rocky
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Oct 14, 2019 1:57:05 GMT
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Post by rocky on Oct 14, 2019 1:57:05 GMT
Sounds like you have learnt some valuable lessons Rocky. In a month or 2 you will look back and be glad shes gone. You can msake the changes and improvements needed to yourself now going forward. How
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rocky
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Oct 14, 2019 2:00:49 GMT
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Post by rocky on Oct 14, 2019 2:00:49 GMT
I feel spiritually scared. She brought me down low man and chipped away at my trust. She even said" good luck finding someone better" and I retorted with " I don't need luck" and she's " yeah,you do"
Fuck, that shit killed me. She always felt like she was the shit and belittled people especially me.
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Post by N2thevoid on Oct 14, 2019 5:29:16 GMT
Egoic attachment always begin in pain, and end in pain.
You (both) used one another to escape the pain of your lives. When the drug no longer works, things unravel quickly and the pain is exposed, only the 'panacea' the other person (the 'drug') fails you. So what once was 'love' is now replaced with pain and anger.
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Post by GFRESH2DEF on Oct 14, 2019 6:31:08 GMT
That some women are so full of themselves and only care about pleasing themselves and selfish. This chick went out to a weekend rave at the weekend of our one year anniversary. Also, to work on being needy. I would get jealous when she would go out to party and rave and it made me have trust issues. I realized I don't want a girl who still parties. I learned that looks doesn't mean shit to how being treated right means. I learned I can be real stubborn and I don't forgive easily. I learned its hard to heal while being with the person who hurt you. I learned not to place your happiness into a person, it should be from within. You can't make people change. I can't let people walk all over me and I have to communicate a lot better. A lot of the issues was due to mis understanding. your gut doesn't lie your heart does. Sucks man, I feel a hole in my life. I recently got laid off from my job , found another and got laid off again so I'm feeling shitty as a whole...I do start a new job Monday but let's see. I know you are supposed to pick yourself up when you fall but it's hard when you're this low. Relationships blow I hate to be the one to say "We told you so". But we did warn you about her. This outcome doesn't surprise me at all. I really hope that you recover from this heart break quickly. Godspeed my friend. -G
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Post by ninjabib on Oct 14, 2019 14:27:13 GMT
Sounds like you have learnt some valuable lessons Rocky. In a month or 2 you will look back and be glad shes gone. You can msake the changes and improvements needed to yourself now going forward. How You are already doing so. You have learnt all that glitters isn't gold and you are also learning for next time when and where to draw lines for yourself.
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Post by JackZero on Oct 14, 2019 16:34:32 GMT
How long are you going to wait before you contact her?
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Post by N2thevoid on Oct 14, 2019 16:58:19 GMT
So what do you think is wrong with you, OP? Scarcity mindset? Hoping to make things like they used to be again? You think you can fix her narcissism? I would say a little bit of everything. My mom passed a few years ago so I feel as if she somewhat fills in that void in a sense. But I know I can pull women it's just I'm a bit of exhausted. We recently had a fight and I almost broke up with her and she was teared up crying and I'm not going to lie I also was and we cleared a lot of things and fucked right afterwards, which was amazing. But let's see. My sister and her are best friends, so my sister is my wing women and she recently told me that she said she didn't care if she didn't have sex! I was shocked by this!? So was my sister because according to my sister she used to always want sex and now she seems to not desire it. Which is odd.. My sister's advice was she's getting comfortable and I believe so too. So I called her out on it in our recent argument. I'm learning a lot about women in this relationship. I realized looks aren't everything when a women can't treat you like a king. Don't look to a woman to treat YOU like a king. If you aren't treating YOU like a king, that's where the problem lies. If you're not going to treat yourself with dignity, respect, and conduct yourself with integrity....what on earth makes you believe others will.
