Lay Count

[JackZero]

I have a question for you guys.  I'll preface the question because of a YouTube video I seen the other day where a guy explains why he thinks that how many women a man has sex with is so important to some men.  He came to his revelation when he was sick and sex wasn't an option. 

So my question is, when it comes to pickup, how important is lay count?  Extra points for being able to articulate a reason for the answer that you give.

[Wacker]

I dont think lay count is the main importance behind it all. The idea of having sex with a girl means you were able to have her pick you over any other guy that night. She was able to become comfortable enough with you to sleep with you.

Personally. I find that if you are able to be with a girl who feels comfortable enough to be completely naked beside you has the same effect. This doesnt need to include the sex part. If you can be with a girl who is wanting to give you oral or is connecting with you on an emotional level is way more important than having actual sex.

But. Sex is an important part of having a relationship. So... What im trying to say is that having solid relationships is way more powerful than having a one night stand with a girl who could have been just looking for an easy fuck and just happened to pick you that night.

Plus diseases are gross. I dont need to sleep with a bunch of women with the chance of catching an std just to make myself feel more valuable.

[curtis72]

I believe having a large lay count is important as a measure of your success at pick up.

PUA and it’s early roots are predicated on getting girls from bars and clubs for short term encounters and picking up as many girls as possible. You aren’t going with the aim of making long term connections. It’s very much quantity over quality.

Having more sexual success with more women obviously points towards towards being better at pick up.

[Wacker]

I got into "pick up" so i could be able to find a great partner. I know too many people who are stuck in toxic relationships and are too scared to break up with them because they dont want to be single/alone. I love having the ability to choose who im dating and to know that if things dont work out. I can meet someone new later that month while im buying groceries

[TheWhiteTiger]

I'll also join and say lay count is important, but it can be hard to view it as a measure of skills than a measure of worth. Guys out there will have a low lay count and think "Oh I'm just unfuckable" when in reality it's a skillset issue (mostly).
I think it's important within the community to emphasize it as a measure of skill, not of worth.

As for HOW important; depends on how long you've been practicing game. I'd say in the first year, maybe two, it is not that important. Your "how often do you show up and try" count is vastly more important. If you're going at this for 1-2 years and your lay count isn't increasing, then you're doing something wrong.

[G-host]

I think is does count for something but for me personally, i would rather be with just a few very special ones.

[N2thevoid]

Dec 2, 2022 21:36:00 GMT JackZero said:

I have a question for you guys.  I'll preface the question because of a YouTube video I seen the other day where a guy explains why he thinks that how many women a man has sex with is so important to some men.  He came to his revelation when he was sick and sex wasn't an option. 

So my question is, when it comes to pickup, how important is lay count?  Extra points for being able to articulate a reason for the answer that you give.

For some guys its the only way they can muster courage, having the validation of bedding what they consider is a lot of women. To me it feels like a crutch, and usually only impresses other guys. Much like bodybuilding after a point of getting so big I found the only ones that gave me the attention where other dudes LMAO.

As with most things in life it's only as important as you make it out to be - but really, mostly you and some other dudes will be impressed. If that's what it takes to give you confidence then, well...ok

[G-host]

Dec 26, 2022 19:31:08 GMT G-host said:

I think is does count for something but for me personally, i would rather be with just a few very special ones.

Im saying this becuse 


"It's important to understand the energetic exchange involved in sex. Having sex with someone opens you up on a very deep level, beyond what most people are aware of, and creates a powerful exchange of energy. But this exchange is not always positive"

plus, even thou sex with lust is good, sex with someone you love is better. And i dont fall in love to often.

[G-host]

It may be even better when you lust for your beloved, am i right?

[G-host]

I wonder how the ladies would answer this question. I can imagine some may like if their boyfriend hasnt slept with everobody but secretly want to sleep with you too, if you have been with many.

[G-host]

Is it "cool" to have been with alot of women?

[G-host]

I do think it is seriously impressive when i read about Charlie Sheen and other famous dudes who have nailed thousands.. THOUSANDS haha

[slimshady]

Dec 2, 2022 21:36:00 GMT JackZero said:

I have a question for you guys.  I'll preface the question because of a YouTube video I seen the other day where a guy explains why he thinks that how many women a man has sex with is so important to some men.  He came to his revelation when he was sick and sex wasn't an option. 

So my question is, when it comes to pickup, how important is lay count?  Extra points for being able to articulate a reason for the answer that you give.

Hey dude. I'm an experience noob when It comes to dating. Meaning; I've done bootcamp back In 2010 ISH I'm now 40 rarely go out but working on other things In life etc. 

When I took a BC I was around late 20's I could be wrong here, I'm drinking atm LOL... When I took a BC I told  Cajun/Tenmagent -Instructors I already been with 50 women of all sorts of women, big, tall, short, skinny I love all women etc etc, but looking for more long term etc, they didn't care how many women I slept with

Read that again; "They didn't care" ... This goes with everyone else In life In general, no one cares If you're a virgin OR slept with 1000 women, no body but yourself.

Women just want guys that know what they're doing In the bedroom, not always but most of the time. I Lost count with women I've slept with, because I just don't care and don't care about what others think anymore, I'm more looking for longterm now.

Now when It comes to knowing what you're doing In bed, doesn't have to mean you have to go around sleeping with 1000's of women It just doesn't. You could sleep with just 1 woman and know what you're doing:)

Always respect women and be honest with your Intentions, don't lie and BS around the corner:)

[curtis72]

Sept 14, 2023 18:12:36 GMT G-host said:

Is it "cool" to have been with alot of women?

It is if you think it is.

Guys who fuck loads of women generally have multiple attractive qualities or are just plainly very attractive visually. And fucking girls is widely associated as cool

[N2thevoid]

Oct 12, 2023 13:58:45 GMT G-host said:

I do think it is seriously impressive when i read about Charlie Sheen and other famous dudes who have nailed thousands.. THOUSANDS haha

There's volumes to speak on regarding perceived status and attraction.

It's how I fucked your mother (there's a joke somewhere in there).