dyneira
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Post by dyneira on Apr 4, 2018 23:06:08 GMT
Your mood, happiness or overall well being doesn't rest on the validation you'd get from women. That in turn will make you less invested, and more appealing. The first time I noticed this is when I went out with a group of friends and two of them were recently in a relationship. The amount of attention they received from women compared to the four of five of us that were single was unbelievable. These were still the same guys as they were a few months before where they were getting the same lack of attention as the rest of us. And a girlfriend was the only difference.
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Post by R.C on Apr 5, 2018 7:26:54 GMT
Your mood, happiness or overall well being doesn't rest on the validation you'd get from women. That in turn will make you less invested, and more appealing. The first time I noticed this is when I went out with a group of friends and two of them were recently in a relationship. The amount of attention they received from women compared to the four of five of us that were single was unbelievable. These were still the same guys as they were a few months before where they were getting the same lack of attention as the rest of us. And a girlfriend was the only difference. Yeah, it's a similar effect.
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tinman
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Post by tinman on Apr 5, 2018 9:37:30 GMT
When I am 'less invested' I tend to get maybe look too 'aloof' and then the girls eject, maybe thinking that i'm not interested.
I guess in terms of getting better reactions on the open, I can either look at it like 1)It's a numbers game. You weren't her 'type' physically. Move on to the next to try to find someone who IS into you 2)Somehow improve my general 'happiness'(even though i'm already happy?) to see if it improves how outcome dependant I come across. Maybe get even more hobbies or something?
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Post by N2thevoid on Apr 5, 2018 10:10:35 GMT
Then why not take a more direct approach. Acting congruent stating interest. You’re still so outcome focused on their response you’ve given them so much value early on just by being therewhen they’ve done nothing earn it. If anything that’s the repelling force rather than thinking you may look indifferent,
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