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Post by N2thevoid on Aug 4, 2020 20:48:59 GMT
Hey numbnuts don’t forget to thank the guys on here that helped you get here😉
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Post by Heywood Jablowme on Aug 5, 2020 12:50:15 GMT
Did you call your parents and post a ring selfie?
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Post by mathers645 on Aug 5, 2020 13:54:16 GMT
As always I've continuously been very grateful for making me realize my stupidity and to get back to the game. Thanks 1 million.
She called me last night, I was out with friends so we spoke for 3 min tops (plus i dont like speaking on the phone, even with family) so said that a few of her friends, 2 couples (so 4 people) are going to a cottage on the 21th of August and if we should go. I told her, great, lets do it. I hope her friends are fun and not some nerds lol because I wanna get lit and go skinny dipping!
Anyway, I'm staying at her place tonight and then she's going to be at my place all weekend.
Are we seeing each other a little too much? Usually I would see a girl 1-2 per week max, this is nearly every day and I got other things I need to do lol
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Post by GFRESH2DEF on Aug 5, 2020 16:03:19 GMT
Okay Horay! Great, Congrats you fucked her. That's awesome!  But here is where guys start making mistakes with girls as well. They fall deep in love with the girl, and they try to make the girl his girlfriend. They can even go straight to trying to have the girl move in with him, or try to wife her up. He gets really emotionally involved into the girl (ie..oneitis), and he's not even prepared for what comes next..once the girl starts distancing herself from him (ie..she starts ghosting him). And it's too late for him to stop being needy, because he's already really invested into her emotionally. This is how guys get their hearts broken and crushed by girls. So don't fall into that trap, that guys often fall into. Separate your emotions from her and the situation, and just keep it fun..light..chill..and casual. When it ceases to be that (fun..light..chill..and casual) because things start to get toxic between the two of you..that's usually a good time to cut it, and move on. But if that fun..light..chill..and casual vibe with her, continues for weeks, and even months (and you both haven't drove each other crazy yet)..then you might have a woman on your hands that's girlfriend material (if that's what you want). If you do want to go the relationship route with her..don't make the mistake of bringing it up yourself (i made that mistake in the past, and paid for it lol)..let her bring it up herself. Then you can have that ( "So what are we?" <----Let her be the one to ask you that) boyfriend/girlfriend discussion with her, and then you can proceed with her from there. This is just a little tidbit, just to keep in mind..just in case it goes into that relationship direction. But again..for now, just keep hooking up with her. And keep it fun..light..chill..and casual. -G |
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Post by JackZero on Aug 5, 2020 16:19:04 GMT
As always I've continuously been very grateful for making me realize my stupidity and to get back to the game. Thanks 1 million. She called me last night, I was out with friends so we spoke for 3 min tops (plus i dont like speaking on the phone, even with family) so said that a few of her friends, 2 couples (so 4 people) are going to a cottage on the 21th of August and if we should go. I told her, great, lets do it. I hope her friends are fun and not some nerds lol because I wanna get lit and go skinny dipping! Anyway, I'm staying at her place tonight and then she's going to be at my place all weekend. Are we seeing each other a little too much? Usually I would see a girl 1-2 per week max, this is nearly every day and I got other things I need to do lol Remember when I asked you why you would try to make this girl a long term thing after 2 dates and never having sex with her? Your response was that you knew her for a long time. That's why I said that the dynamics of the relationship will change. The two of you, at this point, have to be in the moment. If you enjoy her company right now and she enjoys yours then continue in a way that's comfortable for you. That includes how many times per week that you are willing to see her without her becoming someone who distracts from you doing what you need to do with your own life. My opinion...the couples trip is a bit too early. It's a bit forced and most likely end up biting you in the ass.  |
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Post by mathers645 on Aug 5, 2020 17:15:02 GMT
I'm still confused as how everything is sailing so smooth right now
It went from me chasing her to her chasing me which seems to usually happen to me after sex. (so i guess it makes sense)
In the days leading up to this she was cold and seemed uncomfortable and even her text responses to meet up were very formal, like a business meeting...Even the day I came over and we went to poundtown, minutes before that when i kissed her on the cheek, she flinched, or when I grabbed her from the back and she leaned away showing resistance.......maybe hormones? or she was pissed about my 5-6 weeks on no contact?
