 hours before you send the first text to not look desperate."
Her "i already sent you a text. I must be coming off a pretty desperate then"
Me "yeah. Very desperate" *while grinning.
I tell her im heading off to hang out with a friend at a bar, i wasnt but i didnt want to sound like a guy who had this as the only thing going on for a friday lol. I walk past her while resting my hand between her shoulder blades to break that touch barrier. Cant remember if i broke that touch barrier earlier but just to play it safe i did it on the way out.
Next day, saturday, i shoot her a text. She rides horses so i sent a pic of some horses i used to lease. Her response is instant. Texted a bit about horses. Thats it.
Monday i shoot her a text around 8pm about her dancing history. Get a text 30 minutes later and ask one more question around 845pm and shes ghosts me.
Tuesday i shoot only 2 texts about dance styles ive done.
"A couple years ago i did jazz. Hip hop. Contemporary."
"I did a little salsa here which was fun. But i could only handle so much perfume. Lol"
No response. No response until THURSDAY. Over 48 hours. Il be honest. I already had my mind on another girl because i swore she ghosted me.
She shoots me a text on thursday answering my question about dance styles around 1pm.
I stay silent. She sends another text at 9pm
Her."Was my 24h between texts too long? Bbhaaha"
Me. "They could have been longer"
Me. "i was out with buddy and driving home"
Her."i can maybe arrange to do longer next time. Drive safe"
After that she responded instantly to my text. And we went on a couple dates this weekend.
I guess what i wanted to say is that DONT GET STRESSED because shes not responding. Shes probably busy or is shit testing you. Dont spam her with texts. Makes you look needy and will decrease your chances with the girl. And get your mind on someone or something else rather than hovering over your phone waiting for a response from a girl you barely know. And trust me. Its impossible to "get to know" a girl in one night. Even if gou have sex.
Heres something extra. So on our first date it did not go well. My plan was to go to winter festival. Walk around, flirt, escalate and make out in the park. Well that didnt happen. The weather was warm but then it hit -10 degrees within like 10 minutes. We were COLD! So i had the idea to get food at a mall. It would have been a good idea but for some reason the place was packed with people. No place to kiss. It would have felt really forced if i tried to kiss her and probably would have got rejected.
(Note. If you get rejected by kiss and shes turns her head away from you. Glide off of her cheek and say something in her ear. It saved me in the past).
When i walked her to her car. (Yep we both drove separately to park and mall.) She gave me a good bye hug. While she hugged me i held onto her waste and said while making strong eyecontact.
Me."I thought about kissing you earlier. But i felt like it would have been forced"
Her. "Im also not feeling ready. Maybe next time."
Me."only if you play your cards right" *with a grin.
A couple days later we had a car picnic. It was negative 20 out so i grabbed y picnic basket. A couple pillows. A warm blanket and some board games. Her and i met up at a store and we picked up some snacks for it. We drove in my car to outskirts of town and had the cozy ist picnic in my car. I didnt try kissing her at the beginning. We played connect the four. Had some juice. Sat really close and worked our way up to a super romantic slow kiss. And maybe a little beyond
I went to a church art show of all things. There were lots of early 20 year olds at there booths showing off their art in a gym. Alot of people in the church go to these events to flirt/socialize with the other people and so there were not many people actually paying attention to the art. Which is a good thing for me! Because i actually enjoy art and it made me look like i was there to appreciate the art and not look like a super energetic player trying to
"pick up girls" (although thats what i was there to do
) I was looking at a certain piece and noticed to my left a fucking dime. She had tight pants. High heel boots. Blond hair. And was just about my height. Im 6 foot 5. I thought to myself. This girl is not churchy. And she is way to intimidating for any of these guys here to approach. She was standing with her friend who was half her size. I thought to myself 2 set. I said to the blond over my left shoulder.
Me." what do you think of this piece." Blahblahblah
Me." wow. Youre almost eye level with me. Thats a nice change... (looking down and spotting her boots) wait. U cheater! Youre wearing boots."
