Italian miss

[tinman]

So I had maybe 6 interactions last night which aren't really worth writing about since they were kind of -non-events'/instant rejecetions, but man, one interaction is bugging me, because I felt I was kind of 'in' with some really hot, 18 year old Italian girl. Like half my age, lol.


I'm not sure if I done something wrong, or whether other 'factors' played a role.


By 'factors' I mean: I kissed her friend a few weeks back. I'm assuming maybe her friend told her this. I don't know. I also slept with another girl that she kind of knows, although I don't know if she knows this or not. I've never spoken to this Italian girl before.


Anyway, I open the girl that I kissed a few weeks back and we talk. I then introduce myself to her Italian friend who she is with. We begin talking. We all dance together. Occasionally i'm saying stuff to her and making her laugh and start to get slightly physical.


At one point, the girl I kissed before comes over and says ''What's going on here then?!!''. and interrupts us for a while.

After a while She leaves, and i'm back with the Italian girl and we are standing on the outskirts of the dancefloor, both kind of leaning up against a wall. She's accepting my kino, and occasionally she's kind of pushing her thighs into my groin as she talks and it's looking good.

I'm guilty of not 'going for it'/making the move in some of my FR's, so this time I make sure to 'man up' and I slowly go in for the kiss, but she rejects me and says ''No. Sorry'' or something like that. I remain cool and carry on chatting and stuff.


Shortly after this her friend drags her away to dance, but within about 2 minutes, I see her kissing some really good looking dude who she met seconds before!! Grrr.....Not gonna like, this annoyed the hell out of me


All he had to do was just stand there looking pretty and she basically pounced on him! lol

I wonder if I maybe further helped his case by spiking her buying temperature for him, but then I can't really blame myself for that, because it's not as though I didn't TRY to go for the makeout. But she rejected the kiss.


I'll likely see her again as I live in a small town, but not sure how(or even if) to proceed with her.


I certainly felt at least a little bit of attraction (?), but I guess I just wasn't quite her type like the handsome dude was. Or I done something wrong, but I don't know what.


Was a bit like a dagger through the heart, though. I wish the dude had had been ugly, but he looked like a freaking model! Not fair, lol


Trying to think of possible improvements though, even though we were somewhat in isolation, maybe I could have further isolated her before going for the kiss?

Or maybe my verbals weren't good enough?


At least I showed my intent, I guess.

I'm happy that I at least 'went for it' and got my answer - feels better than them nights where you fail to attempt the escalate out of fear and are left wondering 'what if...''

[N2thevoid]

The point is you opened her,It’s inconsequential whether you get the girl or not there is always another around the corner. The significance of all this is you took action. You decided not to sit in fear and leave wondering “what if?” At the end of the day you won. Good hustle You can chalk this one up as a success.

[tinman]

Apr 8, 2018 15:35:07 GMT N2thevoid said:

The point is you opened her,It’s inconsequential whether you get the girl or not there is always another around the corner. The significance of all this is you took action. You decided not to sit in fear and leave wondering “what if?” At the end of the day you won. Good hustle You can chalk this one up as a success.

thanks, man.

Yeah, i'm glad I at least 'took action' in terms of escalating.

And I guess i'll never know exactly why she rejected my advances so I need to sttopo thinking about it.

Just would have been nice! It's rare that a girl so young is seemingly into me, and then to lose her to some handsome dude so quickly stings a little!

But as you say, i'll try t take the positives away!

Until next time!(week)

cheers

[N2thevoid]

Sometimes you do everything 'right', and you still don't get the girl.

Better to have tried than go through life looking through the rear view wondering "If only I had the courage...who knows what could have been?"

If anything these little interactions will give you a laugh down the road. It's a probability thing. Cast your net wide, take some chances, and something is bound to strike. That's life.

It's the men and women who cast their line, expecting a return, and become bitter when they don't get it (blaming often external circumstances) that never grow. That live in scarcity, and frequent reddit boards commiserating about a whole group of people.