How to be the most interesting

[paul663]

Guys, my question is how do I be more interesting than all the other guys? Is it about expressing myself more eloquently than the other guys? I want to set myself apart from the others. Reason I ask, is I want to be NUMBER ONE in the eyes of women and I won't settle for anything less. I feel like there's something that I could do, to reveal to them that I'm more witty, more clever, better than the others. I just want to know what that is. Is it about telling really fucking good DHV stories?

[JackZero]

I wish that you would have done your introduction to the forum. I'm seeing your question in the other post and looking at this one now and I'm wondering what your current experience is with women? To ask how to be more interesting than all the other guys and won't settle for less than being NUMBER ONE in the eyes of women is nothing short of a fantasy unless you are a handsome billionaire with a 10 inch prehensile penis.

[paul663]

May 9, 2021 23:56:49 GMT JackZero said:

I wish that you would have done your introduction to the forum. I'm seeing your question in the other post and looking at this one now and I'm wondering what your current experience is with women? To ask how to be more interesting than all the other guys and won't settle for less than being NUMBER ONE in the eyes of women is nothing short of a fantasy unless you are a handsome billionaire with a 10 inch prehensile penis.

Well to me being number one has more to do with the power of your personality. A strong personality. A real go-getter and not a bed-wetter. Someone who can motivate himself and motivate women too. Blow them away with the strength of your personality which includes your philsophy on life and what to do in life. What is this talk about billions and big dicks? Women want a REAL MAN not money or materials. The type of man you're talking about is the same type of chump as former president Donald Duck. If I can show myself to be a real man, I'll be better than most of those billionaires. Ain't nothing but a bunch of sugar daddy punks, the majority of the time. Anyway, I do apologize for not introducing myself. I'll write something about myself in the intro section, including the answer to that question of yours.

Lastly, I just want to let you know what I picture when I think about the proper energy with which to approach a woman:

I'm imagining a very ambitious salesman at a car lot, the one who wants to proactively walk the customer through the process. Really be his friend and at the same time get the customer to make ambitious decisions just like he does himself. They say getting a chick is like doing salesman work. Well you got to be pumped up, not excessively so, but a very enthusiastic and fun demeanor.

[JackZero]

Obviously, the billionaire line was joking to make the point of you'd have to be near perfection in order to be NUMBER ONE in the eyes of women. You're not going to be that. Anyone that tells you that you can is lying to you or is about to sell you his books and videos on how to attract any woman you want. If you are a real go-getter and not a bed-wetter, or can motivate, or blow them away with your personality and philosophy on life then you wouldn't need to be here because women would be drawn to you. However, that must not be who you are and that's okay.

I understand the motivation that you have. You want to be sure that you can get the girl before you try to get the girl. Most guys would love to be like that, but that's not reality to at least 99% of us. We have to work on the qualities that would make us attractive and masculine. What makes me attractive to women may not be the same thing that makes you attractive.

Please don't come on here being one of those guys that tell a bunch of guys that do well with women what a woman wants and at the same time asking how you can set yourself apart from other men. It strikes me as a guy that will only accept the answers that he wants to hear. Women want different things. The same woman may want a different thing tomorrow than she wants today. A girl just getting out of a relationship is going to want something than a girl who is looking for a relationship. It's not one size fits all.

[paul663]

May 10, 2021 1:03:48 GMT JackZero said:

Obviously, the billionaire line was joking to make the point of you'd have to be near perfection in order to be NUMBER ONE in the eyes of women. You're not going to be that. Anyone that tells you that you can is lying to you or is about to sell you his books and videos on how to attract any woman you want. If you are a real go-getter and not a bed-wetter, or can motivate, or blow them away with your personality and philosophy on life then you wouldn't need to be here because women would be drawn to you. However, that must not be who you are and that's okay.

I understand the motivation that you have. You want to be sure that you can get the girl before you try to get the girl. Most guys would love to be like that, but that's not reality to at least 99% of us. We have to work on the qualities that would make us attractive and masculine. What makes me attractive to women may not be the same thing that makes you attractive.