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rocky
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Oct 14, 2019 18:25:35 GMT
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Post by rocky on Oct 14, 2019 18:25:35 GMT
How long are you going to wait before you contact her? I'm not. I deleted my Instagram. Haven't posted on SC which i still have her on. And I haven't changed or erased my FB status. Its just too hard. I guess I still hope that she'll come back. Idk deleting pics and all that is hard
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rocky
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Oct 14, 2019 18:28:59 GMT
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Post by rocky on Oct 14, 2019 18:28:59 GMT
I would say a little bit of everything. My mom passed a few years ago so I feel as if she somewhat fills in that void in a sense. But I know I can pull women it's just I'm a bit of exhausted. We recently had a fight and I almost broke up with her and she was teared up crying and I'm not going to lie I also was and we cleared a lot of things and fucked right afterwards, which was amazing. But let's see. My sister and her are best friends, so my sister is my wing women and she recently told me that she said she didn't care if she didn't have sex! I was shocked by this!? So was my sister because according to my sister she used to always want sex and now she seems to not desire it. Which is odd.. My sister's advice was she's getting comfortable and I believe so too. So I called her out on it in our recent argument. I'm learning a lot about women in this relationship. I realized looks aren't everything when a women can't treat you like a king. Don't look to a woman to treat YOU like a king. If you aren't treating YOU like a king, that's where the problem lies. If you're not going to treat yourself with dignity, respect, and conduct yourself with integrity....what on earth makes you believe others will. I guess I was at first and then I started sacrificing my own needs just to make her happy. Ive always been skinny and I was at 190 before I got with her. Gaining muscle and all. As soon as we got together our first month I found her talking to her ex fuck buddy and that killed me. I went all the way down to 170lbs after being with her for a year. But, you're right man I gotta treat myself like a king and keep it that way. There's a YouTube coach that always says" stay on your purpose and to not give in to females needs" I guess thats what I did wrong.
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rocky
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Gf issues
Oct 14, 2019 18:30:29 GMT
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Post by rocky on Oct 14, 2019 18:30:29 GMT
That some women are so full of themselves and only care about pleasing themselves and selfish. This chick went out to a weekend rave at the weekend of our one year anniversary. Also, to work on being needy. I would get jealous when she would go out to party and rave and it made me have trust issues. I realized I don't want a girl who still parties. I learned that looks doesn't mean shit to how being treated right means. I learned I can be real stubborn and I don't forgive easily. I learned its hard to heal while being with the person who hurt you. I learned not to place your happiness into a person, it should be from within. You can't make people change. I can't let people walk all over me and I have to communicate a lot better. A lot of the issues was due to mis understanding. your gut doesn't lie your heart does. Sucks man, I feel a hole in my life. I recently got laid off from my job , found another and got laid off again so I'm feeling shitty as a whole...I do start a new job Monday but let's see. I know you are supposed to pick yourself up when you fall but it's hard when you're this low. Relationships blow I hate to be the one to say "We told you so". But we did warn you about her. This outcome doesn't surprise me at all. I really hope that you recover from this heart break quickly. Godspeed my friend. -G Yeah, you were all right. I was blinded by hope and love. The good times were rare but so good but the bad times would eclipse the good
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rocky
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Gf issues
Oct 14, 2019 18:31:29 GMT
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Post by rocky on Oct 14, 2019 18:31:29 GMT
Should I delete her from social media? Is that being immature?
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rocky
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Oct 14, 2019 18:33:43 GMT
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Post by rocky on Oct 14, 2019 18:33:43 GMT
If she reaches out to me what do I do? If she ask for some of her stuff do I give them back?
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Post by pilgrimmeister on Oct 14, 2019 21:04:26 GMT
Delete everything, photos, messages, block all social media accounts and phone numbers, chuck everything that reminds you of her away and consign that part of your life to the dustbin and start again.
Don't even think about her reaching out or you reaching out to her. Now is the time to start from scratch on a clean slate, and spend the next 12 months concentrating on you and your personal development. When you get to a place where you have met your goals and have a high self worth, set new targets and start gaming when you are in a better place and you have no needs from anyone else.
Its a long slog but worth it. Don't go rushing in on a rebound, it should be "Me Time" for you now.
As for her stuff, stick it all in a bin liner outside, she can pick it up if she wants it.
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Post by JackZero on Oct 14, 2019 23:38:14 GMT
What do you need to make yourself feel better?
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Post by N2thevoid on Oct 15, 2019 4:10:57 GMT
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