Blahblahblah
i dont remember the rest because it was 2 weeks ago. But basically i look at some art pieces with her. She wanted to go to her friend who wasnt too far away. So instead of following her and hovering over her shoulder like a Angel of beta ness. I started up a conversation with one of the female artists and looked at other art pieces with her. Someone there created artsy earings so i brushed the hair over her ear and held up a bunch of them. Telling her which earings would work and which wouldnt. Bassically i wasnt afraid to be physical with this artist girl. I dont know if the cute blond saw but i didnt really care. This artist girl seemed also pretty cute. I got her instagram But the most important thing was that I didnt chase the cute blond. I knew i would bump into her again. Which i did. Later she bumped into me and had small talk about art. And another time she postioned herself around me. And at the end of the night they were ending the event with a piano solo. So i went over to her holding strong eye contact and got her number.
Sorry guys. Cant remember what i said to get her number exactly. It was a while ago. But she showed lots of ioi. Playing with hair. Forearm scratches and during the piano song she held her phone which was turned off at her chest pointing both feet toward me showing interest. I completely guessed that she was a dancer.
Me" your posture. Your a dancer... Right?"
Her "was it that obvious"
Me "yeah. Same posture as an ex of mine who did ballet."
Her "I give you my number and we'll go dancing sometime."
She handed me her phone and i gave her my number and I said
Me" oh, and dont worry. You dont have to wait 24 hours before you send the first text to not look desperate."
Her "i already sent you a text. I must be coming off a pretty desperate then"
Me "yeah. Very desperate" *while grinning.
I tell her im heading off to hang out with a friend at a bar, i wasnt but i didnt want to sound like a guy who had this as the only thing going on for a friday lol. I walk past her while resting my hand between her shoulder blades to break that touch barrier. Cant remember if i broke that touch barrier earlier but just to play it safe i did it on the way out.
Next day, saturday, i shoot her a text. She rides horses so i sent a pic of some horses i used to lease. Her response is instant. Texted a bit about horses. Thats it.
Monday i shoot her a text around 8pm about her dancing history. Get a text 30 minutes later and ask one more question around 845pm and shes ghosts me.
Tuesday i shoot only 2 texts about dance styles ive done.
"A couple years ago i did jazz. Hip hop. Contemporary."
"I did a little salsa here which was fun. But i could only handle so much perfume. Lol"
No response. No response until THURSDAY. Over 48 hours. Il be honest. I already had my mind on another girl because i swore she ghosted me.
She shoots me a text on thursday answering my question about dance styles around 1pm.
I stay silent. She sends another text at 9pm
Her."Was my 24h between texts too long? Bbhaaha"
Me. "They could have been longer"
Me. "i was out with buddy and driving home"
Her."i can maybe arrange to do longer next time. Drive safe"
After that she responded instantly to my text. And we went on a couple dates this weekend.
I guess what i wanted to say is that DONT GET STRESSED because shes not responding. Shes probably busy or is shit testing you. Dont spam her with texts. Makes you look needy and will decrease your chances with the girl. And get your mind on someone or something else rather than hovering over your phone waiting for a response from a girl you barely know. And trust me. Its impossible to "get to know" a girl in one night. Even if gou have sex.
Heres something extra. So on our first date it did not go well. My plan was to go to winter festival. Walk around, flirt, escalate and make out in the park. Well that didnt happen. The weather was warm but then it hit -10 degrees within like 10 minutes. We were COLD! So i had the idea to get food at a mall. It would have been a good idea but for some reason the place was packed with people. No place to kiss. It would have felt really forced if i tried to kiss her and probably would have got rejected.
(Note. If you get rejected by kiss and shes turns her head away from you. Glide off of her cheek and say something in her ear. It saved me in the past).
When i walked her to her car. (Yep we both drove separately to park and mall.) She gave me a good bye hug. While she hugged me i held onto her waste and said while making strong eyecontact.
Me."I thought about kissing you earlier. But i felt like it would have been forced"
Her. "Im also not feeling ready. Maybe next time."
Me."only if you play your cards right" *with a grin.
A couple days later we had a car picnic. It was negative 20 out so i grabbed y picnic basket. A couple pillows. A warm blanket and some board games. Her and i met up at a store and we picked up some snacks for it. We drove in my car to outskirts of town and had the cozy ist picnic in my car. I didnt try kissing her at the beginning. We played connect the four. Had some juice. Sat really close and worked our way up to a super romantic slow kiss. And maybe a little beyond
keep your thoughts positive. Thats all. Bye
