Re-approaching / Holding grudges ?

[arpitasdfg]

Guys who approach regularly, or who spin multiple plates, do you guys ever approach those girls again who have rejected you once? or who were initially rude to you and blew you off? Personally I am unable to as I feel the girls who can't even bother being polite don't even deserve my attention again.

But I have heard from many older PUA's I have trained under, that you should approach sets who have rejected you once or talk to girls again who were initially rude to you.

Personally this concept is really tough for me to grasp, as I feel I am giving up my self respect if I talk to those girls again. And that's not just true for girls. People in general who are generally rude and disrespectful over no fault of mine, I avoid them as much as possible.

For people who don't hold grudges, how do you do it guys ??

[pilgrimmeister]

Waste of time re-approahcing, they had their chance.

[ecudes17]

No. I can't think of any circumstance in which doing that would not reek of desperation, a lack of social judgement or narcissism. 

It's going to lower your perceived value to the rest of the women in the room as well.  



One of the biggest tools a man could have in his disposal is the ability to not tie himself to one particular outcome.

Often times, if a woman sees a man not be phased by her rejection and he continues to have a good time, particularly with other women, she might begin to have second thoughts. This still doesn't give us a greenlight to re-approach, it just means that she could very well approach you later that evening or even have one of her friends do so. 

Bottom line, if a set crashes, move forward and don't look back. 

Also, I've never heard anybody suggest re-approaching and would be curious to hear the justification behind that. 

[TheWhiteTiger]

Apr 28, 2022 7:18:31 GMT arpitasdfg said:

For people who don't hold grudges, how do you do it guys ??

Good stuff has been said above, I'll just add that you shouldn't hold grudges. If a woman RE-APPROACHES YOU after she rejected you and she sees you having a good time I suspect that won't help you.