Please don't come on here being one of those guys that tell a bunch of guys that do well with women what a woman wants and at the same time asking how you can set yourself apart from other men. It strikes me as a guy that will only accept the answers that he wants to hear. Women want different things. The same woman may want a different thing tomorrow than she wants today. A girl just getting out of a relationship is going to want something than a girl who is looking for a relationship. It's not one size fits all.

Understood, thank you.

But now I have another question, what should I do if I don't know what to do next in this journey of mine? I've read many topics here at random. And they're good, but is there like a program of some sort that I should go through? Or an outline? What are your suggestsions? Should I just keep reading this forum while also going out and practicing on chicks?

[JackZero]

May 10, 2021 1:11:49 GMT paul663 said:

May 10, 2021 1:03:48 GMT JackZero said:

Obviously, the billionaire line was joking to make the point of you'd have to be near perfection in order to be NUMBER ONE in the eyes of women. You're not going to be that. Anyone that tells you that you can is lying to you or is about to sell you his books and videos on how to attract any woman you want. If you are a real go-getter and not a bed-wetter, or can motivate, or blow them away with your personality and philosophy on life then you wouldn't need to be here because women would be drawn to you. However, that must not be who you are and that's okay.

I understand the motivation that you have. You want to be sure that you can get the girl before you try to get the girl. Most guys would love to be like that, but that's not reality to at least 99% of us. We have to work on the qualities that would make us attractive and masculine. What makes me attractive to women may not be the same thing that makes you attractive.

Please don't come on here being one of those guys that tell a bunch of guys that do well with women what a woman wants and at the same time asking how you can set yourself apart from other men. It strikes me as a guy that will only accept the answers that he wants to hear. Women want different things. The same woman may want a different thing tomorrow than she wants today. A girl just getting out of a relationship is going to want something than a girl who is looking for a relationship. It's not one size fits all.

Understood, thank you.

But now I have another question, what should I do if I don't know what to do next in this journey of mine? I've read many topics here at random. And they're good, but is there like a program of some sort that I should go through? Or an outline? What are your suggestsions? Should I just keep reading this forum while also going out and practicing on chicks?

If I were to ask myself this same question when I was getting into pickup, my answer would be to go to places where I'd feel most comfortable to approach women.  For some people, that may be a bar.  Others may like the idea of street pickups.  Wherever it is that you think is best for you, get there.  Have a plan on how you'll approach, if you have a canned opener...use it.  If you want to do a situational opener...do it.  Have an end goal with an approach.  Your end goal could be getting her contact information.  It could be an instadate.  Whatever it is, lead her to that.    

[paul663]

Simple. Understood. One more question, what's the best way of nicely getting her to take you to her place instead of her coming to yours?

[N2thevoid]

May 11, 2021 6:39:01 GMT paul663 said:

Simple. Understood. One more question, what's the best way of nicely getting her to take you to her place instead of her coming to yours?

Can't you send your parents out to a movie?

[paul663]

May 11, 2021 8:50:32 GMT N2thevoid said:

May 11, 2021 6:39:01 GMT paul663 said:

Simple. Understood. One more question, what's the best way of nicely getting her to take you to her place instead of her coming to yours?

Can't you send your parents out to a movie?

 no

[pilgrimmeister]

I say this to a lot of people. If you are living at home with your folks, then bringing a girl back for a good time is very difficult. Bottom line is, women want independent and strong men and not a mummies boy who lives with mum and dad, and in the case of them inviting you to their place, that is really for them to invite you. It does happen, I have done it plenty of times, but ultimately down to them. If you create enough sexual tension and you don't invite them back, they will invite you if they live alone. Sometimes, having a hotel room is an option, as if they have kids at home, or even a boyfriend, then you have logistics.

Being interesting to women, means doing stuff with your life that is interesting. Every woman has different interests, but do stuff that gives you topics to talk about. Me, I DJ, so music talk works for me. Maybe you are a big film buff. Do you partake in a sport. Do you read. Do you travel. Do you take part in adventurous activities etc etc. You have to make yourself more interesting, before you can be interesting on a pickup interaction. A busy life also makes you less available be default, therefore, its more of a challenge for you to fit a woman into your schedule, which is a good thing. Become a challenge for them to conquer, as women love a challenge.

