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Post by marky448 on Nov 7, 2022 12:33:47 GMT
Hi guys I'm new top this forum I've only had sex with girls through online dating and I don't get many matches as i hardly post myself and I don't approach women in real life. quite a few women will look and me and check me out as i am quite good looking however i haven't even spoken to a girl in real life for example like a bar for example i haven't even asked a girl out I've only gone for what comes to, me and I've been quite passive about it how can i chance this
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Post by JackZero on Nov 7, 2022 17:00:47 GMT
A few quick questions.
How old are you? What drove you to ask this question?
I'm almost sure that I know what's going on with you but I want to know if you will be completely honest with yourself.
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Post by marky448 on Nov 7, 2022 21:53:20 GMT
I'm 20 at the moment
tbh I'm just going off what I've been through so far I'm not even sure what to do lol
I am being completely honest with myself
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Post by JackZero on Nov 7, 2022 22:23:42 GMT
Understanding why you are the way you are is more than likely a fear of rejection. Online is a safe space for a lot of men. There is no rejection that is easier to deal with because it isn't in your face and an attraction for you is given more freely by women. It's a good option to have for a guy that doesn't want his ego to be hurt and at the same time have women in his life.
Approaching women to face-to-face, that feeling of safety isn't there. Being handsome is only an attribute out in the field and although women may notice, it doesn't normally cause them to approach, or be the key factor that keeps them interested. The confidence to approach a woman is 100% on you. Even with the indicators of interest, it is generally the guy that has to make sure that he is the one that starts the interaction.
IMO, this is the reason you asked how can you change. Makes sense to me that you are comfortable enough not to change because you have access to women, but not happy about not being proactive enough to go out and using your looks and personality to get women. So 'how do you change'? You have to really want it and put yourself in the position to do it.
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Post by N2thevoid on Nov 8, 2022 17:19:13 GMT
Avoidance (rejection)
A slight reframe might help:
You aren’t open wonen face to face to get them out; rather you are approaching them to open yourself.
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Post by Wacker on Nov 11, 2022 15:46:34 GMT
Im young like u. I took a trip to my cities university and the girls there were surprisingly super easy to approach. I met some guys down there too and they told me that nobody approaches girls on campus during the day. Which will make you stand out. Read through the different threads here and check out the other older forum too. You cant post anything on it because its closed but it still has lots of good information. U just need filter out the bad stuff and the ones that dont match with your personality. And if you dont know what your personality is. Just go out into " the field" and try different ways to approach until you do. (Note. It took me 2 years to figure out what my personality was and the kind of guy i wanted to become. Because of covid and work i could only meet girls once or twice a week on weekends. And thats if i even bumped into someone on the weekend.) Heres a great thread from the old forum. www.pick-up-artist-forum.com/esp-model-of-escalation-vt97891.html
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