Few hours later, I feel like I'm kind of getting smothered now (im not complaining)
I still have the hairdresser chic ive been seeing, im going to keep her around for at least a couple weeks....just in case...
Thanks for the advice, im definetely no where near to move in together, plus we both own our homes so it would be a big thing, but thats not going to happen for at least like 2 years.
I'm not rushing to be bf/gf because i like this honeymoon type stage the best in all my relationships, and i always let the girl ask "are we exclusive?" or "are we bf/gf) If its too early, I may answer that its exclusive but I often say that we are dating and we dont need a label right now... its usually the friends who start saying "your gf this... your gf that..." in front of you both, before the girl asks.
I'm super happy, very cautious though because it was a 180 degree turn.
I do have a question though, because i think shes still not over my 5-6 week no contact disappearance, if she asks, and im almost certain she will eventually, should I just pretend I didn't notice and was very busy with things?
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Post by chef89 on Aug 5, 2020 17:33:54 GMT
She was distant because you were in your head all the time. Constantly thinking and not enjoying the moment and making a move towards her. Why would she react warmly to that? Seems normal to me that she was cautious.
With regard to this 'no contact' stuff, this is where that kind of BS comes back like a boomerang. Now you have to make up some other story about how you were busy and stuff. I would just keep it vague and change the topic, and promise myself not to use those artificial tactics again. You're playing games.
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Post by Heywood Jablowme on Aug 5, 2020 18:03:59 GMT
You made the 180. Not her
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Post by pilgrimmeister on Aug 5, 2020 18:04:55 GMT
Just do not put her needs before yours. Also do not brush the hairdresser aside, keep her spinning, until the exclusivity talk is brought up by her (and not too early). Just having sex with you shouldn't be enough, she will have to do more to prove herself to you. That takes time, usually around 2 to 3 months, sometimes longer.
Just keep being chill and fun with her and let things happen naturally.
As for your last question, all you have to say is that you had other business to attend to and had to focus on that.
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Post by N2thevoid on Aug 5, 2020 20:12:10 GMT
You made the 180. Not her Yep she was actually fairly consistent the whole time. Dude got in his own way. |
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Post by mathers645 on Aug 6, 2020 14:10:16 GMT
Last night was amazing!!! I picked her up and then we hit the patio with that mutual friend/coworker(also a girl) I was talking about...If she didn't know something was up, she does know now.
The whole time she was saying how cute we look together and that we should get a room...so not sure if she told her something or what...
BUT....
The friend invited us over to her house because she got a brand new hot tub...Anyway, the friend got out at one point, and when she came back she saw us making out in the hot tub....it was awkward because she just said
"OH MYYYY HOW LONG HAS THIS BEEN GOING ON FOR"
She promised to keep it on the down low away from other coworkers and she will.
At another point when the friend got out to help her grandma inside with something, i tried to get some hot tub fucking lol, thought it would be exciting... it was hard to do, but i got it in, but 2 minutes in the friend came back, luckily she didnt see anything...or maybe she would of joined? lol
Luckily the friend was not not inquisitive, but im sure she will call her seperately and talk, chics always do that.
Anyway, we had a few drinks last night and the friend offered us her bed for the night and she slept in the couch....so we went to pound town on the friends bed which was super exciting.
This morning I dropped her off at her house, and then drove myself to mine. Shes coming over friday evening and staying until sunday night....damn thats a long time but im excited! I gotta clean the place up a bit
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Post by JackZero on Aug 6, 2020 15:17:34 GMT
... She promised to keep it on the down low away from other coworkers and she will. ... Smh |
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Post by chef89 on Aug 6, 2020 16:03:43 GMT
I hope you didn't cancel any weekend plans for her.
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Post by N2thevoid on Aug 6, 2020 17:21:08 GMT
How long before he blows it Poll
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Post by Heywood Jablowme on Aug 6, 2020 20:42:50 GMT
Shit freckles in the toilet are a nope.
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