Best advice I was ever given was to become the best version of myself. Do to that took years of self improvement financially, health, career and in activities and hobbies which I enjoy and fulfills me as a person and enables me to have passion for the things I do. Conveying passion for something is an attractive trait. I am now into women who see me as a challenge, but also those that I see as a challenge. The rush of playing the game, push pull, tension building, until at one point, it boils over and leads to a steamy night of passion (see what I did there).

So, if you are not satisfied with your life, go and fix it until you are satisfied, as it will all aid in making approaching easier, carrying a conversation, and attracting quality women.

[N2thevoid]

Op, can you move out? If not, put the wheels in motion. As Pilgrim said above, women are drawn to independent men. If living at home is creating a logistical nightmare then that's going to affect the way you feel towards yourself, and by proxy harm your 'game'.

[oneoff]

Moving out is one option. I can actually answer the op though because it's not that hard.

But first let me get some context.

You saying you want the girl thinking about and obsessing over you when you're not around?

Or are you saying you want them wrapped up in giving you a massive amount of attention during your initial interaction? Or what are you saying exactly?

Anyway, a quick answer is investment from her.

Getting her to invest in you physically, mentally, and emotionally.

[JackZero]

How to get the girl to invite you to her place is simple. These are magic words. Please don't tell anyone.

"There's no privacy at my place."

OP, I almost hate telling you to say that after your paragraph on women wanting a REAL MAN. One of those guys that can motivate her. One of those guys that know what to do in life. How can you define what a real man is without being able to show that you have real man credibility to a woman?

I'm going to go a bit off topic here for you, OP. You haven't figured out why you want women in your life. Until you figure that out, you are going to absolutely suck with women. Up until this point, everything you say is sort of fantasy. Your talking like you want to show a girl that you are relationship material but want to avoid telling her that you aren't self-sufficient. Those two things don't match. What is it that you are hoping to get out of having a woman or multiple women in your life. Are you looking for temporary flings so you can get the invite or are you wanting to keep women around so you can impress them with your philosophies on life?

[paul663]

May 11, 2021 20:05:20 GMT oneoff said:

Moving out is one option. I can actually answer the op though because it's not that hard.

But first let me get some context.

You saying you want the girl thinking about and obsessing over you when you're not around?

Or are you saying you want them wrapped up in giving you a massive amount of attention during your initial interaction? Or what are you saying exactly?

Anyway, a quick answer is investment from her.

Getting her to invest in you physically, mentally, and emotionally.

Thanks for the reply. Actually I'd like to please hear your advice for both scenarios.

Also, can you clarify what you mean by "invest"? Is it a synonym for "chase"? And how do you get her to start investing in you?

[paul663]

May 11, 2021 20:28:56 GMT JackZero said:

How to get the girl to invite you to her place is simple. These are magic words. Please don't tell anyone.

"There's no privacy at my place."

OP, I almost hate telling you to say that after your paragraph on women wanting a REAL MAN. One of those guys that can motivate her. One of those guys that know what to do in life. How can you define what a real man is without being able to show that you have real man credibility to a woman?

I'm going to go a bit off topic here for you, OP. You haven't figured out why you want women in your life. Until you figure that out, you are going to absolutely suck with women. Up until this point, everything you say is sort of fantasy. Your talking like you want to show a girl that you are relationship material but want to avoid telling her that you aren't self-sufficient. Those two things don't match. What is it that you are hoping to get out of having a woman or multiple women in your life. Are you looking for temporary flings so you can get the invite or are you wanting to keep women around so you can impress them with your philosophies on life?

I see. That is right, because I don't live with my folks I live with 3 very bummy roomates right now. I could never allow a girl to come over because the place looks like the fucking projects, both inside and out.

Well I haven't had sex in a while so I'd take a temporary fling since it's better than nothing at this point, but ultimately I want a woman or five to keep around, keep impressing them, keep enjoying life with them. I dream of polygamy one day.

The reason why, Jack, I want women in my life is because I loved the way it made me feel, during those times when many girls adored me.